Birthing Out

Before we start with today’s illuminating post, I’d like to clarify something. I have seen on various websites comments about spirits using profanity. In fact, one in particular said that if a spirit curses, it’s evidence that he or she remains in the lower dimensions and hasn’t yet “crossed over.” There is cursing and then there is cursing. Sure, if a spirit uses profanity attached to negative intent and emotions, it’s likely that he or she remains in the lower dimensions, but if those negativities aren’t attach, that isn’t the case. Erik curses because he wants us to know it is he who speaks, and more important, he wants us to know he’s “one of us.” Approachable. Not all high and mighty. It seems to work. I just wanted to make sure everyone understands. Okay, ready to rock and roll!

Me: How can we, in our physical bodies, be more aware of our eternal nature, and is the word “death” the best we can do to describe this glorious experience?

Erik: Well, it’s the only one we have, so yeah.

Me: “Transition” I think would better. I guess it’s semantics. Is reemergence into the nonphysical a delightful experience for everyone?

Erik: No. You have to fight your own demons. You have to ask yourself what kind of demons did you create for yourself in life.

Me: So, if you believe in Hell or having to fight demons to get into Heaven, etc., you’re going to not have a very pleasant experience.

Erik: Yeah, you’re not going to have a great time!

Jamie chuckles.

Me: That’s awful! Can you expand on that, please?

Erik: Like what?

Me: Well, here’s another question that goes along with it. What’s the one thing that those who have recently transitioned want us to know and feel in those immediate moments? In other words, how can we comfort ourselves?

Erik: Talking about death, that’s the only term we have now. Transition wouldn’t be good, Mom. I like the term rebirth, because that’s exactly what it is, but that’s not the term humans use. You birth and you rebirth. It’s just done in different ways. You birth out.

Jamie giggles.

Erik: Now, what the fuck do you want me to talk about?

Jamie (to Erik, laughing): Oh, you just got lost!

Me: Ah oh! Well, let me tell you all the questions that are around this nature. What’s the one thing that those who have recently transitioned want us to know and feel in those moments that would comfort us and also, when loved ones are ready to make their transition, what can we do to help ourselves prepare for this? Let’s just start with those.

Erik: Well, that’s going to be so different for everybody.

Damn. That again.

Erik: Everybody has different needs for what they need to hear or feel to feel secure in their belief structure. So there’s not going to be one button you can push each time you cross that bridge to make everyone you leave behind feel great about it. That’s personalized.

Me: I can imagine, yeah. What about the second question? And what can they do to prepare for their own transition?

Erik: Thank you. That last one is a much better question, because I was about to start saying, you know, this shit’s not about you. You’re not the one dying. You don’t gotta prepare for shit.

I beg to differ, but…

Erik: You don’t need to be in the moment, be honest and be there, willing to give what your mom, friend, person who’s dying what they need, you know?

Me: Yeah.

Erik: That’d be pretty cool.

Jamie (chuckling): “Pretty cool”!


Jamie: He’s talking about the part where you—he’s talking kind of quick. He just lost me. (To Erik) That’s two different things, right? Yeah, he’s separating the “What can you do as a person who’s left behind to help the person transition” and “What can the person who has recently died do to help themselves transition.”

Me: Okay.

Erik: The one that’s left behind—stop talking shit. That’s what you can do to help your family member or whoever it was that died pass over. Stop talking shit. “Why did you leave me?” I know in the moment of hard grief, that shit is a valid question, but as soon as you snap out of it and you know, why don’t you let yourself, like my mom did, go look for the answers. Don’t sit in it. If you have things that are unresolved, go resolve them, because if you are unresolved with the person who died, trust me, that person has some unresolved issues with you too. They’ll want to meet and make a resolution so that everyone is happy. Ignoring it doesn’t make anybody happy.

Me: Yeah, really.

Jamie: He’s talking about what a person can do after they die.

Erik: If you don’t believe in anything—in God, in an afterlife, if you don’t have a belief structure in place, please, all I would say is ask for help. That is the key word. That is the saving grace for anything or anywhere you will find yourself in the afterlife: I need help. I would like help. Can someone help me? Any of that. You will be so, ah! You will be so fucking surprised by what shows up.

Me: Ah, good. Okay.


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Dear Reader,

The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.

As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.

Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.

I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.

Love and light,


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  • Brandi

    I think Erik’s cursing is just part of his charm. 😉 Hmmm. Birth, re-birth, and birthing out. LOL I like it.

    • cristina

      AGREE ! 😛

  • Todd Ford

    Very interesting. I subscribed to your youtube channel as you asked me to. Thank you for enlightening me with some of these topics. You guys are doing a great thing. Keep it up.

  • Janet E

    synchronicity 🙂 I was just talking with someone today about this subject; death being like birth.
    I sat with my comatose Mom for a month prior to her death. We were in her home. It was very quiet, yet with that same sense of anticipation in the air as when you are in a delivery room awaiting the arrival of the new baby. The woman is going thru the process.. you can’t experience what she is feeling.. but there for support and love. Everyone is waiting, waiting, anticipating in a circle of mutual love.
    Sitting with my mom for such a long time I eventually became aware of the other ‘beings’ in the room. Her sister, her guide and about 5 others who seemed more like angels or something. They were in that same anticipatory mode as in a delivery room; waiting for her to be born to the other side. It was the most amazing experience that I’ve ever, ever had the opportunity to experience with another human being!
    I was also at the death birth of my mom’s closest friend a few months later. She had only been waiting for me to show up to offer my support to her partner who could not handle the experience alone. As soon as I said “Don’t worry, we’ll take care of her.” She let out her breath and was gone. Easy as that! WOW!!!!
    I wish everyone knew how easy ‘death is compared with coming into this earth dimension. I think there’s a reason we come in here with a wail! LOL

  • Denise

    Dealing with death of a loved is so different when you have an understanding that it is not really death. My daughter is in Oregon and my mom is wherever she is (probably roasting marshmallows … just kidding, Mom). I speak to them about the same amount and know that at some point I will be with each of them, just in different ways.

  • TrulyTrue

    Very timely post – when “talking” with your son over the weekend, it dawned on my that I don’t think of him as “dead” – I think of him as a spirit and I’m a spirit in the Human experience – he agreed that it’s really all rhetorical and part of our vernacular – and also some very strong belief systems that many people have. After thinking about your post from yesterday, I remembered my Catholic up-bringing (yes, I am a Catholic School Survivor who hates plaid!) – we all have “everlasting” life with Christ after we die – but if we try to connect with those who have “died”, we’d be considered heretics according to The Bible – no wonder we’re such a mess down here – LOL
    Thanks for a great post!

  • lisapotter

    Makes me laugh to think that anyone can say, as if with any authority, what spirits can/can’t say, what it means, blah blah blah. We are the ones who assign meaning to words, and spirits don’t even need them! So bravo, Elisa, just keep doing the great job you always do. And I LOVE LOVE LOVE your funny asides.

  • Patrick De Haan

    Extrapolating human language into our true existence presses a physical value onto a spiritual one, the reverse of reality. – The Committee.

  • Glad you’re here for the ride, Todd.

  • Too funny! I never thought of it like that. Do I smell hypocrisy? And, yeah, plaid is very unflattering on me. Pretty bad since my great uncle was cardinal of Spain. I’ll probably be smiter.

  • MikeHulse

    Any word can be classed as profane when expressed in an aggressive or lewd manner. We only consider words of profanity as wrong as they usually have some underlying links to sexual connotations. Which for some people anything classed as sexual is either risque or taboo. Don’t forget you can’t have sexual intercourse on the other side nor have sexual feelings or attractions, so it means nothing.

    • George

      I think there was a post a while ago about how great sexual emotions on the other side were hahah

      • MikeHulse

        We may label it sexual emotions but I think it will have very little to do with what we would term as such.

  • anna

    Not unless their approved saints of the church, or ones that need approval to be saints (the church needs at least a couple of miracles for making them saintly), then by all means –we are encouraged to invoke them and ask them for intersession on our behave, with the powers that be, up above.

    • TrulyTrue

      Yep – I was referring to our family members and friends, not those who have been sanctified or beatified by any chucrh – xoxo

  • Becky Darby

    I wish so much that I was able to find a website likes this one when my Dad passed eleven years ago. He committed suicide also, and all I heard was how suicides can’t go to “heaven”. I was so distraught I stayed in bed for thirty days so depressed I couldn’t function. I realize what Elisa had to sacrifice in order to create this site. I applaud you for turning your grief into something positive. Thank you for being here everyday to lighten my day!

  • cristina

    :))))))))))))))))))))) “Erik: Now, what the fuck do you want me to talk about?”
    I wouldn’t change this Erik for another one 😛 Why would I? THIS Erik makes me laugh 😛

  • George

    Asking for help… You just gotta do it! At least to your guides… Thats how i found this blog… I sincerely asked God or someone else who hears me to show me some answers. The exact next day i typed Kryon in Google, clicked on a link, and in there was the link to CE! So glad i found it!.

  • Camillia Temple

    Oh Yeah Elisa!! Im a Very Busy Cuttie,Pie,)… and so whenever I get the chance to come here I always ALWAYS stumble is what I use to call it….now I know its FLOW…I flow onto the article that always answers the question ive either been thinking about for a week…a couple of days and in this case today….All my relative are distant so when one does pass in their Re-Birth I have no human emtions that cause resistance…..Now….My immediate Family are all alive but are in that space where I know it is inevitable….to be 36yrs old going on 37….I not only know its going to hit hard ….I always Sense Strongly it going to play a huge part in the continuing of my being…..A friend I work with is dealing with it so I has caused me to ponder this….I have peace with my family and tell them just how much I love & adore and am honoured….my mum the one who well both of us shake rattled and rolled since my birth ahahahaaa I was left alone at home with my dad for my first three-six weeks after birth…see…shacked rattled & rolled…out of my siblings ive always made it clear that I have my way & her way is hers even as a little girl lol!!! anways from the rocky and held hate over things through my healing ive have seen…Discovered & continut to discover the Majestic & honourable connection & purpose we have been to each other…The thought of her and any family member that I have made peace with & fallen deeper in love with I know im already setting up a great earthly farewell & welcome into their re-birth…I am now well aware of Re-birth that’s what I have felt for a good while now….I can only mention to very few just how exciting this life & rebith is…it tickles me so much…..thankyou & I thank Erik & myself & my guides for culminating & receiving just what I pondered/asked for….(((*)))

  • Camillia Temple

    ….BTW….Anybody who speaks of a person…or soul on the ” Flipside” about using profanity has still to learn about the basic human misinterpreting of ones ” True souls Intention” ….I Am Awake….Erik don’t Lie…Erik has A Beautiful Soul & that’s ALL that ” Matters” … for me…” By the Power of Three” a term I used today in a present moment heart sharing on my facebook status….Thankyou Powerful Three…Elisa…Erik…& Jamie….LOVE(((((*)))))…..Anybody here who digs this shit for real add me on Facebook : Camillia Temple Muah!!!!! LOve you GUYS!!!!!!

  • Julia

    Hmmm. Interesting. Apparently death doesn’t seem bad. But I read from your other celebtriy posts that some had awful pain and suffocation. I guess its all individual. Do bad we cant control how we die…

  • Nita

    how can I ask Erik a question?

    • See my last comment. Jamie has three small group channeling calls, all of which can be used to contact your loved ones. II advise you to ask Erik to come in because he helps the spirits communicate if they have a hard time, and he keeps Jamie’s filters down.

  • Nita

    Is ask Erik real??

    • It was, but I got so flooded with requests that I couldn’t keep doing it. I pay for everything blog related and refuse all monetary compensation like donations, but I just can’t. 🙁

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