Developmental Disorders, Part Two

I’m so glad to be back with my family. Bella freaked out when she saw me and I was alarmed at how much weight she had lost. She must be 2 1/2 pounds now. Rune said she doesn’t eat well when Mommy isn’t around. I’ll have to fatten her up before we leave for Norway on the 24th because I’m sure she’ll lose weight then, too. 

I really enjoyed my time with my older sister. She’s very wise and just plain cool. It’s a shame the circumstances were not ideal, but her pain is under control and she’s healing nicely. I’m hoping she’ll be ready for a visit to Houston this summer. 

Today, I’m calling out for questions for the Ask Erik column. Please submit ONE question, but don’t make it too longwinded because the magazine will scrap those that take up too much page real estate. I can only accept ten, so don’t delay. Send them to me at This service for you is absolutely free!

Also remember that tomorrow at 7 PM CT is Erik’s Hour of Enlightenment radio show. Call 619-639-4606 15 minutes prior to talk to Erik.

Here’s the last of our series on Developmental Disorders:

Erik: They’re very intuitive, but we often overstep our boundaries even if we’re their parents. We have to let them have experiences.

Me: So it’s pretty much about letting go? Is that one of the lessons? We need to let go and allow the kid to be who he is?

Kim laughs.

Erik: Absolutely.

Kim: I’m laughing because he got really close to the camera and put his nose right up to it!

Me: Oh!

Erik: Letting go and letting be.

Me: What about humility? We all expect or at least hope to have “normal” children, and when it doesn’t happen to you, then that must be a lesson in expectation and/or humility.

Erik: This is where it goes back to connecting to ego. With egocentric consciousness and awareness, children will often incarnate to people who are egocentric to teach them a lesson in humility. They’ll give them a completely new life and perspective. They might have thought that they were perfect people before, and then all of a sudden, they have a child with differences that they’re not used to, and now they have to shed that layer and understand their humble self without that ego, that “me” stuff.

Kim (Chuckling): “Me stuff.”

Me: All right. So it’s a big lesson in ego and how to be too attached to it or too ego heavy. What can we do as far as—well we can’t cure these—but what can we do for these children with developmental delays or disorders?

Erik: Mom, I think they need more of a voice and platform. Think about it. Anybody who’s developmentally delayed is a very creative thinker because they have to continually adapt. They have to a adapt to what’s different to them and how it’s different to them. They perceive differently. They may even smell or taste differently. So they become very creative thinkers. If we gave them more of a voice, can you imagine giving them the opportunity to vote or create programs that they think are more conducive to their growth? Giving them more of a voice and giving them trust is going to is going to help the whole situation and everybody involved. Since they’re creative thinkers, they’re more able to think outside the box where we wouldn’t. Not having the issues they have to deal with makes us not have to think outside the box. We understand what our norm is and what are borders are. Again, they have to continually adapt.

Me: Well, art therapy seems like it would be a great way for them to find and strengthen their voice.

Erik: That’s right, Mom. Exactly. With individuals with Down’s syndrome or autism or any other developmental “abnormalities,” let them show you themselves. Let them show you what they’re good at. Let them show you how they do things instead of making the world accommodate them. Let them show you how they can adapt.

Me: Okay.

Erik: That way, you’re contributing to their growth.

Me: Are there any other ways we can help children with developmental disorders?

Erik: Yeah, if you can bring them together and let them experience other people that are like them, that will be healing for them because in the physical state of mind they can often convince themselves that they’re the only one like this or that they’re the only one dealing with this set of issues. Bring them together or even put your child in a meet-up group. That will help them see themselves in a new light and understand themselves in a new way.

Kim: He just keeps saying, “Bring them together.”

Me: Here’s one last thought. What about equine therapy or some other kind of animal therapy? Would that help?

Kim (Laughing): I’m wondering if Erik liked animals, because he goes, “Mom, all animals are therapy.”

Me: He loved horses. He was a good horseback rider, too, ever when he was little.

He started riding when he was four.

Erik: Sure it’s good therapy because they’re the embodiment of unconditional love and acceptance. So whether it’s a cat, a dog, a talking bird or a horse, remember that these are very emotional beings, not the animals but the children. And people who are developmentally delayed are emotional beings.

We all are.

Erik: They rely on their emotions to help them understand their world, and they can connect very easily with animals that way. So even when they feel that they can’t communicate or express themselves to people, they can still feel that mutual acceptance from an animal. Any kind of animal will be conducive to their healing. It would produce a very healing environment whether you have a cat or a dog or a guinea pig for your child.

Me: That sound great. Maybe not goldfish.

Erik: It takes the touch, too, Mom.

Me: It takes the touch. Right. I remember when Erik was little, he found a tiny minnow that had jumped off onto the dock, and he carried that around with him for hours, calling it, “My little pet.” It was dead, you know, but…

Kim laughs.

Me: He walked around with that thing for several hours.

Kim: Aw, that’s so silly but sweet.

Me: All right, I love you, Erik. I love you, Kim. Thank you for this.

Kim: Love you back.

Erik: I love you, Mom.

Me: Bye, everybody. Thank you for watching.


Me: Oh, Kim, do you want to say anything about upcoming events?

Kim: Sure, I sure can. As a lot of you guys know, we have Chicago coming up here in just a few days, actually.

It went really well, by the way. Many changed lives and new, lifelong friendships.

Kim: Sedona is going to be in October.

I can’t wait to hike to the vortex!

Kim: I know some of you guys have questions about the dates. It’s the 19th through the 22nd. We’ll see you there. We’re going to do a group hike and hopefully a group meditation, too, on Cathedral Rock. It’s a very easy spot to get to. So check out the ticket sales at my website, kimbabcock,net. You can also go to and for more information. Don’t forget to tune in weekly for our radio show on for Erik’s Hour of Enlightenment.

Me: Yes, and you will see that on the title pages that follow as well as the tour dates. All right, bye a second time!

Kim: Bye-bye.

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