Erik Meets Michael and Kevin

I’ve learned since Erik’s death that many bereaved parents seek solace from those who have suffered a similar loss. I am no exception to that rule.  Bittersweet as it is, I’ve had the honor of meeting two lovely women. One lost her son while he was driving drunk. The other lost her bipolar son to a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head.  We have been meeting for dinner each month to share our grief, our words of comfort and our tales of when our sons have contacted us. Rebecca, the mother of the bipolar son, asked me to pose a question to Erik, through psychic medium Kim, of course. Here is the transcription of that part of the session. Note that I have concealed all but the first names for the purposes of privacy.

I’ve been meeting each month with two other women who have also lost adult or teenage children. We plan to meet tonight, and one of them has a question about her deceased son, Michael XXXXX XXXXX. He died October 14, 2007 at the age of twenty. She wants to know if he’s all right.

Kim responds, “What’s his mom’s name? What does she go by?”

‘Rebecca XXXXX.’

“And if you were to guess her age?”

‘I don’t know, maybe mid to upper forties?’ I reply.

Kim listens for a moment and then begins to laugh. She says, “Michael, Michael, interesting. Erik says he and Michael are buds, but he calls him Mike.”

“Michael is incredibly happy,” says Erik.

I wasn’t expecting them to have met, so I respond in disbelief, ‘Why did you meet up with Michael? You never knew him before!’

“Because you guys have met up,” Erik answers.


“You see, it’s like I’m going to follow you. So you and Rebecca are connecting the thread between you and Mike, and then that connects me and him. Now Mike and me are buddies. We go snowboarding together. I’m teaching him, and he’s really good!”

I find it amusing that the whole snowboarding thing keeps coming up every session. It’s so typical of Erik to become fixated on new hobbies to the point that his conversations are heavily dominated by the subject. He used to pour his entire heart and soul enthusiastically into a new endeavor as he apparently continues to do in the spirit world.

“Okay, let’s see why Michael passed,” Kim continues. “Now I’m going to talk directly to Michael, and of course Erik stays here with us. Hmm, Michael is having some issues communicating. Erik, can you talk for him? Is it because he doesn’t want to talk to me?” She sounds almost hurt!

“Oh no,” Erik says shaking his head back and forth vigorously. “No, no, no!”

“Well he has a hard time speaking, communicating? Why is that? How can that be?  Here on the earthly plane, we might have a throat issue or laryngitis or something, but we don’t have that in the spirit world.” After a brief pause, she has a “Eureka moment” “Oh, I see! I got it! I got it!” Then she chuckles in obvious amusement. “Erik is saying ‘Helloooooo, Mike wants to save his energy so he’ll be able to communicate with his mom.’” Struggling to continue while giggling, Kim says, “Okay, okay, I understand. I gotcha. So Erik, what was the circumstance behind Michael’s passing? Has he discussed it with…”

“Oh yeah, Hell yeah!” He interrupts.

“So what was that situation? Your mom is asking.” After listening for a while, Kim says, “Oh, Erik says it was not his destiny to do it. But he’s also very happy to be back in Heaven and really enjoying his time here. He has a girlfriend!”

Just like a guy to set the priorities straight.

Kim continues with, “They’re showing her to me. She’s really pretty. She has blue eyes, long copper red hair. Wow, she also committed suicide. You know, Michael has a suggestion for you, Elisa. It’s not for his mom. It’s for you. It’s to write a screenplay about a bunch of teenagers who also commit suicide and what their lives are like in Heaven. What an amazing, am…”

‘He’ll help me write it; I know he’s a great writer.’ I interject.

“It’s Michael’s idea,” she adds. “Erik says to tell his mother that he loves her and that he’s always hugging her. She has been asking him to be more tangible. He hears her and he’s working on it. He also wants her to know he WAS the bird! He’s not only going to manifest physically, but he’s also going to telepathically say, ‘Hey Mom, that’s me!’ Because there are lots of birds out there and there are lots of rainbows, so Rebecca will know it’s him because she’ll hear telepathically in her head, ‘Mom, it’s me.’”

I’m a little thrown off by the confirmation of Michael visiting his mother in the form of a bird. (See a previous entry, “Little Black Bird.”) After digesting the amazing miracle that just occurred, I respond, ‘Okay. Good! All right. Very good.

I continue with my next question: ‘One of Michelle’s former elementary school friends, Kevin XXXXXXXX, committed suicide in the last week or two.’

“Oh my!” Kim reacts in alarm.

‘It apparently was an overdose right after he got out of prison. I’ve known him since he was in grade school because he came over to the house to play all the time,’ I add.

“He absolutely positively did not try to commit suicide,” Erik interjects.

‘He did not try?’ I ask. The assumption was that Kevin had committed suicide intentionally.

“Absolutely not. It was like he was taking more and more and more and more to take him to a place he wanted to be to get high,” Erik explains.

I go on. ‘Is he with you, Erik? We asked you to look out for him and show him the ropes.’

“No, man, he is NOT! Kevin is really unhappy, really upset, really pissed off. He did not mean to kill himself, and he’s just so pissed off that you can’t even talk to him. I tried, but Kevin’s attitude is like “Fuck you, man! Get away from me! Fuck you! Fuck you and you and you ad you!  Fuck you, fuck everybody here!”

I can picture Kevin reacting this way, particularly considering what he stood to lose. I also remember he use to pepper his language with the “f word” a lot when he got older. Kim can’t possibly be comfortable spewing these from her Midwest-raised mouth.

‘Uh huh, I bet. He left behind a baby daughter and wife,’ I say.

“Ohhh!” Kim says in horror.

“He’s here, but as soon as Kevin pulls his head out of his ass, I’m going to be right there to show him the ropes,” Erik promises.

It’s comforting to know that, although I no longer have my sweet boy to hold in my arms, he’s there in the spirit world to comfort others in need.

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  • Hello,

    I am so glad you are able to meet with other moms who have lost children as well. And it’s so much better to meet face to face with someone who has been through what you have.

    And I think it’s great that Erik is helping so many people. Both on this side and in the spirit world. I think it’s also very cool that Erik is helping others to learn how to appear to those they want to be seen by. And it does sound like he is really enjoying snow boarding. It does sound like alot of fun.

    I am very sorry to hear Kevin is having such a hard time with being in spirit. Although if I had died unexpected like that as well, I probably would be upset as well. But that is the issue with drugs. Those who do them, want to reach that high and stay there. But over time it’s takes more and more to reach that high. But the body can only take so much. I know I would be very upset to accidently OD and leave my wife and child behind. I would want to be on the earthly plane so bad in that situation. Like the saying goes “you don’t realize what you have till it’s gone”. It’s so true.

    Sometimes it’s the emotional pain that is the worst. You just want it to go away and get some peace. The issue with using drugs and other substances to try to cover the pain, is that you keep needing more and more. And most times, it does take something serious to shake your world and realize you can’t keep doing it that way.

    And I think it would be a wonderful idea to make the play or movie about that those who have passed due to suicide and how they are doing in spirit. I know one of the beliefs out there is that those who commit suicide will be sent to hell to burn forever. And that’s just not true. And even Erik is proof to that. Making someone suffer and burn because life was just too much doesn’t make sence to me. Never did. But I do think it is benifitial to have the person see what their actions have done. As Erik had to watch you and the family learn of what he did. As painful as it is, I think it helps the person to know what pain is created by the act. How it effects everyone around you. At the same time, I understand that for many, life is just too painful for them. And I think all in all, it would help the public to understand more about suicide and how things work in spirit once the act is done. Because I am sure parents would really like to know, and be sure that thier children are alright. That they are getting help to heal and learn from their recent life on earth. That they are not in pain or sent to hell. I know I would be right there in line to see it, and would tell others I know to see it and spread the word. You have my support if you choose to make the play or movie. I can discuss this forever and a day, so I will stop here. Thanks for sharing this with everyone. Be well.


  • This post and response has been very helpful to me. My 29 year old son, Barney, died of what “they” said was an accidental overdose due to the combined effects of….”. A part of me wonders if it was intentional, but Stanley’s post helps me understand it in a different way. Barney was a snowboarder (a picture of him mid air is my desktop picture) because that is how I want to imagine him feeling…how he did at that moment in time. I can imagine that Barney is snowboarding over there too. But I also see him as Kevin and hope he is not feeling that way too. This is a very healing site, tho the waves of grief are keeping me in the undertow.

  • Erik and Michael are snowboarding buddies over there so I bet Barney joined them too. All three of them are probably creating gorgeous mountains to carve up. When I catch up with the questions, I’ll ask how Barney is doing, okay? Love you. Elisa

  • That would be great. I forget what info you need to tell Erik to contact Barney…he was born 9-7-80 in Montana…I am 59 years old…

    • All I need is your age, what city you live in, and the age and city of death for Barney. Thanks. I hope you don’t lose patience with me. It’s a long list but, as I said earlier, I’m trying to get extra sessions. You might also want to sign up for a free session with Kim. Go to

  • My age is 59. I live in Margate, FL but am living in Kalispell, MT for the summer. Barney was 29 years old and died in Kalispell. I will be patient and also sign up for a free session with Kim. Thanks, Elisa

    • Thanks for the extra information, Shelley. I’ve got it all down. Love, Elisa

  • Shawna

    Interesting…I’ve always wondered about that. If spirits on the other side that had passed hooked up as friends. My best friend Cherilyn her best friend that I never met Candi passed about a year before Pat and then Cher was really close and there for me when Pat died and I wondered if Candi and Pat hung out because of us always hanging out. Now I think that yes they do know each other. Pretty cool. I think it would be cool if you did a movie like that. People do need to know what it is like for them on the other side and it would help them deal with it. I do think it might cause a little bit of a rucous because some wouldn’t agree and think it would be saying that suicide is all right but really we all commit suicide because on a soul level we all decide when we are ready to go to the other side.
    Also, hope that Kevin will stop it with the anger and that Erik is able to help him. It sounds like he really needs it and the extra help. Just wondering I guess he would also be getting therapy even though his was accidental? Since Erik talks about being in therapy because that’s also something I have wondered. If that in a way is what some would call pergatory? What determines if one is to get therapy on the other side? Just wondering.
    Love & Light,
    P.S. I have registered but I’m not getting the e-mail updates. Will you please see if I’m on the list? Thanks

    • Whoa, Shawna, that’s true, I guess we do all commit suicide. I can’t explain why, but for some reason, that made me feel better about Erik’s death. Hmm. I think everyone who needs therapy gets it: violent deaths, murders, suicides, anyone disoriented because of conflicts with the belief system they had on Earth, etc. No one stays in Limbo or Purgatory as some sort of punishment though, from what I understand. Oh, and I subscribed you to email updates but you’ll have to verify via an email sent to you by feedburner. If you don’t see it, check your spam folder. 🙂

  • Jan Drake Bakke

    That is interesting that kevin is so unhappy. I mean I thought they feel good as soon as they get there? Interesting!!!xx

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