First Hug

Let me start by saying my writing abilities have suffered greatly since losing Erik. I’m sure they’ll come back, but simple decisions like paper or plastic are hard enough. You can only imagine how challenging the construction of a decent sentence might be! But bear with me, please.

Soon after the funeral, we decided to seek the help of a well known psychic/medium who also happens to be a dear friend. She had just undergone major heart surgery plagued by complications, so we had to wait for an agonizingly long time as she recovered. To make matters worse, it seemed I was the only member of the family who had not been graced with Erik’s presence. Why? No grief could possibly as profound and heart wrenching as that of a mother who has lost a child, so I suspected that my grief was a heavy cloak draping my mind as well as my heart. Therefore, all of Erik’s attempts to communicate with me may have been blocked. I would just have to be patient.

Over a month later, my prayers were answered in the form of a dream. Erik appeared before me in my kitchen. He had a sweet, loving smile on his face. I folded him into my arms and held him for a long time. This was different that any other dream I’ve ever experienced. I could smell his face. I could feel my lips grazing his cheek. I could feel him in my arms. It was unquestionably real; nothing like the sensations in a typical dream.

They say the soul’s consciousness travels to other planes during sleep. In fact, we can visit one another in our dreams here on Earth. This actually happened to me long ago. I had a dream that my daughter, Michelle, and I were on the bow of a huge ship tossed around in heavy seas like a toy boat. For some strange reason, hundreds of tiny turtles were crawling on the deck and, while struggling to hang on, Michelle and I fought to keep them from slipping overboard through the rails. When I woke up, my first thoughts were how uncharacteristically vivid this dream was compared to my usual ones. As I made breakfast for the kids that morning, Michelle said, “Mom, I had the weirdest dream,” and she described the same story, turtles, boat and all!

That said, I believe those on the “other side” visit us in our dreams and we sometimes visit them. Early on, this is the only way a newly discarnate soul can communicate with us, because they haven’t learned to focus and extend their energy enough to appear before us in the physical. Stay tuned for more, as Erik increases his abilities.

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  • I am so happy to have found your blog.I enjoy reading your experiences with your son very much. My father passed away or crossed over I should say 17 years ago after a hard fought battle against cancer. He was just 50. I adored him. I still miss him dearly. After he passed away I prayed very hard to receive some type of sign that he was ok. The answer I was looking for came to me in a very vivid dream I had one night. I dreamt that I was sitting at an old wooden bench at a railroad station. It was empty and I could see the details of the sunshine and the dust particles streaming in thru the window panes. All of the sudden the room was full of men in black suits, facing every which way, packing the whole room, when all of the sudden I felt someone’s hand on my shoulder and I looked up. It was my Dad, he was smiling at me, he looked so peaceful and it was as he was communicating with me telepathically, he let me know he was all right. It must of happened in a matter of seconds because what woke me up was me feeling someone’s hand on my shoulder. I fell back asleep immediately which I find strange because I was not spooked by it.I treasure this dream.
    Since then I have unfortunately lost a best friend and a cousin, both committed suicide. I dreamt about my friend and in my dream I saw her very happy, looking beautiful, eating Haagen-Dazs Vanilla Almond, her favorite in front of a closeby 7-11. The place looked other wordly but with the familiar facade of the store.
    I am the mom of a 16-year old boy and I can’t imagine the pain you and your family must’ve gone thru at the loss of your son. Thanks again for sharing!

    • What you describe are dreams that are typical of contact with your loved ones. They are vivid and unforgettable. I’m SOOOO happy you received these messages from them. That means you have a gift for being receptive and of course that you are very loved. Give your son a big hug for me. xoxox Elisa

  • Thanks for your quick response! Your words brought tears to my eyes. Thank you! 🙂

  • Mary

    My parents both died within a few months of one another when I was 29 yers old. I had a vivid dream before my dad died: my mom, dad an I were on a train which stopped and my dad got off while my mom and I kept going. In the dream I turned to my mom confused as to why dad had gotten off without us. A few days later I related the dream to my cousin and told her that I believed it was a premonition of my dad’s death. My dad left the earth a few months later, followed shortly after by mom; I haven’t reached my stop yet! I truly believe in the power of dreams as a connection to our loved ones. Since their deaths I have had several joyous meetings with them.

    Thanks for sharing your encouraing words.

    • Ooo, Mary, wait until you read about last night’s dream! Ask Erik to bring your parents to you in a dream, too!

  • Mary

    Elisa, thank you! I am a musician, amd have written and recorded few songs about nighttime visitations from a dear friend who passed away several years ago; I would be happy to send them to you. Jeannie Barnes is a friend of mine and told me to visit your blog. Looking forward to reading more.

    • Oh, hell yeah, Mary!!! Send ’em!!!I just love, love, love Jeannie!

  • Mary

    I love love love her too!

  • Aile

    I’m just starting in on your blog, and so far it is very interesting. It speaks to me, as someone who is 20, and someone who is aware of their journey home, but doesn’t know the paths to take. When I was small, me and my brother had several dreams that were the same. I want to connect more with people, and myself, spiritually.

    • You’re in the right place, Sweetie. Keep moving through the blog because there’s a lot about dreams, projecting consciousness into various states to meet loved ones like you did with your brother, etc. Plus, there’s lot’s of scientific proof scattered throughout. How did you find us?

      • Devin

        Hello I’ve just started following this interesting blog. A few days ago I was on Karen reading some threads and came upon a thread about Karen channeling from the other side and there was a link to this site. I’m a firm believer in the other side. I’m 22 now; when I was 18 I went on a spiritual retreat, and during meditation, I believe I visited my grandmother who had died in 1971 at 45. I’ve always felt her spirit with me. On this blog I also found a post about Lady Diana being channeled. I was 7 years old when she passed but from then on and now I’ve always felt connected to her due to our similarities. In this weird way, I feel that she is guiding me. But my logic thinking comes into place because how could Diana guide me, if she didn’t even know me in life?! LOL I was a 7 year old boy living in NY at the time of her death. Anyway I think this site is really beautiful and I will be following it. Thank you Ms. Elisa for creating it.

  • Devin, you’d be surprised by how many connections we can have to “celebrities.” In terms of the other side, they’re no different than any other soul. Like all discarnate souls, they can split themselves and interact with limitless numbers of incarnate souls here on earth or elsewhere as guides or otherwise. Some of us may even have past life connections with them. That said, I’m sure Lady Di gave you a nudge or two. 🙂

    • Devin246

      That’s pretty amazing! Thank you for responding to me. I am slowly reading the blog entries I am up to March 2010. I have to go back and write a list of some of the books you suggested in those past entries. In the past I bought a few books on the after life and spirit guides written by Sylvia Brown but now I want to try different authors. Have you read or heard of “Ask Your Guides”, by Sonia Choquette?

  • Stephanie

    I’ve recently had a dream of two of my grandparents that have passed away about 6-7 years ago. The dream left me feeling sad and missing them even more, but to have the chance to see their smiling faces once again, made all the difference in the world. Now I’m just waiting to see my other grandfather in a dream and to see his smile too.

    • I’m going to pray that you do, and I’ll ask Erik to help bring him to you in your sleep too. He’s pretty good about doing that.

      • Stephanie

        Thank you! He was the first of my grandparents to die and one of the hardest deaths I’ve had to deal with.

      • God how well I know the depths of grief you travel Sweetie.

  • Robyn Norris Matthis

    I found your blog a few days ago. My mind is such a jumble that I don’t know if I’ve commented or not. In the past 6 months, I’ve lost my husband that I just reconciled with last summer, and my youngest daughter to murder 4 months later. My daughter has been gone for two months now, my husband 6. 15 months before my husband died from Lung Cancer we lost my little 4 1/2 year old grandson to CAH and neglect while he was in foster care. It was his mom that was murdered 2 months ago. I think I’ve been cursed. Nothing but death around me for almost 2 years. Now that I’ve found your blog about Erik, I’m holding on to a strand of hope that perhaps it will give me understanding…..give me the opportunity to get a handle on what I’m going thru. I wish you all the success in the world with the book, the blog, and most of all, continueing to speak with Erik as much as you possibly can. While my daughter stuck very, very close to me in the days following her death, my darling husband has made no contact at all, and it damn near kills me. I don’t know how many prayers I’ve prayed…I don’t know how many times I’ve looked up to the night sky begging for some sort of sign that he’s still near, that his love for me still lives. So far, nothing. I haven’t been able to dream since he passed over. I mean, I know I MUST be dreaming, but between the sedatives to get me to sleep, and the deep grief, I have to wonder if that’s keeping any messages from coming thru. You are all in my prayers that more and more info comes from Erik to comfort you as well as his family, friends, and subscribers of this site. God bless!!!

  • I’m so sorry for all of your tragedies. You must be a very strong woman. Now some deceased have a harder time than others communicating with loved ones. I was the last among my friends and family to get any sort of sign from Erik. He explains that everything, including us, is energy and when we are in grief we vibrated at a very low frequency on the electromagnetic spectrum. That’s why we use words like depressed, down, low. So some spirits have a hard time lowering their frequency to meet ours. Try to think joyous thoughts when you try to talk to him. I’ll also see if Erik can help him. If all this doesn’t work go to Jamie Butler’s site and sign up for one of her small group channeling calls. Erik can bring him across so Jamie can translate what he says and Erik can help him communicate during the call. Go to and click on Personal Growth. As you read through the archives you’ll see that Erik teaches us ways to connect with those we’ve lost. Remember that they aren’t gone. They just don’t happen to have a body. Hope that helps.

    • Karen

      I am so intrigued by all of this! First I want to say how sorry I am for your loss, Elisa. I can’t imagine the loss of one of my children. As mothers, we can surely feel the pain for one another. I found your blog last night (Sept. 30, 2014). I actually graduated from Westchester High School in 1979 (grew up in Wilchester I, on Butterfly) and was checking out the “memories” part of the alumni website. I check them out often, as I have lost some friends over the years. I came across the 2009 “logged memory” of Erik….graduated in 2007? Wow….so young, I thought. Anyway, I have been reading your blogs and can’t help thinking what a very strong woman you are. When I was 21 I lost my first husband (motorcycle accident), but he has never come to me in even a dream. I just recently lost my Grandma (May) and my dad (damn cancer) in June. Boy, would I LOVE to see them in a dream and/or have them communicate with me somehow. My maternal Grandmother took her own life back when my Mother was in her early twenties. My Grandmother dealt with depression and loneliness. My mother tells me that out of all her daughters, I am the one that has always had a curiosity about Treva (my Grandmother). Thank you for your writings. I am enjoying them so much! God Bless you and yours! You are a terrific momma! <3

  • Linda

    My son was killed 4 months ago in a car accident. I have been hoping to get some signs or messages from him. I did think I felt his presence a couple of times but thought it could have been my imagination.

    • Karen

      Linda~ I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. I can only imagine how hard it has been for you. God Bless you and yours!

  • Liz SF

    I just noticed that there are “orbs” floating down this page. Has that always been there? Also, I have a suspicion that Erik turned on my electric skillet the other night just after I had been listening to one of the Youtube recordings with Jamie. So much fun!

  • lettyStarWorld025


  • Thanks so much for this <3 I had unwittingly fallen in love with a friend, but he barely tolerated me after realizing it. (He didn't feel the same way.) He died in an accident in 2008, and after a couple years, finally appeared in a "real" dream just as you described. I didn't get to hug him or anything, but I think he felt sorry for me and how much I felt I had lost. It was really kind of him, actually. Although it was about 6 years ago, I still wish I could see him in another dream. I feel like he must be sighing right now! Ha ha! Sorry, Dave. I will probably never forget you. Thank you for your blog and the validation for all the connections I have experienced.

  • Clare Kuehn

    Why aren’t the blog posts listed or linked, so we can go from one to the other in order? I can’t find the list.

    • Have you tried clicking on the “archives” tab on the homepage?

  • 🙂

  • FranciskaB

    Hi Elisa, I am at the end of your book and decided to join your and Erik’s blog. You’re so fortunate to have this amazing connection. I’m fascinated with all the information and I love the way his personality comes through. My son Matthew passed this June. He was 25. I have always believed in the afterlife because when I was in my teens, my uncle’s mother had passed in the middle of the night and had come to me to let me know that she was ok and happy to be with her brother. I woke up the next morning to find out that she had passed away that night. She was wearing a long lavender dress during her visit. The next day at the funeral my uncle asked if we wanted to view her in private, since it’s not our tradition to have a wake. She was wearing the same dress I saw her in the night before. From that moment on, my entire life changed and my belief system had been piqued! I have read so much about life after life and have become so much more spiritual. We are jewish but I have brought up my 3 kids believing more in spirituality and that everyone should be respected for what they believe. My oldest Matthew, was the most out of the 3, more like me in his desire to know more. He also knew how much I believed in connecting with loved ones, astrology and all forms things that helped to guide me. I honestly thought he would have connected with me some how. I was hoping for a visit from him. I have had a few signs that I truly believe are from him but I’m just confused and desperate to connect as you have. I’m trying to meditate but I’m having a really hard time. I would love to ask Erik to help Matthew connect with me. I don’t know how. I’ve tried visualizing Erik and asking for his help but have had nothing. I’m also interested in finding someone who would be a spiritual translator. It’s was 6months this Dec 12th. I’m hoping you can help me. My daughter who is 21 is now also very interested in connecting however my son who is 23 now has no faith in believing. I just need to for us to have that connection to Matthew. Any help or information would be much appreciated!!! Wishing you Peace and Love XO Franciska

    • Gosh, your loss is so fresh, sweetie. I’d love to help. I like all the mediums on my links list. You’ll find that under the Favorites tab on the top of the homepage. I think it’s crucial that you talk to Matthew. This weeks radio show is about how to communicate with our loved ones without a medium, so listen to that if you can. I posted information about it today and will tomorrow as well. Which of the books did you read? I found Erik’s book to be the most healing. (My Life After Death: A Memoir from Heaven.”

      • FranciskaB

        Thank You for getting back to me so fast! I was just going to order My Life after Death: A memoir from Heaven. I will look under favorites as well to see about the mediums. I will deff try to listen to the radio show. There’s so much information I’d like to follow I’m a bit overwhelmed. Is the radio show broadcast in NY? or is it on this blog as well? Sorry I’ve never looked at blogs and I’m trying to figure it all out.. I’ve been trying to follow the blog and hopping to get more enlightenment on life after life and communications. If you happen to speak with Erik soon please ask him (from one mom to another) to have Matthew call his mom:) I will keep you posted once I am able to connect with one of the mediums..Much Thanks Again, please let me know about the radio show. XO FB

      • All you have to do is click the listen button on the righthand sidebar (you might have to scroll down) or call in. The instructions are posted today.

  • Carly Austin

    I lost my husband 8 months ago & I feel lost myself now. I’m raising 2 young children on my own now, & on the outside I seem like a rockstar single mom holding her own… on the inside I’m breaking.
    I felt signs from my husband right after he died, but only fI r a couple months & then they immediately stopped… and now nothing. It hurts so much to feel like not only is he gone, but I no longer feel his spirit or receive any of the little signs he used to send me. It feels like he left me twice now… once when he died & again when he stopped showing himself to me.

    I miss him more than anything in this world.

    • Oh honey, I know that pain all too well. Maybe you can talk to him through one of the mediums I use. It can be so powerfully healing and you can get so much validation/confirmation. You can still have a relationship with him. He’s the same as he was only without a body and in a parallel dimension so you don’t have to let him “rest in peace.”

      • Carly A

        Thank u so much. In the beginning I received so many signs from him… to the point where it frightened some of my family members… which seemed odd to me since it brought me so much peace & joy when I felt him near. And he definitely used to make himself known… which I loved. But I just don’t understand why he hasn’t been as obvious as he once was. It seems crazy to an outsider, but anyone who has lost a very close loved one knows exactly what we are talking about.

        Can I ask you if you ever noticed a long break where u didn’t hear from your son in a while? I just don’t understand. Besides not understanding why I’m left here to raise our 2 precious children on my own, & the pain of feeling abandoned by the 1 person who completely understood me… I am now feeling confused as to why he left me yet again? It seemed 3 months after his death all his signs & making himself known completely & utterly stopped… I felt he was gone at that moment… his spirit had left us.

        Thank you so much for taking time to talk, I’m so very sorry about your son, your blog is so beautiful & I feel your love for him in every single word. Hugs

      • They do seem to curtail their signs once they feel like you know they still exist. Maybe he wants you to talk to him through a medium.

    • Read through the archives because there are many posts that might help you including those describing how you can communicate with him.

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