I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. I went camping with my husband at the place 20 minutes from our home. It was nice to get away with him. Our lives are a bit crazy, so those moments are rare other than our 30 year tradition of Wednesday date night (which is only canceled when death or dismemberment is involved. 

I heard from blog member, Tammie Phillips, that a lot of news has come out about the San Bernardino shooting that confirms what the shooters said in our afterlife interview with them. For example, they didn’t buy their guns–at least not most of them. Instead, a friend gave them to them. Also, there were plans to attack other places. Pretty cool We’ll see if information surfaces on the uncle. Let me know if any other confirmations come out on the news because I might miss them!

Me: All right, this is not along the same lines, but it’s not enough to have in one session. Someone asked, “What is enlightenment?”

Jamie looks at Erik, listens, then laughs.

Jamie: I think he’s singing. La la la la. It’s really funny.

Me: Oh no! Like choir music.

Jamie: Yeah, and it’s off-pitch. I don’t think he’s purposely making it off-pitch.

Me: Maybe, but probably not.

Erik: She knows me well.

Me: Oh yeah. We got you on YouTube, singing.

Erik: That was pretty good damn singing, man. I went all out.

Me: Yeah, it was pretty good. It was pretty good.

Erik: Enlightenment. Enlightenment is the personal definition of—

(Long pause as Jamie listens)

Jamie: Yeah, from the human standpoint.

Erik: From the human standpoint, it’s the personal definition of becoming more heart centered and less human centered. That’s enlightenment. The energetic quality, the vibration around you heightens, therefore your perception of life looks through this heightened awareness, and your definitions change. Your need to judge or to define lightens up because you’re heart cantered.

Me: Good. Well why can’t we do that with being head centered? Why can’t we learn not to judge by using our head? Why is the heart so much better at doing that?

Erik: You can’t do it with your head.

Jamie tries to make a trumpet sound through her curled fingers.

Jamie: I can’t do it. He’s making a sound.

Me (chuckling): Okay.

Jamie: It’s kind of cool, like a trumpet.

Erik: It’s because the whole gig about being human is to be emotionally centered. The head is supposed to serve the heart, but we jumped off that train a few centuries ago and made the head the leader, so… But you can go into other life forms where it’s all heady, Mom.

Me: Oh yeah?

Erik: That’s their center alignment.

Me: On Earth?

Erik: Oh hell, no. No, no. Other places.

Me: Oh, okay. Interesting. So, why is it that the heart is so much better than the head at doing that, at losing your judgmental thoughts and all that?

Erik: Because the heart can identify what the need really is, and when you fulfill your need, you create balance. You create that definition of love that you’re looking for. The head is more hardwired to survive, to identify and analyze but not really following through to providing for the need. The need is basically going to be an emotional need. When we get past basics like food, shelter, water, things like that, the rest of it is a need for security. The head would say, “Well, fucking give them money!” but that might not be their definition of security. If we were to come into the heart space, giving the person a hug or a listening ear might fulfill that person’s need for security.

Me: Interesting.

Jamie: That is interesting.

Me: Yep. So you think our being judgmental is part of our survival instinct? Judging others?

Erik: Yes, I think it is part of survival.

Me: Why?

Erik: Look at where we came from. We had to do risk management and assess: “Who’s going to be the stronger, the more aggressive, the more protective? We look at physical traits. You know, our head is hardwired for that, for survival, but we’ve gotten to a place, society has, that we don’t need more than half the survival techniques that our brain thinks we need.

Me: Yeah.

Erik: That’s because our culture has created less disease (but has created new diseases that we totally don’t fucking need,) but less disease, more abundance of food, things of that nature. And we’re looking at our culture in America.

Me: Right.

Erik: We’re not really comparable to any other culture.

Me: Yeah.

Erik: I just want to make it clear because we still have places where they need food.

Me: Oh, sure.

Erik: And they have diseases and things like that. If everyone in the world came from a heart-centered place, all that shit would be done by now.

Me: Mm. Wow.

Erik: But, you know, we’re in survival mode now.

Me: So we have to judge, “Oh, that guy has a lot of muscle, so he can protect our pack” or “Oh, that person’s scrawny, so…” Is it that sort of thing?

Erik: It’s that kind of thing, yeah.

Me: Okay. All right.

Erik: And being smart enough to identify poisons, medicinal elements and being smart enough to analyze the actions of a person before they follow through so you can give a judgment of trust.

Me: Okay. So judgment on intellect, trust, common sense. I can see how that would work, but what about the judgment of people’s looks, though? What does that have to do with survival?

Jamie laughs and makes the timeout sign.

Jamie: Time out!

She laughs hard.

Me: Poor Jamie. Your day’s not going to be the same.

Jamie: It’s not. I’m still stuck on the last session where he cracked me up so bad.

Erik: So when we go for looks, coming from a male viewpoint, it’s seen as, “Do I want—

Jamie: I don’t know what word you want. You’re saying, “replicate,” but I think you mean, “reproduce.”

Erik: Do I want to reproduce with her? Is that going to work with my gene pool? There’s a visual cue for survival: “She looks healthy. She has this. She has that, therefore I’m attracted to her because I know my children will survive because I’m making better people.” When we look at someone who’s frail or ill and things of that nature, that influences the head so they don’t love that person because if you end up having babies with them, they’re probably going to be frail and die and not produce and be strong either. So there’s that kind of hardwiring as well, but we don’t need that as much anymore.

Me: Well, what about people who, you know it’s not health related, but they, by society’s standards, are ugly or somebody who’s fat? They can produce perfectly healthy progeny.

Erik: Yes, but by the terms of culture, we logically have that belief system that this image is better than that image, and if you go to the “lesser valued” image for whatever reason, crooked teeth, brown eyes, big people, whatever you’re defining in your head, I think it’s ultimately ridiculous, but if you’re going for what’s considered the lesser valued, then you can be seen, in your culture, as below par, and therefore not as successful in your rank. That’s because you’re not meeting your average or above needs. It’s total, fucking logic bullshit, but it’s still in there.

Me: And if you’re of “lesser value,” you get the last piece of antelope after the kill.

Erik: Yes. Yes.

Me: Okay. All right, this is cool. Next session, we’re going to talk about aliens! People always want to know more and more about aliens. You up to it?

Erik: Up to it? Yes!

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