Good news, guys! In January, I’m going to start writing an “Ask Erik” column for a magazine. I’d like to start the first one so if you’d like your question answered, please email them to me at emedhus@gmail.com. Examples of questions:
- Ask about your spiritual mission.
- Ask what other life most influences the current one.
- Ask about career issues.
- Ask about relationship issues.
- Ask about health issues.
- Ask any general question about death, the afterlife, the life of a spirit, the human experience, etc.
- Ask what you’re here to teach or learn.
- Almost anything is okay, but no validation questions. This is not about testing the medium.
Note: this is an update. I’ve received 100s of questions now and can’t take any more so I’ve stopped accepting further emailed questions. Don’t lose heart, though, because this will be a monthly column. I just ask that if your questions are chosen for the first publication, please let others have a turn at the next. Thanks!
Enjoy Part Two of this series. Notice that I added the tail end of the last part so the segue would be easier.
Me: Some people get stuck, I think, because they design some sort of spiritual contract so that they have some sort of spiritual mission, and they’ve fallen away from that. They forget what they came here to do.
Erik: Spiritual stuckness.
Me: Spiritual stuckness. There we go.
Erik: Yeah, they want to do something different, but everything in their life is saying that they can’t. They just want to give up on things. They don’t understand why they’re giving up on things. It’s because, like my mom said, you got this spiritual contract floating out there—whether it’s to help baby elephants in Africa, or, I don’t know, brush oil off of ducks in Vancouver. Who knows?
Jamie (smiling): It’s an animal day, apparently.
Me: I guess so!
Erik: You’re not following through with it because you didn’t know it was a possibility. You fell so far away from it. Meditation, doing things that bring joy to your life, laughter—
(Pause)
Jamie (To Erik): That’s the same thing. Giggling.
We both chuckle.
Jamie: He’s just like saying different words for laughter.
Me: So, maybe watching a stand up comedy routine?
Erik: Yes! And then when you get into that heightened, laughter, joyful place, sit down and just say, “Who do I really want to be when I grow up?” The answers in those moments guide you closer to what your contracts are.
Me: Okay. Is there any other way to figure out what your spiritual mission, uh, what you designed for yourself?
Erik: Meditation. Calming the head.
Me: That’s so hard.
(Pause)
Jamie (laughing): Skip that joke.
Me: Uh oh.
Jamie: Yes.
Me: Oh god.
It must be raunchy.
Erik: Yes, meditation is difficult.
Jamie: We’ll use that word instead of the other one.
Erik: It’s difficult because you’re getting into a space where you’re saying, “I’m going to be honest with myself. I’m going to show myself some things that I don’t even approve of about myself, and I’m going to tell myself that it’s okay, and I’m going to listen and see what pops up.” It’s not so much that our head is running away with itself with words. We can discipline that. We can learn how to ride a bike; we can learn to tell our thoughts to go in a certain direction. We’re not out of control inside of our head. We’re really not.
Me: No.
Erik: And meditation is not about being quiet. It’s about being aware of yourself and in the moment with yourself.
Me: It’s more about observation.
Erik: Yeah, like the journal in 3rd person.
Me: Yeah.
Erik: If you suck at meditation, try the journal in 3rd person.
Me: That’s right. You’ve talked a lot about observation vs. evaluation. Observation is very powerful if you remove all evaluation from it. Is that right?
Erik: Yes. Yes, yes, yes. What’s great about a journal is you can go back and correct your evaluations and change them.
Me: That’s true. Can you do hypnotherapy, what they call, “between lives regression” and find out, when you were in spirit, what your whole game plan was?
Erik: Yeah, hypnotherapy is wonderful. It’s like the deep trance meditation.
Me: Ah, okay.
Erik: It’s really helpful.
Me: All right, so—
Erik: You know what we need to do, Mom? We need to collect a list of hypnotherapists we really like in different states.
Me: I know. I don’t know how to do that. I’d want to try them all out.
Jamie: That’s true. I would, too.
Me: Yeah, because so many of them might be bad.
Jamie: There’s a certification.
Me: I think there is. I think there’s a Michael Newton between lives list of therapists. I haven’t looked in so long. I’ve researched in Houston, and I can’t find anybody. All right, so in a nutshell, can you give those people who are stuck your message? What do they do?
Erik: In a nutshell, if you’re assessing and observing your situation, and you find it’s environmental, just fucking shut up because it’s just an excuse.
Jamie laughs and shakes her head.
I chuckle.
Jamie: I’m sorry. He didn’t deliver it with laughter. I did.
Me (laughing): Oh, okay. But he did it with love. I know there’s some love in there.
Jamie: Yes! Ultimate love.
Erik: Somebody’s gotta give tough love in this whole game of things. We’re here looking for answers, right?
Me: Yeah!
Erik: Screw the coddling and this, (pretending to be holding and petting a child) “Aw, little baby. Oh, you came in last place? Here’s a trophy.”
Jamie laughs hard.
Me: Oh god.
Erik: Come on! There’s something really valuable about being in last place. There’s something valuable in being 7th and 4th and 1st place. It doesn’t mean you’re better or less than. It’s the quality of the experience. Going back to it. Advice. If you’re observing and it’s environmental, fuck that shit. You’re making up excuses. Change your game plan. That will get you out of your stuckness. If it’s not environmental, and it’s yourself, then immediately do one of two things: Go have a laughter party and then, in the moment of joy, ask yourself who you want to be when you grow up. And really take that shit seriously. Or if you’re one of those happy drunks, go have 2-3 drinks and then ask who you want to be when you grow up. Then write that shit down, and really look at it. Take it seriously.
Me: Or mushrooms!
Kidding, of course.
Jamie laughs.
Me: I’m sure he’s going to bring that up eventually.
Erik: I like marijuana better.
Jamie giggles.
Erik: So after the laughter fit, the other thing I’d do is the journal thing in 3rd person. Observe and document yourself as you walk through life. Then you’re going to see, “Oh, she made herself go to work even though she didn’t want to and didn’t dig the people she was around.” Uh, ding, ding, ding! Hello? You don’t fucking like your job or the people you’re working with? Change it! That will get you unstuck. Then you can start looking at the things you can control and can change. It might not be overnight. It might take 6 months. It might take one year, but as soon as you get on the path to making changes for yourself, all of a sudden you’re in motion again and you’re making steps.
Jamie mimics a person walking upstairs with her two first fingers.
Me: On the right stairs.
Erik: On the right stairs. Yes. Yes. That would be my three-step ultimate advice. Beyond that, take it where you need to go. If you need external help, then find hypnotherapy, find a therapist, find somebody to help you role play it out.
Me: Like a life coach.
Erik: Yes.
Me: A life coach would be very good for this.
Erik: Absolutely.
Me: That’s awesome. So, people, find your stairs and climb them. Climb the right stairs!
Erik: CLIMB!
Jamie laughs.
Me: Two at a time!
Erik: Climb or I’ll bring you rotten fish or rotten sock smells.
Me: God, you bring the worst.
Erik: It’s the best, putting them in the fridge. I did that to a few people the other day. As soon as they opened up their fridge, it smelled like rotten (gasping noise here.)
Me: Then they clean out their stuff.
Erik: They didn’t want to eat anything, either.
I chuckle.
Jamie: That’s terrible, Erik!
Me: That’s awful! You’re just so nasty, boy! All right, well thank you so much, you two. Erik, I love you.
Erik: Bye, everybody. I love you. Prank you later.
Me: Oh, I’m sure you will. Bye!
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