Many of you found the blog because the grief you were feeling. Here, Erik gives more insight for you.
Me: So, Erik, do you have any suggestions for other parents on how to contact or channel their deceased children and how to deal with the grief of what will never be, the grief of a lost future, lost dreams?
Erik: No. No. To answer your question, I’m open to suggestions, but I’ve sort of discovered that what I’m going to do best is to communicate with other spirits and try to nudge them to more tangibly communicate with their loved ones back on Earth. Mom, that’s gonna be up to you to do. You’ve got the intelligence and also the enlightenment that I don’t have. I can’t advise you there, but I think that by writing the blog and writing the book you will give solace and comfort where there is none. You will share hope where it has been lost, a camaraderie that will replace an empty existence—camaraderie meaning you understand what the other parents have gone through and how important it is to allow them to grieve the way that they will. Mom, I think you’ll reach more people if you tell them to mourn the way they need to without listening to friends and family members who “advise” them.
Me: Oh yes, I know. You’re exactly right, Erik. I’ve read so many grief books and they all agree with that advice. The best one can do is lean into the grief to move through it, but they need to do so at their own pace and in their own way.
Erik: Oh and Mom, you know what you have to include on the blog? Mom! Mom, a lot of people that will try to advise you are either people who have never had a kid or who have never had a child die! You have to write about that in the blog and then in the book, because it’ll make people chuckle not because they think it’s funny but because they can relate to it.
Me: Well it’s hard for people to even be around those who grieve much less talk to them. Most people are so uncomfortable about subjects like death and grief and suicide. I know this from my personal experience. After the well-wishers from the funeral left, I lost a lot of friends. Part of that is because I became such a recluse, but part of it is also because such things make people squirm.
I don’t know why I’m compelled to post this photograph of Erik. Maybe he’s nudging me to do it. This is the day he got his motorcross bike. We still have it.
Here’s a message from our own, Betty Daniel. These ebooks are free, fun ready and short.
FREE NOVELS: Starring FICTITIOUS versions of ERIK and ELISA. Just email me at ejdaniel@q.com, and the novels will be emailed to you in PDF format. (That is a Q in my email like in QUICK, which is how fast I send them to you.) There are now 5 novels with ERIK being his usual outrageous spirit-self. Read them in order as there are characters, which reoccur.
Written by E.J. Daniel with help from Erik.
If you have already read some of the novels, just request the ones you want now:
Book 1: SECOND CHANCES;
Book 2: JUST SAYIN’;
Book 3: THE TRUTH ISN’T OUT THERE;
Book 4: THE GREAT SCHEME OF THINGS;
Book 5: REMAINS TO BE SEEN
Book 6: MAKE BELIEVE
FREE NOVELS: Starring FICTITIOUS versions of ERIK and ELISA. Just email me at ejdaniel@q.com, and the novels will be emailed to you in PDF format. (That is a Q in my email like in QUICK, which is how fast I send them to you.) There are now 5 novels with ERIK being his usual outrageous spirit-self. Read them in order as there are characters, which reoccur.
Written by E.J. Daniel with help from Erik.
If you have already read some of the novels, just request the ones you want now:
Book 1: SECOND CHANCES;
Book 2: JUST SAYIN’;
Book 3: THE TRUTH ISN’T OUT THERE;
Book 4: THE GREAT SCHEME OF THINGS;
Book 5: REMAINS TO BE SEEN
Book 6: MAKE BELIEVE
