Oh my god, guys! I just had my first (of many) sessions with Robert, and I was blown away. The first part is mostly an introduction: His life, how he met Erik, how their relationship grew and what it’s like now. Here’s an interesting fact that I got from two spirit communicators, including Jamie: In many past lives, Robert was Erik’s teacher. Poor Robert.
Me: Why are some people able to stand more stress than others?
Like my husband. The rock. Nothing fazes him, not even me.
Erik: That’s from training. They’ve trained themselves to feed off of the adrenaline, feed off of what chemical changes the body makes when they’re under stress, so when there’s no stress around, they feel lethargic, out of touch, lazy, useless, hopeless.
Me: Yeah, some people really do thrive on it, on stress. It makes them feel alive.
Erik: Yeah, that’s fucked up.
For those of you who don’t already know, my husband races motorcycles for fun. I’m talking about 200 mph, knee dragging the ground type racing. Thank god he’s padded from head to toe, because I was looking at the suit he used last race season, and clearly he has been a human hockey puck more than once. Gulp. Anyway, this fits with what Erik is saying.
Me: I know. Now, how does it affect our body? Maybe you can go through all the bodies: emotional, spiritual, physical, mental.
Erik: Mm. Stress affects the four bodies. Mental—
Jamie (to Erik): Mm. Slow down.
Erik: In the mental body, stress attacks the ability to focus. We pretty much talked about this when we were talking about stress before. Staying in the future, it puts you in the possibilities rather than in the now.
Me: Mm hm.
Erik: So, it fights with the mind’s willingness to stay centered, and it triggers the mind—the energy speeds up to trigger the mind to think ahead and be ahead, because obviously if you’re in the now, it’s too late.
Me: Okay.
Erik: —which is such bullshit!
Jamie and I giggle.
Jamie: Such bullshit.
Erik: So, emotion.
Me: Right.
Erik: Stress wreaks havoc on the emotional body, because, the same that it does with the mind, it revs it up to be prepared. It won’t let you feel what you are actually going through in the now. It’ll mask it. It covers it up with layers of energy that’s been created by the head for these multiple possibilities that could be coming that are putting stressors on you.
Me: Hm.
Me: Or even if you, say, know what you’re outcome is going to be, and you’re stressed out about it, and it hasn’t happened, like let’s say you were busted for something, and you know your ass is going to jail, and they told you on the 5th they’re coming to get your fucking ass.
Jamie laughs.
Erik: And so you know you’re nervous, and you’re stressed out about the 5th, cuz when it comes, there you have it. Well, your head is thinking about how it’s going to play out, how’s this person going to look. Are they going to be mean to you; are you going to be safe; are you going to like it—
Huh?
Erik: —is this going to be horrible? It’s going through the past, “I regret doing that. Why did I do that? Why did I make the mistake?” But it’s never once letting you stay in the now. So, even though you know what you’re outcome is supposedly going to be, there are so many variables that are the mystery and those create the stress.
Me: Hm. Very interesting.
Erik: The heart. All of a sudden the emotional body will not let you feel what you’re going through naturally. It’ll cover it with all of these layers of energy that your mind is creating, because you’re trying to prep when really what your heart should be doing is staying completely open, emotionally honest, so that whatever situation comes your way, their way, you can be readily available for it and be able to handle it.
Me: Well, you said, “prep” but at first you said, “Yeah, you need to be prepared,” but now you’re talking about preparation in a negative way. How should we be prepared?
Erik: If I say prepared in a positive way, I mean that you sit down and look at the plausible outcomes, and you think of maybe three ways of how you can handle each one. Then, you let it go and go back to being in the now.
That’s the hard part. Letting go of things has never been my strong suit, except maybe my sanity, but I blame my kids for that, in part.
Me: What about the negative way? Are you prepared for a disaster that might not even happen?
Erik: I didn’t think we’d be into the disaster thing, but, yes, similar to that.
Me: I guess expectation would be a better word. You expect the worst to happen.
(Pause)
Me: Maybe?
Erik: Expectation really sucks, because if you’re expecting it, you’re almost setting it up to be that way.
Me: Yeah. If you put yourself in that place of expecting, you’ll always be expecting. Law of Attraction 101.
Erik: Yeah. You gotta remove expectation. I don’t mind that you prepare yourself; I just don’t want you to get stuck in one of those avenues of possibilities.
Me: Ah!
Erik: I want you to come back into the present, to the now, to being centered.
Me: Right.
Erik: The negative part is that most people will worry and stress and freak out about what’s going to happen, and they’re trying to prepare for it, but they won’t fucking come out of that state of mind so they constantly stress about it.
Me: Mm. I know what that feels like. So, if it has affected our bodies, how can we reverse the effects?
Erik: Well, we didn’t finish going through the bodies, Mom.
Me: Oh, okay!
Erik: So with the head and the heart being all fucked up, the body can’t naturally be balanced, because all four roommates aren’t on the same page.
Me: Mm hm.
Erik: Head, heart, body, soul. So, the body will start to compensate, because it’s in this high stress moment. The mind is revving up the emotions and the body to respond to things that aren’t even happening. So the heart and the body are already in responsive mode. It’s already releasing hormones and chemicals, tightening the muscles, collecting lactic acid and all kinds of fucking crazy shit.
Me: When did you get to be a biologist, Erik?
Erik: Thank you, thank you. I’ll be taking autographs later.
I guess next he’ll be talking about the Krebs cycle.
Me (chuckling): Professor Erik.
Jamie laughs.
Erik: I can’t even pretend that that wasn’t for real. But you wanted to know chemically what the body does. That’s exactly what it does, and if you stay in a high stress situation all the time and your adrenaline is up, you can blow that shit out. Then all of a sudden when you get back to what’s really neutral, you feel like it’s the bottom of the fucking ocean. You’re used to your adrenals firing off for no fucking reason at all just because your mind is going on some goddamn journey.
Me: Okay. Mine is always on some kind of journey.
Without a sextant or compass, might I add.
Erik: And we sit around, and we wonder—
Jamie bursts out laughing.
Jamie: His voice just squeaked! I don’t think I can imitate that!
Erik: We sit around and wonder why (this is when his voice crescendos to a high girlie pitch) fucking meditation doesn’t work!
Jamie (still laughing): It just went up really high!
Erik: It’s the same thing. Meditation is the focus of the mind. Stressors are actually a focus of the mind, but it’s all fucking made up. It’s not in the now. Emotions can truly react in the now; the body only can truly react in the now, but the mind? Man it just doesn’t understand time at all.
Me: That totally makes sense. So, we can reverse the effects with meditation?
Erik: Yes.
Me: Anything else? Is that the biggest one?
Erik: That’s the hugest one. It’s state of mind, and if you can’t figure out how to reach that state of mind, look at what’s under the most stress in the body. Then find a massage therapist. Find a physician that you really trust. Find a holistic physician that you really trust. Maybe get some herbal supplements that will support you and your body in finding, you know, ground zero again.
Me: Yeah. Interesting. So, there are a lot of options. That’s good. This blog member says, “Stress is known to be one of the biggest silent killers, and more illnesses can be attributed to it, but why now? Does our environment have a major impact on stress? Our surroundings?” I don’t know what he means by, “why no?.”
Erik: Yes, and I totally understand the other one, Mom, cuz now they’re talking about, “Oh, cancer. It’s actually related to forms of stress.”
Me: Mm hm.
Erik: Stressors in the body. Migraines, they come from stress.
Me: Okay.
Erik: And so now, all of a sudden, if we boil everything down, it’s back to stress. I think that we’re coming out with that information now to help people find a more enlightening way of life. The truest answer in alleviating stress is meditation. So, this is a great excuse for all these New Age centers to become more modern, more respected, and that’s why we’re finding out that yoga works. It kind of puts the mind in the now, connects it to the body, allows you to understand what you’re feeling in the present.
Me: It makes all those four roommates behave themselves.
Erik: Yes! It puts them all on the same page! That’s what Americans are mostly missing.
Me: Yeah.
Erik: We’re signing up for all this huge fucking external world that’s collapsing, and we’re not acknowledging and honoring the internal world.
Me: Yeah, we want those four roommates to sit in a circle in the living room and sign Kum-ba-yah.
Jamie: He was talking about Kum-ba-yah, too!
Me: Oh, my god!
Jamie: He was like, Kum-ba-yah! (She sings it.)
Me: One playing a guitar, one playing a little tambourine. I like that idea. Okay, Anything else on stress?
Erik: Nah. I’m good.
