Over the last several month, we’ve had a lot of new members join our Channeling Erik family joining. I’d like to welcome you, you know who you are! Thank you for coming along with us on this exciting journey. May you enjoy the spiritual growth as much as we are. I urge you to start from the beginning of the blog to get as much out of it as possible. Not doing so will rob you of a great deal of valuable information. Now let’s finish off with our two-part series of being in a rut, as so many of us are.
Erik: If people are whining and moaning about being stuck, it’s a verbal manifestation of an emotional disconnect. You need to pay attention to that if you’re whining. Take yourself off of autopilot, and start maintaining a sense of awareness so you can guide yourself to understanding who you are and how you are. That means you always need to ask questions because if you don’t ask questions, then you’ll never become aware of the how and the why. Even when you’re satisfied, you should always ask questions. Always. The questions need to be asked in a way that’s self-directed like, “How is this making me feel?” or “Why do I feel this way?”
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Erik: When some people are stuck, they’re happy-go-lucky about it. It’s like they’re in a slow-moving whirlpool, and they do the same fucking thing over and over. Usually, they need to get out of their environment, whether it’s to get away from their job, whether it’s to get away from their house, whether it’s to move away from family—just get out of the environment where those ruts are. It’s those ruts that are what’s holding them in that whirlpool pattern. Of course everyone has their own unique circumstance and path and stuff, but, a lot of times, the frustration people have over that stuck feeling means they’re about to enter a new chapter in their life.
Me: Ah, okay.
Erik: And if they’re totally afraid to move, they need to take two weeks away from their environment. Take a class. Go on a vacation that’s rooted in nature. If you’re working in a safe little cubicle, go to Africa and help build irrigation systems, whatever. Going to the opposite extreme will wake you up. So do something that’s completely out of your usual routine, or your character or your comfort zone. The best medicine is sometimes to get out of your own shit to really see what things look like. Hypnotherapy can help you discover yourself and your direction, too. You’re finding it; you’re getting it, so you own it for yourself.
Me: What if they try all this and still stay stuck?
Erik: Those people can ask questions all day, but they’re never open to hearing the answers, or they never take them seriously. If that’s the case, they need to get off their ass and change their environment in at least a small way. That doesn’t necessarily mean moving to another city or state or whatever. A lot of people don’t have the ability to do that, but they can get out of the house, walk down the street, go to the park nearby and connect to nature in some way. It’s important to allow yourself to enjoy it, though. If you don’t allow yourself to enjoy something, that might be a way that you’re indirectly asking a question.
Me: You mean like the question, “Do I deserve to feel joy?”
Erik: It might be, “Why don’t I feel?” “Why do I always feel sad?” The answer might be, “Because I’m not allowing myself to feel joy.” So, by doing some sort of action like changing your environment, it helps you rip off those blinders. Wake up and pay attention! Paying attention requires that you have an awareness. You have to be aware.
Me: That takes paying attention to your inner environment. For me, it takes a lot of focus.
Erik: It’s so frustrating, Mom. In the beginning, when I crossed over, I started recognizing very quickly that I wanted to be a guide for other people, and one of the biggest lessons that I needed to learn was to let go of my frustration about not getting a person to change just because I said something about it. I finally learned that you just gotta let people be who they are. This is something humans ought to understand, too. I figured out when they’re open to what they need to hear, eventually, they’ll come around. The bottom line is it’s about getting them to expand their boundaries and their perspective. So let’s put all of this into a list of steps people can take. It’s not in any particular numbers. Don’t get hung up on the fucking numbers because you might think that number one is the best thing, but really it has the least impact. I’m just building up to the good shit.
Me (chuckling): Okay.
Erik: Number one. Reach out and engage with your environment. See where you are. Don’t put any value on it. Just see where you are without judgment so you can discover yourself and figure out the direction you want to take. You can discuss it with your friends. You can look at yourself at work. You can figure out how you define yourself. You go out there, and you ask, and you listen to everyone. It’s not about you defending. It’s not about judging. You want to listen to people’s advice. I’m not saying to implement or use it. Just hear it. Number two. Let some time pass. This is not a “Save yourself now” exercise.
Me: Not a hundred-yard dash.
Erik: Right. Let some time pass because if you’re building on something you just heard from somebody else, you’re going to use it subconsciously without knowing that those are their words and not your own. Number three: Write out your dreams, your goals, how you would define yourself. Look at your personality. If you have a hard time with words, use pictures. Put pictures down that represent who you are in your environment. Now when I say, ‘who you are,’ I’m talking about all four of your roommates: the emotional body, the physical body, the mental body and the spiritual body or your soul. I don’t want you to define how they should behave. Just look at who they are in their natural place. Number four. Let some more time pass. If people have a hard time figuring out how much time is “time,” it’s when they’ve stopped thinking about it so much. That’s when dream states are done working on it; the subconscious is done mulling it over; and the conscious mind can put it aside. What I mean by “not thinking about it” is not thinking about it on a daily basis. This is just a way of leaving some air in between so that the next place that you step is not wet paint. It’s dry. (Shouting) Air it out! Number five. Have a come to “blank” conversation.
Me: Well what’s wrong with saying, “Come to Jesus” conversation?
Erik: You can insert the person you believe in. Draw a line and write, “Circle the person of your belief: a) Jesus, b) God, c) Krishna, d) Mohammed, e) Moses, f) Buddha,” or whoever.
Me: Or “g) all of the above” and “h) none of the above.”
Erik laughs.
Erik: What that means is lay everything out. Lay out everything your environment reflected on you and what you reflected upon yourself. Then find someone, hopefully a new face, not an old friend, not a mother, not a father, but, let’s say a life coach or a great listener, who’ll support you to understand the information, not tell you what the information means. Oh god, we don’t need that shit anymore!
Me: Yeah. Another external compass!
Erik: Thank you. This is someone who can take what you say and host your inner journey in an outside conversation. They’re not going to bring their shit to the table. It’s not about them. They have no agenda. It’s not going to affect their world. So they’re coming in very empty and being of service to you. This may be the first time you’ve had this experience where somebody is in your presence and has no working agenda on your ass at all. That’s a really awesome feeling. Then you get to banter. You get to throw shit against the wall and see if it sticks. You get to discuss yourself in the ways you like or don’t like. Eventually, you’ll start to see your platform for change. You’ll no longer be an untethered boat. You’ll have cut that rope so you can go to the other shore. In your situation, Mom, where you’re stuck in your journey to find peace, you decided to busy yourself with the chaos and the care of others as a way to fulfill yourself.
Me: Mm hmm!
Erik: It became your “thing.” You don’t even know what the other thing looked like or how it needed you because your environment never led you down that path. If you’re not aware of it, you’re not going to make a conscious decision to go there.
Me: Yeah, I probably snapped the rope just to get away from my parents and my painful childhood. Is that right?
Erik: Yes, but this is the part where it’s a platform for change. It wasn’t that you were lost. You untethered yourself to have an opportunity for change. You just never went for the answer because it wasn’t in your knowledge base, and you didn’t have the instincts to know where to go, and, emotionally, you weren’t reaching out for something different. But you knew somewhere that you couldn’t stay where you were. That’s like Higher Self doing that shit to you!
Me: Right. Well some people can’t afford a life coach. In fact, most people can’t. What do they do?
Erik: If they don’t have the money to see a life coach, I’d personally like to see them fight and struggle and ask for the money to do it.
Me: You can always sell some stuff, I guess.
Erik: Yeah, and I’m not saying you need this shit for the rest of your life. I’m saying invest at least 3 months into it. When you get out of this hole, this darkness, this “stuckness,” you’ll be able to create financial stability. If, for some reason, you can not, not, not do this, you have to have the strength of two people, which means you have to step out of the box. You are both the observer and the observed, the client and the life coach. You can learn a lot about yourself through one of those personality tests like the Briggs Myers one or enneagrams. You can get these things for free on the Internet. This way you can look at how your personality style works and how it doesn’t. Sit with these two things first and see what you can work through on your own, but the bottom line here is being able to be conscious and to make choices consciously that relate to your sole happiness. S-O-L-E, not S-O-U-L. Singular.
Me: Yeah.
Witty repartee, as usual.
