Remember in the Jesus interview how Erik told Jesus to show everyone how cool he was, and Jesus changed into a t-shirt and jeans? If I ever publish a book on the celebrity interviews, one blog member said it should be entitled, “Jesus Wears T-Shirts and More Stories From the Other Side.” I love it! Also, Patrick and I talked about co-authoring the book since Erik fetches celebrities for him to channel, too. It’ll probably have to be a self-pub thing, maybe an e-Book, because I doubt any publisher would pick it up.
I actually meant to publish this on 2/15 but obviously forgot to click on “publish” so I found it in the drafts folder. The announcements at the end are a tad outdated, but I kept them in just in case.
The subject below applies to so many of us. I don’t know of anyone who hasn’t felt “stuck” at one point in their life.
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Me: Erik, what advice do you have for people who are stuck in their lives?
Erik: Get off your ass!
Robert and I laugh.
Robert (to Erik): No, no. Be serious, Erik!
Erik: Well, I gotta lighten the mood.
Me: Yeah! Let those F-bombs and curse words fly!
Erik: The reason you’re stuck is that you’re still attached to something that no longer serves you. It’s not doing you any good anymore.
Robert: He gives me this visual of a person who has handcuffed himself to a corpse.
Gross.
Erik: You’re dragging that corpse around. It feels a lot heavier to walk around, because that fucking corpse is stuck to your arm.
Me: Plus, it stinks!
Erik: Yeah, it starts to rot. Then its stagnation can become your stagnation. You need to figure out the things in your life that are holding you in place. For some people in the blog, it’s a sense of sorrow. I’ll be blunt. In fact, for a lot of people in the blog who are stuck, it has to do with their sense of sorrow. That sorrow can come in many different forms. For some people, that sorrow is rooted in grief.
Me: Mm hm.
Erik: For some it’s rooted to a feeling of not fitting in, so they feel separate from everything else. For some people, that sorrow is rooted in feeling like they’re victims, and I gotta say this—If you’re a victim, you’re also a victimizer.
Me: Interesting. How does that work?
Erik: Well, here’s how it works. If you’ve been victimized, and you’ve labeled yourself as being the victim, ultimately, everything has two sides. Think of everything like a coin. A coin has two sides, so if you’re a victim, you’ve put yourself on the victim side of the coin, and the other side of the victim coin is the victimizer. The reason the victimizer is the same as the victim is because you’re also victimizing yourself by allowing yourself to surrender your powers to someone or something else or you’re advocating that role as being the driver of your ship. You’re being mean to yourself. You might deny yourself something that you know is going to bring you happiness. It could be a relationship; it could be food; it could be sex; it could be anything, right?
Me: Right.
Erik: You’re victimizing yourself now! And here’s another way it might play out. It doesn’t always have to be inward; it can be outward, too. If you’re a victim, and you feel you’ve been slighted or something, and you’re angry about it, you might end up taking out that anger on someone else. So, you, by living as a victim, are victimizing someone else through your anger.
Me: Plus, the whining and complaining and the moaning and the groaning doesn’t help. People usually don’t like that, and it can be a big burden when a victim imposes their excessive needs on you.
Erik: I didn’t always particularly care for that in the beginning, but I’m starting to understand that that’s a necessary process. If people are whining and moaning, it’s a verbal manifestation of an emotional disconnect. You need to pay attention to that if you’re whining. Take yourself off of autopilot, and start maintaining a sense of awareness, so you can be able to guide yourself to understanding who you are and how you are. That means you always need to ask questions, because if you don’t ask questions, then you’ll never become aware of the how and why. Even when you’re satisfied, you should always ask questions. Always. The questions need to be directed in a way that’s self-directed. They need to ask, “How is this making me feel?” or “Why do I feel this way.”
Me: So, it’s a matter of using your inner compass.
Erik: Yes.
Me: So, recognizing your victimhood and addressing that, helping yourself get over that mode—what else can help you get unstuck? What other advice so you have for people who are stuck?
Erik: For some people, they’re so stuck, they can ask questions all day, but they’re never open to hearing the answers, or they never take them seriously. If that’s the case, you need to get off your ass and change your environment in some way. That doesn’t necessarily mean move to another city or state or whatever. A lot of people, especially the people on the blog, don’t have the ability to do that, but you can get up and change your environment. Get out of the house, walk down the street, go to the park nearby, and connect to nature in some way. Take your dog or your cat or your kids, husband, wife, go out to eat and allow yourself to enjoy it. If you don’t allow yourself to enjoy something, that might be a way that you’re indirectly asking a question.
Me: You mean like the question, “Do I deserve to feel joy?”
Erik: It might be, “Why don’t I feel?” “Why do I always feel sad?” The answer might be, “Because I’m not allowing myself to feel joy.” So, by doing some sort of action like changing your environment, you end up learning that if you’re paying attention! Paying attention requires that you have an awareness. You have to be aware.
Me: That takes paying attention to your inner environment.
Erik: It’s so frustrating, Mom. In the beginning, when I crossed over, I started recognizing very quickly that I wanted to be a guide for other people, and one of the biggest lessons that I needed to learn was to let go of my frustration about not getting a person to change just because I said something about it. I finally learned that you just gotta let people be who they are. This is something humans ought to understand, too. I figured out when they’re open to what they need to hear, eventually, they’ll come around.
Me: Erik, it seems like you behave yourself more with Robert than with Jamie, especially with the curse words. Is that because you like to tease Jamie?
Erik: That’s because Robert doesn’t mind cursing and Jamie does.
Robert (laughing) Jamie, I apologize. (He laughs even harder and has to compose himself.) Sometimes, Erik and I will talk during the sessions you’ve had with Jamie, and sometimes I’ll put him up to it, getting him to tell her. I see why Jamie needs to be more open to that, recognize something from it. Honestly I don’t know if it’s coming from me or if Erik is pushing me to say it. I don’t know.
Erik: The bottom line is it’s about getting her to expand those boundaries.
Robert: One of the things Erik said that’s so funny—well, I don’t know if this is appropriate for the blog, but I’ll say it anyway.
Me: Yeah!
Erik: One of the things about boundaries: They’re like sex. If you’re going at it to fast, trying to expand your boundaries, you might tear something!
Me: There’s nothing that’s taboo for the blog.
Erik: I’m trying little bit by little bit to get her to expand—or anybody I might do something with that people might perceive as inappropriate. I’m trying to get them to expand their boundaries, to be open, because if you get too rooted in your boundaries, then you end up getting trapped or cramped in them.
Maria M. and Paula B. won our contest! They emailed the answer at nearly the same time, so I decided to make it a tie. Erik visited his grandfather in Norway first! Maria asked me to pick my favorite, so I’ll have to think about that one! Paula picked Farah Fawcett. Can’t wait to see what she has to say!
And for all of you guys who answered the poll question about what Erik wears under his jeans: The majority said he goes commando, but he wore boxers. Very few voted for whitey-tighties. The last time he wore those, Spiderman was on them!
