Today, I find out the sex of the new grandbaby! Michelle is getting her ultrasound this afternoon, and she’s going to give the ultrasound technician a blank envelop to put the results in. Then the envelop will be sealed so she can’t know the results. Michelle will give me the envelop, I’ll open it, and I’ll blow up the appropriate color balloons (pink or blue) and put them in a big box. The box is already decorated and ready to be opened. At 6:00 PM, Michelle will open the box in front of 30 of her closest family and friends and, voilà, the baby’s gender is revealed! We’re having Chik-fil-A chicken nuggets and Sangría for dinner. I know. Weird combination. Michelle wanted to make pink or blue martinis but she felt that would be too much trouble. Plus, we’d all be sh*#faced before 7:00 PM. I never thought about having a gender party, but I think it’s a great idea. Any excuse to party with the ones we love, right?
Here’s Part Two of how to communicate with your loved ones:
Me: So tell me more ways we can learn to hear you and our loved ones.
Erik: Binaural beats, static, EVPs using a digital recorder, but what people do is have expectations: “Oh, we used to talk on the phone,” or “We used to talk face-to-face and have hours of conversation,” when really I might just get across to you, “YES.”
Jamie (chuckling): He does it in a very booming voice.
Erik: And that might be the end of our conversation. But you have this whole expectation, and you only heard the word, “yes,” so you think the whole thing is a scam and a failure because you didn’t hear me rattle on, and I didn’t prank you, and so “It’s all bullshit.” What the fuck? Stop throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
Me: That’s true.
Erik: Start simple. Start simple with yes’s and no’s. Just ask yes and no questions, and get used to hearing yes and no.
Me: Right, like the Hand Game. That’s for those who are tactile, I guess, right?
Erik: Yes. That’s for touch.
Me: Did we already explain that on a YouTube?
Me: Okay. So look for that, guys. It’s called the Hand Game.
I stumble on the word, “game.”
Me (laughing): I almost said the wrong thing! Hand Game. He’s a bad influence on me. And you can also search the blog for it. But hearing, when I have conversations with you, sometimes I hear you in my own voice, and I’m really not sure if it’s me answering myself, which I tend to do.
Erik: So you’re asking how the brain is perceiving the sound in the subtle light energy form because it’s not always outside of your ear like when you’d hear a bird in a tree?
Erik: Sometimes it’s a sound in the back of your head. You have this internal voice. We use that spot where your internal voice is to generate conversation. If you’re really not in tuned, let’s say you’re so engrossed with whatever activity you’re doing, and you’re vibration is totally into that, for me, to get my voice into your head is going to be a little more difficult, but I can use your voice. That’s because it’s already running. It’s on ALL THE FUCKING TIME!
Me: I know. It’s horrible. Oh my god, monkeys just scrambling around up there.
Erik: Well, I can use that right away.
Erik: I can throw some words in there and get you to think about it and help guide you. Now, the difference would be, you stop and go, “That’s odd.” Maybe that’s not a word you use, or it sounded like your voice, but it was talking to you in a way that you really don’t do with yourself. So you get this curiosity. The doubt. The “Huh?” That’s when you can say, “Okay, so I’m having an intuitive moment. It’s not clear, but I’m going to go ahead and acknowledge that it’s not 100% me.
Me: Okay. Are there any kinds of games or exercises we can do? I know that somebody brought up The Tea Party where you set out a cup of tea for you and your loved one and just start a conversation, you know, a casual conversation. Any others like that?
Erik: That’s awesome. A lot of times, people need that visual cue: “That’s the seat I’m going to sit in and the activity I’m going to do.” It’s a great focus.
Me: Mm hm.
Erik: But I would look at the instrument a lot better. I would look at you. What do you believe in? If you’re the type of person who would say, “I’m all for this. I want this to happen to me so bad, but it never does,” use the gift of pretending whether it’s visual, auditory or kinetic. Say to yourself, “Okay brain. I’m about to play a game, and I’m going to pretend that I’m going to talk to Erik, and set my belief system and my logical analysis side of my brain away.” Boom. I would do that right away. Then I would tell myself, “When the game is over, I can bring my belief system back in, and I can bring my logical side back in so it can analyze what the hell just happened. But until then, it cannot be invited in.” I think that trick right there really turns a lot of people into having full on experiences with their loved ones.
Erik: It’s in that “pretend” where anything is possible. Even if you believe in it but your logical brain goes, “But I need this kind of proof, and I need it three times, and I need it while I’m standing on my head,” bullshit. That’s not going to happen, is it? So your belief system might be all polished and pretty, but your head’s all fucked up.
Jamie’s caught off-guard by the f-bomb and laughs.
Me: Erik, that came out of nowhere! You caught her by surprise. That’s the first f-bomb in a little while, here.
Jamie (laughing): Cleaning up his act a little, maybe.
Erik: No, not really. But people lie to themselves quite a bit because they want to show people that they’re trying their best and that they can talk the talk, but they don’t have the experience. If you’re not having the experience, trust me, something in there is holding you back, and I bet you it’s your head. It’s your head having these demands, but for some reason it feels so common to you that you’re not paying attention to what those demands are.
Me: Yeah. Well, they say that the pineal gland is important for intuition or intuitive experiences and that fluoride and other things can cause calcifications in it, and that might be one of the reasons why so many of us can’t do what Jamie does.
Erik teases Jamie about some special water filter she has, so she does like a mini-commercial about it.
Me: So what can we do to fix our pineal gland?
Erik: Take care of your physical body better.
Erik: What are you eating? Are your hormones in check or are you letting it run wild because you don’t believe in medical attention cuz you’re granola.
Jamie and I laugh.
Jamie: Erik, how many people are we going to offend?
Me: As many as he can in as short a period of time as possible. So what if your pineal gland is already crapped out or calcified? Is there any way you can heal it?
Erik: There’s always a way to heal anything.
Me: That’s true.
Erik: And I’m not saying that because it sounds great and it’s hopeful. It’s the truth, but humans haven’t gotten there yet.
Erik: Yeah, I’d look at energy healing. There’s also –
Jamie (looking puzzled): That looks like a sonogram on your head. Maybe it’s specific sound blasting to break up – (to Erik) Do we do that yet?
Jamie: Maybe not.
Me: Something that’s going to come in the future?
Jamie: Yeah, it looks like a tiny, handheld, like what you get when you’re pregnant and they look at the baby. That’s what it reminds me of. It has a little ball on it.
Me: Oh yeah. Right. Shattering the calcium?
Me: Okay. I would like that! Anything else we can do with our bodies like refrain from alcohol, caffeine—oh, that reminds me.
I gulp down my coffee.
Me: Anything else we can do?
Jamie: You’d be surprised what I have today.
She holds up a glass of what looks like water.
Me: Is that water?
Jamie (taking a sip): Mm hm.
Me: It’s not vodka, is it?
Jamie (laughing): Vodka!
Me: Wodka. So what do we need to do in our daily life and behavior?
Erik: I’ll go for the caffeine, nicotine, processed foods, sugars, eating a whole food diet. That means a non-processed diet without white sugar. That will change the way your instrument works. That means that the energetic body that you have within your physical body becomes more sensitive to the subtle energy that is all around us.
Erik: That’s very useful!
Me: Yeah! So what about alcohol? Do you have to stop alcohol?
Erik: Looking at alcohol and drugs, not on a daily basis. It doesn’t help. It definitely doesn’t help, but if you’re using it as enhancement for –
Jamie: Watch what you say!
Erik: When you’re using it responsibly so it’s serving you and not destructive for you, you know, you’re not drinking so much that you’re vomiting for two days and have a headache. But if you’re drinking it to the point where your body’s enjoying it and processing and digesting it well, and your body tells you, “Hey, we’re at a limit,” respect that and pull away from it. That’s what I mean by healthy.
Jamie: He’s including other items besides alcohol.
She looks sheepish so I have to rescue her.
Me: Other drugs like pot?
Jamie: There you go.
Me: Okay. You just wanted me to say that.
Me: All right, so but does pot help people channel?
Erik: It can help by setting the head in a place where it can accept channeling, but really, it’s still just a tool. The person can do it all by himself.
Me: Anything else we can do in our daily life to better improve our chances to connect with and continuing to have a relationship with our loved ones?
Erik: Getting to know yourself better whether that’s through meditation of just becoming more emotionally honest about who you are.
Me: Just self-reflection?
Me: Honest self-reflection, obviously.
Erik: Have you had your honest self-reflection today?
Jamie and I laugh.
Me: I think you need to do that every day. Anything else, baby?
Erik: Get sleep. Give yourself down time.
Erik: And love your mom!
Me: Yeah, love your mom, guys! Love your moms. I love you, Erik
Erik: Everybody call your mom right now!
Me: Well finish the rest of the YouTube first! There are announcements at the end. So, all right, this was great, Erik. Thank you so much! Everybody go home and practice.
Erik: You’re welcome.
Me: So there are going to be all of these telephone lines to the afterlife ringing off the hook. “Calling Grandma Kate!”
Jamie: That’s awesome. Yes!
Me: All right, see ya!
Yet another wonderful review for my son’s book:
Amazing. The book is amazing. It was beautifully written. But more than the context is the content. The intent and purpose of the book is no like any other I have ever read. It makes you evaluate your life as you read it. It makes you question if you are being authentic, kind, emotionally honest.
This book is for everyone, but moreso, for those who are losing hope in the meaning of life. It is also for those who are stuck with grief over the loss of a loveone.
Erik, Elisa and Jaime. Thank you for the book. Thank you for helping me pull it through.
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