Hey all. I just wanted you to know that I’m going to be in Norway visiting relatives from 7/31 through 8/11. Because we’ll be in a little cabin high above the tree line in the tundra, Internet is all but non-existent. That means I’ll not be able to post. If there’s anyone who would can channel Erik and would like to guest blog for some of those days, let me know. Enjoy today’s session!
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Me: Hi, Erik.
Erik: Hi, Mom.
Me: You ready to rock and roll?
Jamie (with a sassy pose I don’t know how to describe): He says, “Don’t I look ready to rock and roll?”
Me: Oh, yeah.
Jamie: So, yes, He looks very ready. His hat is tilted to the side, and of course he’s sitting caddywhompas (sp?) on my couch.
Me: Sitting what?
Jamie: Caddywhompas. Isn’t that a word? Not properly. He’s sitting on the edge of my couch.
Me: Okay. Whoa, I never heard that word before! Okay. Let’s talk about some very trivial things (said sarcastically), like, Erik, how do we learn to love ourselves?
Erik: You mean remember?
Me: Oh gosh. Please give me a pass on that!
Erik: No, no. I’m totally going to give you a pass on that, because honestly if somebody is asking that question it’s exactly how they’re going to view it. They’re going to view it as something that they don’t know and have never experienced, and they have to go through some process—one, two, three, four, five—to get this outcome or this experience that they think is some golden ring that they need to be complete.
Jamie: So, they don’t need that to be complete?
Erik: Hell, no! You don’t have to have everything to be complete. Let’s go back and answer it. So we’re talking about self-love. Guess who’s going to be involved in this?
Jamie giggles.
Me: Yourself.
Erik: Yeah. Just yourself. Not your therapist, not some boyfriend, husband, girlfriend, wife. No family member. No one’s going to be involved in this but you. Granted, the experiences that you have may shape and change how you view yourself, but I find it amazing that when we look at people who think they have emotional difficulties—
(Pause)
Jamie (to Erik): Can you describe what emotional difficulties?
Erik: You know, like connecting with themselves or feeling things deeply. I find—
Jamie (giggling): He has his professor face on!
I chuckle.
Jamie: You know, where he starts to touch chin like he’s talking about something smart.
We both laugh.
Jamie: But he has no facial hair. It’s not like he’s trying to rub something down.
Erik (to Jamie): Thanks for that!
Jamie (to Erik): Finally, back at you!
Erik: I find that when I watch humans have, you know, what they call these emotional difficulties, it’s not the heart that’s broken, right? It’s not the ability to feel that’s broken. You know what’s broken?
Me: No.
Erik (using air quotes): I’m just using the term loosely, please, people. (Pointing his finger to his temple) It’s their think tank. Your think tank’s fucking it up. They’re not giving themselves the confidence, the worth that they need—self-confidence, self-worth, self first. All of this shit is not self-ish or ego driven. Trust me, people. Please listen to what we’re saying.
Jamie (to Erik): We?
Erik: Yeah, we’re all doing this.
Jamie (chuckling): Yeah, No, no. It’s you.
Erik: All right. Fine. Listen to what I’m saying.
Jamie: That’s better.
Erik: It’s not your heart that’s broken. It’s how your head is perceiving what you’re experiencing. So somewhere along the line, be it in this life, you know, when you were born and that you’ve lived or (air quotes) past life which is another life experience—we can get into that shit later—but you have had other experiences outside of this life. You have. Trust me. Even if we can break it down and say that you haven’t had any other life, your memories and your experiences are connected to your soul family. You talk and communicate even if you believe this is your first time you’ve ever come to life on Earth—you have had other experiences. Okay? So with that clear what you’re going through may be a result or a residual from a different experience. Just excavating this lifetime might not be sufficient enough. You gotta go back to something else. We’re just saying, “back” because we’re going to pretend that time is linear. Once you get to that source where, for whatever reason, you gave away your power, gave away your confidence, gave away your worth, and then you re-work that and see that maybe you didn’t have all the information at that time, and now you can understand that you weren’t wrong. It was just lack of knowledge, lack of knowing, lack of experience, lack of details, lack of information—
Jamie (chuckling): He’s going on and on about that.
Erik: –then you can repair that and then come back to where you are in this life. All of a sudden, you’re going to start seeing where you can set boundaries. And set, boundaries but not be a bitch.
Jamie and I laugh.
Erik: Though I kind of fancy some bitchiness, you know.
Again, we laugh.
Erik: We’ll call it spunk. How’s that?
Me: There we go.
Erik: Where you can be honest and not evoke any kind of confrontation. That sweet spot is where you hand-build your own confidence and your own worth, and you start to look at yourself as being very valuable. These are all logic things, right (He wiggle his fingers around his head.) But it feeds the way that you’re able to love yourself and embrace yourself. (He crosses his arms across his heart). Like I said, one more time, when I watch people on Earth that have these emotional breaks—can’t connect, can’t love themselves—ninety-nine point nine percent of the time the heart energy is beautiful. It’s the brain that’s all fucked up. Twisted.
Me: Aw.
Jamie: He came up with a great visual. It’s like really morbid, weird.
Me: Well, what was it?
Jaime: It was like some dead, thorny vine wrapped around and squeezing your brain. It was very classic tattoo kind of art.
Jamie shudders in disgust.
Jamie: He gives great visuals, usually very detailed. Nicely done.
Me: Anything else on how we can learn to love ourselves?
Erik: If you’ve already gone down the avenue that I talked about and you still feel like you need a little icing on the top of the cake, get a pet.
Jamie chuckles.
Me: Oh!
Erik: I’m serious, man. Get a cat. Get a dog. Now I know you cat lovers are pretty cool people, but if it’s a lesson about self-love, I would more likely go for a dog just because of behavioral patterns. They tend to fit that need a little bit better than a cat. If you need to learn how to fucking share, then you wanna get your ass a cat.
Jamie and I burst out laughing.
Erik: Because their patterns fit more of the value of sharing whereas the dog fits more on self-love, giving love, seeing love. I’m not saying cats can’t do that shit, so don’t you dare fucking quote me that one’s better than the other, cuz it’s not!
I just did, but…
Erik: Mom, we have cats and dogs.
Me: That’s right. Our house is full!
I guess we need all sorts of lessons!
Me: So, no hamsters, no goldfish I guess? That’s out of the equation?
(Pause)
Me: I’m just kidding.
Jamie: Yeah, he actually bit on the fish one.
Erik: The fish is great for learning caring routines like maintenance programs, because you have to be spot on and so that’s great. The hamster, man, that’s just sweet love. The playfulness. You wanna learn how to be a kid again? Get yourself a hamster. Actually, get two cuz that’s funny.
Me (laughing): All right, so thank you so much, Erik. Thank you so much, Jamie.
Erik: You’re welcome.
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Dear Reader,
The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.
As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.
Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.
I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.
Love and light,
Elisa
