I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. I sure did, because the baby shower was a huge success, especially when we started playing with the phone app called Pixurgery. With it, you put the phone on the camera viewfinder and position your face next to someone else’s. The app will switch your faces, or at least the main elements like the nose, eyes, mouth and eyebrows. We were all rolling in laughter, especially when my daughter’s switched faces with my husband. He actually makes a pretty good looking tranny. The sangria probably made it a lot more funny, though!

Speaking of laughing, here’s the last part on happiness. Please enjoy!

Erik: The truth will set you free. The more you keep your blinders on and keep yourself in denial, the harder—

Kim: He’s showing me this short kid on a playground trying to reach the monkey bars and he keeps jumping and can’t reach.

Erik: It’s going to be much harder to reach, achieve and maintain happiness because if you keep your blinders on and deny yourself your own truth, you’re in a lower state, vibrationally.

Me: What are some other tips for happiness?

Erik: I’d just build on what you said, being true to yourself.

Kim: Talk about relationships. Either people are unhappy in relationships or they can’t move on from things that happen in relationships whether it’s a friendship—

Me: Or a love relationship.

Kim: Marriage, whatever.

Erik: Again, that’s where you have to go back to being honest with yourself and their actual, true ability. Are they capable of being honest with themselves in that situation? Often, they’re not capable of being brutally honest with their partner or friend, either because they think what they’re feeling might be deeper and more severe than what they’ve shared. Maybe they don’t want to hurt their feelings. Maybe they don’t want to be completely truthful because they’re afraid it might damage things so they go back, and they regurgitate the situation to try to understand. But being completely truthful is so hard for so many people. In relationships, being truthful is actually going to spike communication. It’s going to increase communication, and we all know that’s the key to surviving anything.

Me: Sure.

Kim: He’s on his soapbox.

Erik: So, be truthful in your communication. See how it loops back around? If you’re truthful in your communication, you’re honoring your natural state of being, your natural self, aligning with self, therefore coming to a happier state.

Me: That makes sense.

Erik: If you’re truthful, you’ll be happier! If you share your truth with another or are true to yourself—and you know what? People think they have to stuff shit down and suck it up and move on, but if you just can’t get past something and it’s hurt you so bad, you have to be truthful with yourself. Some people think, “I’ve fallen out of love, but I have to stick with it because I have these vows,” but if your hope isn’t there, if that’s not what you’re hearing truthfully inside, why would you suck it up and continue just because—no offense to you guys—you made vows with somebody? Being truthful to the way you feel is the most important, and if you feel like you can’t continue in a relationship, you shouldn’t have to. You should honor your true self. It might hurt while you go through that.

Me: Yeah, sure.

Erik: But you’ll ultimately achieve happiness again.

Me: Yeah, and being emotionally honest with somebody could destroy the relationship, but maybe that relationship was no longer meant to be.

Maybe the spiritual contract with that person has been completed.

Erik: Right. Getting people to be more truthful is so important. Everything can seem perfect, but you still might not know why you don’t feel something for somebody anymore like you used to, and if you’re not truthful with yourself, you’re not going to be happy. It’s going to be so much harder to maintain that state within yourself, and honestly you’re not being honest with yourself and your friend or partner.

Me: You know what? Maybe I’m channeling this from you, Erik, but what would be a good exercise to do is this: Write down all the thing that you feel you’re not being honest with yourself about, and also write down all the things you’re not being honest about with others. Sometimes writing things down just brings them into consciousness and prompts you to start thinking about how to handle things and inspires you to let the truth out and helps you handle whatever happens when the chips fall where they may.

Erik: Mom, you’re absolutely right because when people write things down, sometimes they’re surprised by what they write, but it’s very therapeutic.

Me: Maybe they’re channeling from their Higher Self. Maybe it’s automatic writing from their Higher Self.

Erik: People should try that. Just go with what feels natural to write down even if you’re like shocked by it or it doesn’t make sense. The truth will come out, and it’s very therapeutic, so more people should do that.

Me: I do that a lot. I write out the pros and cons of situations, and I’ll write down all the things I’m happy about and all the things I’m not happy about. It’s like a happiness inventory. Any other last tips before we close, Erik?

(Pause)

Kim: He’s being really mushy.

Erik: I love you, Mom, and I love all of you listening because by you tuning in, all of you who listen and follow the blog or watch the YouTubes, you don’t just do it for self. I’ve seen so many thousands of you share.

Kim: He’s passing along gratitude.

Erik: Thank you for sharing what you come across on this video and all the videos of different categories because if we continue to share, we can make such a large impact and help each other.

Me: Yeah.

Erik: We’re all in this together, and the more we realize that, the more we can work together to hold—

Kim (choking up a bit): He’s being such a mush ball.

Erik: –to hold each other’s hand as we walk each other Home. Thank you. (Tapping his heart with his hand) I’ll be your source of happiness.

Me: There we go! But it’s not external, remember? So everybody, if you want to talk to Erik or ask Erik questions, we have a radio show now every Thursday at 7:00 PM CT, 8:00 PM ET. It’s on the blog. There’s a little player thing on the right sidebar that you can click to listen or you can listen to the latest archived podcast so check it out, prepare your questions and prepare to be amazed and have a lot of fun and enlightenment. Thanks Kim and Erik! I love you!

Speaking of the radio show, in case you don’t read the blog on the weekends and you missed the last one, here it is!