Damn I worked my butt off this weekend. I had four bougainvilleas, one large lantana and a medium sized palm to transplant from pots into the ground. I was missing my best shovel, so I had to dig through the notorious hard-packed Houston clay with a skinny little spade, cut roots that were in the way and dig up buried rocks. I had to wet the soil to make it easier to dig, so by the time I was finished, I was covered with bruises and mud and had blood trickling down my arms and legs from the bougainvillea thorns. I looked like someone from the cast of a horror movie. I also had to lug 50 pound bags of garden soil to fill in a low spot where a large oak tree had once been. Then yesterday, I had to remove all the crap in Annika’s room in preparation for the carpet installers to come this morning. I didn’t have the strength to clear Lukas’s room, so I had Rune do that when he came home from his race weekend. He was so pleased. It’s amazing how much crap we collect. Annika and Lukas had 24 years of stuff, most of which needs to be hauled out to the trash. All I can say is they’re putting everything back when they have a break from school.
So my weekend was productive but exhausting. Next weekend, I’m taking care of 6 month old Easton, so that’ll be a different kind of exhausting! I want to thank everyone for respecting my new boundaries of resisting the urge to text, email or Facebook private message me on the weekends or during the evenings.
Here’s another wonderful post of a session I had with Celestine Grace. She transcribed it for me, too, which is helpful.
EM=Elisa Medhus
CG=Celestine Grace/Erik Medhus
EM: Hello again Celestine. Ready for our next round of conversation?
CG: Hello Elisa and we’re ready. Spirit fingers!
EM: Spirit fingers! Erik how you doing sweetie?
CG: Mom I’m awesome. Thanks for asking. Love you.
EM: Love you too. Now the next topic you want to talk about is intending energy vs. expectations. Expectations is a biggie. It is a very dense energy that makes it very difficult for you spirits come visit us make them self know, etc. So speak to that whole intending energy vs expectation.
CG: You’re right, Mom. It’s a whole different energy when you approach it like that so there is a huge difference between intention and expectation.
EM: What is that difference? Tell me.
CG: So when you intend, when you are intending to manifest something. You are making your dream come to life in your head. “This is what I want. That’s a great dream.” But then you are leaving it out in the universe. The expectations comes when you have 7 different things to get to what your intending. The expectations come because suppose your intention is to say, buy a house. “So I want a house that has 7 bathrooms and 2 bedrooms,” whatever it is.
EM: That’s a lot of bathrooms to very few bedrooms, I’m telling you. You got Haitian refugees like a hundred living in each room.
CG: Or a weak bladder
EM: Or a weak bladder
CG: Whatever that end goal is, you don’t tell the universe you have to find 7 houses 1st and you will pick the 8th house, or you don’t want to tell them, “Well the 7 bathrooms have to be all down the same hallway.” So the difference is, setting not an expectation, but a goal – which is your intention – and leaving the way to get to that goal open to the universe. It’s about trust. It’s such a fine line, and that’s where people have trouble because not only is it fine line, but your human side wants to control and direct. “I want it and this is how I want/expect to get it.”
EM: I want it now.
CG: And I want it last week now.
EM: Exactly.
CG: So that brings up divine timing, which is always a good subject. But you know you can’t tell the universe how it should be done. So what if here is what you want and you set this path like this path.
(Motions with her arms a straight line a + b+c =d) but the universe has this, this, this and this. (She motions with triangles – a+72+ 39 + Z = End Goal ) for you to get to this (goal) instead of this straight path. How those 17 different ways that the universe took you to this goal, showed you 17 different new ways of how to go about your life and how to be happy. So the difference is not trying to control how you get there, just letting the universe know that’s where you want to be.
EM: Oh okay.
CG: He has got his little glasses on and his thinking cap.
EM: Oh, Professor Erik!
CG: Yeah. I don’t want everybody to think…And forgive me for a minute. (Celestine) He is calling me the old lady because I forget things and that is why I write down things and he has to remind me.
EM: Oh you’re preaching to the choir here.
CG: (To Erik) Old lady. She is having an old lady minute. Really? Come on, give me a hint because you are really annoying me now.
EM: Sounds like him.
CG: Well he does this to me. He will start talking, and I think about something and he will go off and I forget. We will come back to whatever that is because he does remind me and then he laughs at me.
EM: Okay
CG: Okay.
EM: Oh my gosh. He must have a field day with me then. Woooooo!
CG: He has a field day with me. Trust me.
EM: Oh my gosh. What is a field day anyway? That is what I want to know. But I digress. Go for it.
CG: Let’s go on to the next question. I am sure he will remind me about what he was talking about, he always does.
EM: All right. So, you put your intentions out, and you don’t try to have expectations over the pathway to that intention. Tell me more.
CG: That was the however. Thank you Erik. So the thing is that you can’t go all, “Hey universe, I want this, and I want it in the next 7 days, and I want it this way. You do need to work towards that goal. You’re going to buy a house okay? So the next thing is that you find the house. So you find a realtor right. And you’re working step by step by step to get to your end goal, but you’re not exactly telling the universe, “Well I have to have a realtor 1st and then a mortgage next and then I am closing and this and that.” So that’s the difference. It’s a fine line, I get it. Our human side really wants to control everything. Here is the universe’s huge lesson to us. Trust. If you trust me like you say you do, you can call God, the universe, Buddha whatever you want, and you have total trust, well then you need to totally let go and just know it am going to provide everything you asked for.
EM: And there are some times where you are really not ready for something like maybe you’ve set the intention to have a new relationship. Well maybe you’re not in the right state of mind or the right circumstances to have a relationship. Well maybe you’re not ready to have a house. So I guess what you’re saying is we have to trust in the universe to give us what we ask for and give us what our intentions are but when we’re ready for it.
CG: Exactly correct. Don’t set the time frame. Don’t set the steps. Just, “Here is what I want; I trust you. I am going to get it, and I will what we call “work” towards those goals and towards that end.” But you let the universe give it to you in its time, and that is so hard for us because we want everything now.
EM: I know, I want a pony. That’s what we are like, us humans. We’re spoiled.
CG: We are spoiled. What else Erik? What else can I tell everybody about this? And there he goes, back and forth and back and forth and his hands are going thru his hair.
EM: That messy hair. His fingers act like a comb. It is better than nothing.
CG: Yeah. Sometimes I just watch him talk to himself.
EM: He can do that. He’s mumbler.
CG: He’s a mumbler.
EM: He could talk to himself all the time.
CG: He says he’s good with that and says he at least planted the idea of what intention vs. expectation is, and that’s okay for now. If you have more questions, Mom, keep them coming! For now, I am always great with questions, but these are things I really want to just touch upon and give people food for thought.
EM: Well won’t you walk us thru one example? Let’s say I’m a person who has been in the company for a long time and I feel like I haven’t been given my due, and I really deserve a raise. So I put my intention out there for a raise. Walk me through the steps to help me achieve that manifestation.
CG: Ok he says so the first and foremost thing is that you clear your head of any negative thoughts that it won’t come.
EM: Ah okay, so that’s negative expectations.
CG: Right. Clear out any negative expectations first.
EM: That’s hard to do. That’s like saying, “Don’t think of a pink elephant.” What the heck?
CG: Well remember your conversation with yourself is a conversation with the universe, which reacts to the law of attraction.
EM: Okay
CG: So if you’re being negative and all they’re not going to give it to me. Well that’s what you’re going to get back. So the first step is to clear that negative thought that it won’t ever happen.
EM: Well it’s not just thoughts right? You have to feel. You have to force yourself to feel that it will happen, and that’s hard.
CG: Absolutely, and that takes practice, too.
EM: Oh God, practice. I have to put that on my little index card and to-do list.
CG: Well the problem is that we have been conditioned our entire lives to be negative; you think, “This won’t happen,” and you associate those feelings with a negative experience because you haven’t been conditioned to know that what you considered a negative experience was actually a learning experience for you to move on in your life. You can’t have everything and learn everything. It’s just not the way it works. Why would we come here if we know everything?
EM: Yeah exactly. We have work to be done.
CG: We have work to be done. So the first thing we do is clear all the negative. The second thing to do and, Mom, you’re good at this, is to write a list.
EM: Oh, I love lists. I have lists of list. I love it. I even have a happiness inventory where I write down all the reasons we should be happy, including Amazon Prime. I love Amazon Prime. My latte, my cappuccino in the morning, whatever, down to the littlest detail. I recommend that to all you guys. Really makes you have a different perspective of your life. But go ahead.
CG: He is standing there like this, “La la la la la.”
I can’t remember what he’s doing but he was teasing me in some way.
EM: Oh God, Erik. I’m going to put you in time out for so long when I get over there.
CG: Well what he says about the good thing about lists is that can be almost like a vision board with your list. “Here is what I want,” but with your job, for example, you list all the positive attributes, how long you have been there and everything that is positive like you’re punctual and do an efficient job. We forget about the positives. Let that little list remind you when someone says, “You didn’t do that right.” We take on this whole negative, “Well, I suck ass. I don’t do anything right.” That’s the reason for the list. It’s a reminder of the positive. So that’s the thing; you feel good about yourself. You know you deserve it. Here’s another huge thing to get over it. Fear. Remove the fear of asking. For a lot of people, you know you deserve it. You do an excellent job. You show up. You’re a number 1 A employee but the biggest thing is you won’t ask.
EM: I think that the only people who won’t ask are the people who are unsure whether they deserve it or not, who feel they might be unworthy because if you feel totally confident like, “I deserve this raise,” I don’t think it is going to be any problem to ask them for it.
CG: You’d be surprised, Mom. You’d be surprised how many are so confident in what they do. “I kick ass, and I did a great job, and I do this all the time.” But when it comes time to look at your boss face-to-face and say, “I kick ass and I deserve a raise,” all that confidence just leaves.
EM: That makes sense. That may come from a place of having a history of disappointment. So even if you are confident in yourself, you have a string of disappointments. Most of us have had a string of disappointments throughout our life, and so expectations come in again. You have this expectation you could be disappointed.
CG: And that’s correct. This asking for a raise thing, so many people would be surprised if you show up and say, “Hey it’s been 4 years since I have had a raise. I have done a really good job and I feel like we need to talk about it.” You would be so surprised how many employers will not only respond but respect that you asked.
EM: I bet. So guys don’t let your string of disappointments change what you ask for in life.
CG: If you don’t ask, you will never know.
EM: Anything else on intention vs. expectations?
CG: So here is what he wants me to tell you about expectation. Because he has been telling me this for a while. Expectations lead to disappointments. Disappointments lead to disillusionment. So the expectation part is really something that if we can all release and let go of (fill in the blank,) we all will start living a happier life. From this side, Mom, you would not believe what beautiful fucking beings of light each one of us are. Each and every one of us. If we could see that, it would be such a different place.
EM: We kick ass.
CG: We kick fucking ass, Mom.
EM: There you go. My husband has a saying, “If you want to be happy, lower your expectations.” And that is so true. Or let go, even better, let go of your expectations.
CG: That’s what Erik just said. Let them go. You will be so happy and so joyful of what comes when you release your expectations because so many people look for this one thing. This is what they expect, and there are so many great things going on over here. They don’t see it, and they don’t notice it.
EM: They don’t see it. So don’t have expectations of the way other people are in your life, expectations for your future. Any of that stuff. Just let go.
CG: He is saying he knows it’s hard.
EM: Oh yeah, it’s hard because we’re emotional beings and we are logical beings, too. Our head gets in our way. All right that was awesome. Erik thank you so much. Thank you Celestine, appreciate it.
CG: Love you Elisa. Love you, Mom.
EM: Love you. All right we are going to come back in a minute and talk about something cool.
CG: Sounds Good.
EM: Bye.
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