Sorry this is such a short post. That always makes me feel guilty. But I think it’s a powerful one and is an issue all of us deal with in life.
Me: Ignoring the judgments of others. That’s easier said than done, Erik. How do you ignore the judgments of the choices you’ve made in your own life? It’s not always an easy thing to do, because the hurt feelings are a factor.
Erik: Why ignore it? Who’s teaching you to ignore shit? I say if it’s creating emotions inside of you, first of all, address why it is creating those emotions.
Me (teasing): I would say just bitch slap them!
Jamie laughs.
Erik: You can’t necessarily bitch slap somebody who’s online.
Me: Dammit.
Erik: You can’t reach those sons of bitches.
Jamie (giggling): Erik!
Erik: So, you have to address why it’s creating those emotions inside of you. Is it because you, yourself, aren’t settled with what’s being said, or is there room to work on it? Be honest with yourself on why that’s there and what lesson you’re learning from it. Really ask yourself, “What lesson am I learning in this? What am I gaining?” I swear to you, once you get that shit down, and then don’t ignore them. Go to them and say, “You know what? I really did not like what you said, and from here on out, I’m not listening to you; I’m not going to give you any gas for your fire.” Address it. Let them know how you’re going to handle it. That way, you can put some (unintelligible) to it and get some resolution. Choose to keep your own power. When you’re defending, you’re actually feeding the fire, because they can see they’re getting your goat, that they’re probably right so they want to keep going. They feel better when you feel like shit. All right. That sounds like a really healthy marriage of feelings. So, choose to keep your own power.
Me: Okay.
Erik: Ding.
Jamie and I laugh. I guess that’s all he’s got.
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The three ERIK novels which he says he downloads to E. J. Daniel are available FREE as PDFs sent to your email. Request any or all from: ejdaniel@q.com.
Read them in this order:
SECOND CHANCES
JUST SAYIN’
THE TRUTH ISN’T OUT THERE
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Dear Reader,
The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.
As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.
Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.
I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.
Love and light,
Elisa
