Me: Do spirits have a reflection? In other words, if I were clairvoyant—with I’m not, ha ha—and I see a spirit in the room, will I also see the spirit in the mirror?

Erik: Yeah. You know, everybody’s clairvoyant. It’s not an “if you are.” It’s just the degree that you are.

Me: Oh. Okay.

Erik: And normally, if you’re trying to be clairvoyant, it’s not going to happen. The trying eliminates all that subtle energy because you’re so focused seeing that one thing. That makes you have an expectation, which puts blinders on your eyes for anything out side of the norm of what your expectation is. So it happens more when you’re not trying. You’re just brushing your teeth and you’re really tired and you look up after you rinse and you look in the mirror. Then, boom, you see somebody standing behind you looking at you. So, yeah that shit happens. And it’s real. It’s not whether you’re clairvoyant or not. You are to a degree, and being unfocused, open and willing. That pretty much means being really tired, overly whelmed (What??) —

Jamie: Overly whelmed, Erik? Really?

Erik (ignoring us): —almost to the point of exhaustion, because it takes away all of your expectations of normalcy. It really cracks open your mind. Of course we’d like all of you humans here to achieve overly tired, overly whelmed (again??) and pure exhaustion without having the symptoms. We’d like your head to just crack open naturally, but, you know, if we’re talking about those surprise moments where reflections are showing up in the mirror, mostly it’s because you’re not expecting it.

Me: Why do expectations get in the way? Is it because people who expect, expect, expect to hear from a deceased loved one and they’re so upset because they haven’t gotten a sign, no communication—what is it about expectation?

Erik: It’s a trick on the brain, Mom. Once you feel like you’ve learned something—

(Pause)

Jamie (to Erik, sighing): Okay. Say it again, but say it a different way.

Erik: Once you feel like you’ve understood something, you often put an expectation on it  that it will be that way consistently every time you come across it. That’s not necessarily true. We all know that whatever you’ve experienced, it can only happen once, because it was that timing, it was where your mind was, how emotionally open you were, what were the other factors in the equation. It’s not so scientific. We can’t take life and repeat it and get the same outcome every time, because there’s that element in the equation that’s immeasurable like character, perception. Once you’ve experienced it, you’ve grown from it. You’ve learned from it. So when you do it again, you already know something more. So your expectation of the outcome or what the experience is going to be is not going to be true. But you’re looking for it because you’ve done it before. So you think that’s exactly what’s going to be given to you and that’s what it’s going to look like, and therefore you won’t pay attention to anything outside of that expectation, which would have been a new experience.

Me: Interesting!

Erik: It’s a brain fuck.

I laugh.

Me: That’s true.

(I think he also shared, in another session, that expectation is a very dense form of energy making it very difficult for higher energy entities like spirits to get through.)

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Dear Reader,
The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.
As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.
Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.
I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.
Love and light,
Elisa