The June edition of the Ask Erik column is out. If you submitted a question, click HERE to see if it was answered. 

So far on the poll you guys seem to want the next CE event to be in Europe (including the U.K.) with a cruise as a close second. I’ll watch the poll for a few more days, then we’ll start fine-tuning the location. If you haven’t voted and you want your voice heard, check it out on yesterday’s post. 

I the session I had with Kim today, we interviewed Harambe, the gorilla who was recently shot. Very interesting and full of surprises. If you have the free Channeling Erik app on your smart device, you’d be notified as soon as it’s published. Meanwhile, here’s the second part of the painful past post. I’ve included the last part of Part One to help orient you.

Erik: If I can help any of you step out of that and move away from that, know that any past situation that you feel has got you caught up in a funk does not have to define you. A lot of people think that. A lot of people are like, “I lost my dad, and now I’m the person without a dad.” While that might be true that you went through that change in family dynamics, but it doesn’t change who you are. If doesn’t define you. People who let the past define them get sluggish and caught up in this funk, and then they can’t have the motivation to move forward. People let situations, occurrences, events and even other people define who they are, and that takes away from their own purity and sense of self. So getting down to the root of it, realize that you are who you are without anything around you and without experiences. You are a being all by yourself with your own energy makeup. Things around you are going to affect your vibration in certain ways, but ultimately, you don’t have to carry it. That also comes from guilt. People feel guilty so they have to carry that right here on their chest.

He places a hand over his chest.

Erik: “You know, I don’t want to be happy. I lost my husband, and I shouldn’t be happy anymore.” People do the same with eating, even if it’s after a bad breakup. “Oh, I can’t eat. I’m too emotional. I can’t eat.”

Me: Or they break out the Ben and Jerry’s.

Kim (chuckling): Yeah.

Erik: It’s specific to people and how they process things, but –

Kim: This is really cool. He’s quoting one of my best friends, Ethan [unintelligible.] I’m going to say your name! You’re welcome!

I chuckle.

Erik: “Your heart goes where it wants to, but you’re the one that holds it back.”

Me: Oh, I like that.

Erik: So don’t hold your heart back. Your heart is going to follow what it needs to and go where it needs to, but you’re the one that holds it back because of this.

He points to his head.

Me: Your mind. Yeah.

Erik (blowing kisses): I love you, Ethan.

Me: Aw.

Kim: Hopefully he’ll watch this video.

Erik: Know that for all of you who are suffering and struggling because of things that happened in the past, even recently, even if it was just yesterday, it’s okay to be happy, and your heart wants to go there, but your mind won’t let you. Your mind wants to carry that grief. It’s okay to let go. Honor your heart and what it wants to do. If you don’t, you’ll get sick.

Me: Physically and mentally?

Erik: Yep. The physical, that’s where people don’t eat, start drinking start acting unlike themselves because they’re denying who they are. That’s just separating from your Higher Self, changing the characteristics of who you are.

Me: Yeah. Well, ruminating over things, there is a part of me that, after you died, Erik—and that was just a horrific experience: the frantic screaming, the sights, the smells, the sounds, just horrible, and I had to go through that in my mind over and over again to try to get the emotional charge off of it. So sometimes do you have to process it and go through it and go through it and go through it in order to almost get bored with it so that the emotional charge is not so heavy?

Erik: That’s all about what you went through, Mom, and again, anything else that people go through differs from what you went through. Emotions can bring you to a completely vulnerable state, possibly, most often a state you’ve never visited before within yourself. When you go to that new place, emotionally, and find that Elisa in this place of horror and emotional charge, that’s a new experience for you. You’re understanding yourself in this new emotion. There is a purpose to it happening over and over. Think of it like this. Certain AC adapters have different inputs of energy or voltage. The same thing goes with the energy or the heaviness of energy with different situations. The charge that you just described was extreme, and in order to neutralize that—

Kim: He’s getting all Einstein on me.

Erik: Okay, Mom. Here’s your flat line right here. (He waves his hand, palm down, from the right to the left.) That’s neutral. Down here (He points a finger about 8-12 inches from his palm down hand.) is where you visited emotionally. So, you need at least the opposite (He points a finger 8-12 inches above his palm down hand.) to neutralize that. So by visiting it over and over, you begin to understand it, and then, through time and other experiences, you were able to achieve the opposite. So when you achieve the opposite frequency, they neutralize and that neutral line is called healing. That’s the part where you’re healed. There are different degrees of those waves, those frequency waves. Sometimes you only have to go over it two or three times, and then you move on. Other times it takes a year or more.

Me: I’m getting there.

Erik: Everyday with my help. Everyday.

Me: Any other tips on how people can let go? Or maybe you can just say one of the most important things to do to let go of a painful past.

Kim: He can be matter-of-fact sometimes and I go, ‘Erik, we’re human, not matter-of-fact.’ It’s very matter-of-fact for him. It’s like (she snaps her fingers) that.

Me: Yeah, you make it seem so easy!

Kim: Exactly.

Erik: Realize that you exist Now. Now does not have a timestamp. When you go back again, you’re separating from yourself and that creates such distortions and so many illusions even within yourself. Then there’s an inability to heal.

Me: You’re opening up the wound again and again.

Erik: Yeah, sometimes it’s necessary, but the more you can stay here in the Now and feel what’s in the Now, that here and now will provide the healing. Just connect and listen to it. Often we don’t. We’re forward in the future or backwards in the past. So, the Now is very healing. All of you, take time to be right here right now.

Me: There’s a great post of Erik’s in the blog that has to do with painful pasts. I think it’s entitled Crossing the Abyss.” So check that out. I also think that looking back at whatever the painful experience was and trying to see what you gleaned out of it in some way—there’s always something positive, believe it or not, that you can get out of, maybe not all, but most painful experiences. Then when you see you gain from it, like I gained the ability to be more compassionate and more assertive because of my painful childhood, and then accept the lesson, be grateful for it and then let it go. Does that play into all of this?

Erik: Yeah. It kind of goes back to the concept of looking back and as dark as some things in life can be, there are still lessons in it. There’s still—

Me: Value.

Erik: Yes, value, and you can evolve from it. So, learning that lesson will provide victory after healing occurs. Please believe this when I tell you: For all of you out there, there is never a wasted experience. People think, “Oh, it’s such a waste. I can’t believe this happened. I can’t believe he passed away in that way. It’s such a waste, and it’s not fair!” While those are your human emotions through that experience, there is still value in it.

Me: So find the value, people. It is there. It’s hard to find, but you can do it.

Erik: It is hard, and don’t deny yourself that because people will do that emotionally. “There’s no value in that.” They just need to open up their hearts a little bit.

Me: Yeah. Okay. Anything else before we close?

Kim: He’s just dancing.

Erik: I love you.

Kim: He has like a, is it the British or Scottish who wear skirts?

Me: Oh, Scottish. Are you wearing a kilt?

Kim (laughing): Yeah, thank you! A kilt.

Me: So you’re doing a Scottish jig, are you? Oh, no. It’s Irish jig. I don’t know what Scots do.

Kim: His legs are so white!

Me: I know! I know! I’m so glad I’m not there to see that. Well actually I wouldn’t mind.

Kim: He’s blowing you kisses.

Erik: I love you.

Me: I love you, too. Thank you, Kim. You guys stay tuned for the messages that follow!

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