As an adult, I developed compassion for my father once I understood that the root of his anger was sadness. In many ways, he suffered from emotional neglect at the hands of a cold mother. He felt plagued living under the shadow of his world-renowned uncles and cousins, ophthalmologists who invented cataract extraction, corneal transplants and more. They were pioneers in the field who were both lauded and loved, and my father felt small in that shadow. But he didn’t know any other way to express his angst other than through anger. Sadness was an emotion that was alien to him.
Uncertainty is the root of fear
Distrust is the root of uncertainty
Scarcity is the root of distrust
Hostility is the root of scarcity
Sorrow is the root of hostility
Attachment is the root of sorrow
Fear is the root of attachment
Chaos is the root of all
Harmony is the equal opposite of chaos
Me: You say that sorrow is the root of hostility. First, how do you define sorrow?
Erik: Sorrow is the constant heartbeat of grief. When you’re sad, that can make you pissed, resentful. Your ego goes into this whole self-pity thing and has all these grievances and shit. When you’re sorrowful, you’re looking externally for all the Band-Aids to fix it, and there’s no Band-Aid out there that are going to heal your sorrow. You’re the only one who has your answer. The power is yours, and when you realize that nobody is fucking going to help you because they can’t, you get pretty pissed about things. Sorrow, no matter how it comes to you, if you’re missing a loved one or you’re feeling sorry for yourself cuz you’re in pain or cuz you can’t achieve what you want, who’s gonna put a Band-Aid on that? No one. No one can.
Me: Mommy can’t be there to kiss and blow on those boo-boos all the time.
Erik: It’s nice to have Mommy there or a person like Mommy because they can sit with you while you go through this, but still, they can’t touch it, and they can’t put a Band-Aid on it. Only you can heal your sorrow. Only you can heal grief. For those people who can’t attach to or understand this idea because they’re so far into it, they can become very “’gressive.” Yeah, I’m using the word, “gressive.”
One to add to the new Erik Medhus Dictionary.
Erik: Sometimes they become hostile to themselves. (In an angry voice) “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I do this?” Sometimes they’re hostile to other people or a circumstance they’re in. “Why has someone done this to me. Why has God forsaken me?” They sometimes take that anger out on themselves by cutting or drinking, or, you know?
Me: Right.
Erik: “Nobody’s fixing me!” That’s what sorrow does. It makes you want someone or something to fix you.”
As many of you know, there were technical glitches in the trance channeling event this week. The video conferencing company, not Jamie, was to blame. Fortunately, Jamie has rescheduled it, so I encourage the attendees to re-register below. For those of you who didn’t sign up in the first place, this is your chance to see Erik in action. He takes over Jamie’s body and uses her like a puppet, then answers questions. It’s great fun because he’s his usually Erik-y self!
Ho-Ho Holiday Web Channeling with Erik
