I know Erik’s covered this topic before, but given the fact that I see so many blog members struggling with this, I decided I needed more details. Pushy, pushy. I’m one of those people who’ve straddle the fence all of my life. I never felt comfortable here. I think being so clumsy and easily distracted bears witness to that because it’s as if I haven’t really adjusted to my body. When Jamie trance channeled a woman who died around 100 years ago, she talked about the difficult past my sisters and I had and eventually said, “Mostly in the end, you’re branded the survivors. We all have our life parts we survive from whether a traffic accident, a bad relationship, a lack of love, but there are some of you who choose to come back to life and experience nothing but hardship from day one. I think it’s most difficult for humans that come back to life that have such a spiritual connection because they remember the beyond so well, and then they look at the life they have now and can barely digest how important it is.” I suppose that should tell us that no matter where we feel we’re from or how we feel out of place, we need to remember that the human experience we’re having now is very important. 

Jamie is an amazing trance channeler. I love when she trance channels Erik because I can feel his hugs and I get to kiss him. His hugs are solid and compacted until the ones I give Jamie which are more, well, mushy. For those of you who haven’t read this post, if you want to see Jamie in action, read it HERE.

This post has two parts. I’ve divided them because the entire post would otherwise be too long, and I want it to capture your entire attention. Enjoy the first one. 

Me: There are some people who feel like they don’t belong. Why is that?

Erik: Well, most of the time they don’t trust the experience that they’re here to have. There are extreme cases where people come from another dimension, and they come in with a such great memory of that place that they have a hard time being in the Now to have the human experience. That kind of fucks with them.

Me: With me, I feel like I’m more comfortable in the spiritual realm than here. I think that’s why I’m so clumsy. I can’t use my body very well. But yeah, sometimes I feel like the earthly plane is so foreign. Is that what you’re saying?

Erik: Yeah, and it’s not like you’re not trusting your insight of why you incarnated in the first place. It’s just that you have so much memory or connection to that different place, so it’s hard to hang on to the present. It’s, “Hey, I gotta pick one place and stick with it.” Pick a place, people.

Me: But for a lot of the readers, it’s not about a connection to another dimension. What causes them not to feel like they belong?

Erik: It’s about trapped self-energy.

(Long pause)

Jamie: Okay. Hold on. He’s still talking, but he left me behind.

I chuckle.

Jamie: He’s going back to that stick figure, but this time the belly of it is a circle, and inside that circle is where their self-energy is. It’s not in their arms or their legs or their head.

The stick figure she’s referring to is the one Erik conjured up in the self-esteem series. 

Erik: They’re a turtle. They pull their energy in for different reasons. It can be abuse as a child where they’re told they’re insignificant, that they can’t do anything, that they’re stupid, that they can’t contribute, so they’re trained at a young age that they can’t engage with their environment. They retreat to where it’s most comfortable, which is the core of the body. It’s all trained into them. They’re taught this. There are some who do it after a traumatic experience: near death situations like from car accidents, being held by gunpoint and so on. So there’s a lack of trust in their environment to protect them.

Me: Right, so if you lack trust in the environment, you don’t have a sense that you belong in that environment.

Erik: Right, and then we can get really simple, Mom and talk about people who are extremely sensitive energetically. How about those people who are really sensitive to sound, and then they go into a loud bar. Whoosh. They pull their energy in. They can’t engage. They feel very removed. They can’t connect to people who are there. They can’t enjoy themselves there. So it doesn’t have to be this big, long overarching behavioral pattern that spans a decade or more. It could be just for an evening. It could be because the color of the room isn’t one they enjoy. And then there are those empaths who are surrounded by energy whether good or bad, negative or positive. Remember there is no good or bad, negative or positive. I just have to say that to give you a frame of reference. It can be overwhelming. It’s just too much. Another scenario is where a person is afraid to set their own boundaries. They need to set and maintain them, but they can’t so they just withdraw. They say they can’t even go into that part of their life because they can’t deal with those boundaries so it’s no longer available to them. They let themselves off the hook and ignore them. They hide from them. Then they sometimes get to the point where they tell themselves that they can’t live anymore. So really they just lost the understanding of how to maintain their boundaries, and Mom, it can be as simple as talking in public or talking to a stranger. It could be that you don’t have confidence with handling or earning money so you shun it. You’re afraid of money so you want it away from you. Then you constantly mishandle it. You make sure that it goes down the drain because it’s just too much for you to do.

Me: What do you mean? How can money be too much? Why would they be afraid of it?

Erik: Maybe they were taught when they were younger that money was evil, that rich people were bad, that rich people don’t help people who are needy, and so every time that they get “too much” money, they blow it. “Oh god, I can’t have all that.” That’s just one reason. These kinds of energetic responses that we’re talking about don’t normally fit in the conscious foreground. If it did, they would be able to manage that boundary, take care of it. They would be able to accept it and embrace it and change it to something that’s easier for them. It’s not easy being difficult. It’s not easy having these sufferings. It’s not easy having conflict. So when this is happening, normally these energetic patterns or reactions are happening subconsciously so the person can’t see it. That’s why they write it off as something they can’t do. “I can’t make money! Abundance will never be mine.”