And now for a question from a concerned mother:
Paula’s Question
I am both intrigued and skeptical by your reports of visits by Erik and the channeling. I know grief, and dealing with it, takes many forms. I am impressed by your ability to put into words what most of us bury (no pun intended) deep inside. I would really like to ask a question of my parents who have passed.
My son, whom I shall call R.M., is a challenge at best. I would like to ask my parents for advice in dealing with him. Everett died of cancer in 1984, loved and supported by me and my siblings. My mother died much earlier in 1967. Lottie had a sudden passing after suffering a CVA, lingering less than a month under the suboptimum care of the times. I took over the household at the age of 13 in her place. Everett knows that I gave it my best, while maintaining my own self. I never resented my responsibilities. But I did not grieve over my mother’s passing for a long, long time. I am at peace with my father’s passing as he lived a long life and made really positive changes in the last few years.
Please, Erik, if you are able to contact them, would you please ask them to guide and direct me in my relationship with my son. I know they know what I need to know to deal with this situation! I have peace with both of their deaths, although my peace came very differently for both of them. I hope that you are able to find them. They may be restless…life was not easy for either of them.
Love. and hope. Thanks.
Paula
(In a subsequent exchange of emails, I found out additional information Erik needed: R.M.’s first name and where his grandparents lived.)
Channeling Transcript
Me: Okay Erik, the next person that would like to ask you a question is Paula XXXXXXX. She has a son, Reid. She would like to ask her parents for advice on how to deal with him, because he’s a bit of a challenge. Paula’s father, Everett, died of cancer in 1984. Her mother, Lottie, died much earlier, in 1967. Paula had to pretty much take over the household when she was only 13 years old.
Kim: Wow!
Me: I know! She says she never resented her responsibilities, but didn’t get a chance to grieve over her mother’s passing for a long time. So basically, she wants their direction on how to deal with this situation with her son.
Kim: Did she mention where they’re from?
Me: Oh, yes, they’re from Beaumont, Texas.
Kim: Okay, and did she mention an approximate age for Reid?
Me: Yes, he’s 19.
Kim: We can ask Erik to try to call forth Lottie and Everett.
Erik: Lottie is still in Heaven so she can speak with us. She’s still here; she hasn’t reincarnated. Everett, let’s see. Oh yeah, he’s definitely here too. He wants to be the spokesperson. (chuckling) He’s kinda bossy.
Me: So Erik, can you asked what Paula can do about Reid?
Erik: Let’s see. First Everett says this is not something he would have chosen for himself while he was on the earthly plane. He wants to make that clear.
Me: I don’t know what that means, Erik. Can you have him explain?
Erik: You know, dying the way he did, leaving Paula and Reid without a male family figure. Plus I think he feels bad about all the shit he piled on Paula after Lottie died. Lottie’s nodding, so yeah.
Me, Oh, okay, so what about Reid?
Erik: Wait, and they’re really happy here. They want Paula to know that they’re totally fine. They’re both glad they got that life behind them because it wasn’t a picnic for either of them. So they’re very happy where they are now. They say Paula’s been wondering about that. They also want her to know that they love her very much and come to her in dreams. They give her messages in dreams. Does she know that?
Me: I don’t really know. She never mentioned that.
Erik: Everett says the boy needs therapy. He says Reid has a lot of issues with his father. It doesn’t have as much to do with Paula. Reid has issues with his father. The issues have to do with abandonment, rejection, self-worth, self-esteem, low self-confidence and some anger. So he needs therapy, because Reid won’t be able to work this out with his father since he’s not available to him. Not sure if he means emotionally or physically available. Crap, I’m having problems understanding him, sometimes. I don’t know if it’s cuz he’s not very communicative or what. So Grandpa says he’ll have to work this out in therapy without his dad being present, and it will allow him to have a happy, healthy future. Without the therapy, Reid is going to have big issues with anger management and impulse control. Oh, and he says that depression will be a big problem without therapy, too.
Me: Okay.
Erik: This isn’t anything Paula doesn’t already know. That’s why she’s asking this question. I hope that helps.
I hope so too. Maybe we’ll get encouraging follow-up from Paula. I know what it’s like to struggle with a challenging child, especially one who is angry or depressed or not living up to his or her potential. All a mother wants is for her children to be happy, whole, fulfilled, productive and ever-evolving. That’s not too much to ask for, is it?
