In this entry, you will see that grief is the great equalizer. I transcends ethnicity, religion, cultural background, socioeconomic levels, and in this case, even vast distances. Here is a question Irene posed to Erik from her homeland in the Philippines:
“Dear Erik and Elisa: You guys are living in Texas while we are here in Philippines, but we hope in heaven there’s no distance. Please tell Erik to look for our loving Lolo Rey and ask him how is he, and if possible give us idea who was the mastermind of killing him and why? It’s been months of ordeal, Elisa. We hope Erik can help us out. Looking forward for your words soon.”
Erik’s reply:
“Drugs were involved.”
‘Oh, really!’ I exclaim.
“Yeah, drugs were involved. It was definitely a murder, too. Drugs were involved but Lolo Rey had nothing to do with them. The person who killed him was male and he was a stranger. Lolo Rey didn’t know him at all. He was killed during or because of a theft. The guy was stealing something so he could have money to buy drugs. Lolo Rey wasn’t involved in taking drugs or selling them. He had to be killed because he saw and knew too much.”
‘Is Lolo Rey okay, now?’ I ask.
“Yes he’s great! Tell his mom that she will definitely get to see him when she passes. She has many more years left on the earthly plane. But when she passes, he will be there. He promises. She can speak with him whenever she wants, but she is, um, her level of grieving is taking so much energy that she can’t use her ability to hear him and feel him. Um, um, she needs some therapy but she’s not going to get it. She just needs to know that he’s around her all the time and he will come to her in dreams. He’s already been doing that.”
After I emailed the family a summary of what Erik shared with me, here is the response they sent:
“Dearest Elisa and Erik,
Thank you for the time spent talking with Lolo Rey, of course with the help of your supportive medium. We were speechless honestly on how are we going to react. We are happy that Lolo Rey is doing fine in Heaven. You know the last time we went to his grave, I asked for his guidance because there are lots of problem we are encountering right now, and I asked him to help us and give a sign that he can hear me. The spotlight which is very bright was adjusted and become dim. My husband and I look each other, and we knew that Lolo Rey heard me. With regards to the killer, yes he’s a male and he’s in jail right now, but he don’t want to tell us who sent him to kill Lolo Rey, but what you said about drugs made us realized there’s something deeper in it. But we are so sure that he’s not involved in any drugs, and we are glad that he told Erik he’s not.
We cannot express how happy we are that finally we can claim that Lolo Rey is in Heaven with our Creator. Thank you Elisa and to Erik for helping us. If I’m not asking too much, can you please continue keeping in touch with Lolo Rey? Thank you with all our heart.
The Ruiz family.”
How touching that Erik can provide such closure, solace and happiness to so many. He is the beacon of light that shines brightly on the very dark path that we, the bereaved, must stumble along in despair. With that light, he fills our hearts with the hope and comfort that had been stripped away by a cruel and untimely death. For that, I am immensely grateful. Part of my gratitude is selfish, because bearing witness to the healing process of others in similar pain has helped my own wounds heal as well. Just one more sign that we are all connected by a thread of love.
