The radio show last night was near flawless! Finally! I wish we could go on for a couple of hours so that we can take more callers, but there’s a show that follows ours, dammit. Last time, I ended the show 30 seconds before the hour was up and found out that we aired for 2 minutes into that other show, so I guess we don’t really get a full hour. Thankfully, we’ll do this every week so eventually, everyone will get a chance to ask questions. My advice is that you call in at exactly 15 minutes before the top of the hour. Be sure not to call in earlier than that because it won’t allow you in, and you’ll just have to call back. 

I made the mistake this morning of mentioning the C word to Bella, (No, not that, you perv. I’m talking about camping) and she’s been going nuts. She loves to go camping with us. The smells, the sights, the prospect of pinning down a squirrel twice her size. It’s enough to cause a puppy frenzy. So, I’ll keep this introduction short because I can’t concentrate when she has one paw on my cheek and stares me down like laser beams are going to shoot out of her eyeballs. 

Here’s a lead-in from yesterday’s post to orient you before you read the last in this forgiveness series:

Me: That’s right. What can we do to fix a broken heart other than –I’m going to break into song any minute, I swear!

I start singing.

Me: What can we do to mend a broken hearrrrt.”

Humming follows.

Me: Okay, I’ll stop.

Jamie: Oh, he’s continuing.

She laughs.

Erik: So with a broken heart, in general, most of the pain is from an intimate breakup, and intimate doesn’t just mean a romantic situation. There are intimate relationships, energetically, with mom and son and things like that, so I just mean a close relationship. Was that good for you, Jamie?

Jamie (chuckling): Yeah, that was good.

Erik: When most of that pain is defined by, “I am hurt by the outcome. I’m not in control of the outcome,” it’s an I, I, I situation. So heartbreak mostly comes from an I, I, I and less from understanding what the other person in the relationship needed or where that person’s reactions came from. If you’re conscious of your heartbreak in the moment, good communication between the two of you can resolve the heartbreak. It won’t make it go away 100%. I mean, we get sad over stuff. You know, shit, we had our head set on some expectation and it didn’t happen and that’s kind of sad. “I really wanted to marry her, and it didn’t happen, and now I’m sad.” Of course you created that goal or expectation for yourself. It’s an I, I, I experience.

Me: Ay, ay, ay! I keep thinking, “Ay, ay, ay” when you say that!”

Jamie laughs.

Jamie (To Erik): I’m surprised you didn’t do that!

Me: I know! Beat you to the punch!

Erik: Love it. That’s my mom! Look at what the other person was needing. Maybe she needed her space or she wasn’t ready for that commitment—you can then look at what your true need is. Is it really to marry her or is it to help her have the space that she wants? If you really love this person—the definition of love—it’s not stopping her or making her achieve something that you want. It’s about allowing her to be her authentic self. So once you start changing the look of that heartbreak from, “Were my needs or expectations met?” to “What was here authentic need for her authentic self?” you start to see. You start to peel away the pain and see that, “You know, it just didn’t work out,” instead of, “My hopes and dreams are dashed, and I can’t survive without this person.”

Me: Yeah, that’s a different perspective.

Erik: Does that make sense?

Me: Yeah, sure! Any other tips for mending a broken heart before I start singing again?

I resist the urge. YouTube listeners have been spared.

Erik: Nah, I really feel like breaking it down and looking at it is most important. But if you’re so far into having a broken heart, you know how some people just kind of lose themselves?

Me: Yeah.

Erik: Like they just disappear. They’re still functioning, but they’re not themselves anymore. If you find that you’re in that kind of position, you need some teamwork. You need some outside help. Throwing a ball against the wall isn’t working anymore. You need a teammate to give it back to you and get you out of your pattern. You need someone to help you look at it in a different way.

Me: When you have a broken heart, your heart feels broken. It really does. Is something going on with the heart chakra?

Erik: It depends. It can be two extremes. You can have a depletion of the chakra so that there’s almost no energy and it’s like sucking it.

He makes a sound that is a mix of sucking and gasping. I don’t know how he does it.

Jamie laugh.

Jamie: He makes a good squeak sound.

She mimics a squeak at the end of the suck/gasp sound.

Jamie: I can’t do it.

Erik: And it takes energy from the shoulders. The shoulders hurt, then the neck, the head, everything. Or the heart chakra can hold onto energy. It gets bigger and bigger, and it’s not sharing with the rest of the body. It’s not moving it. So it becomes a burden. You feel heavy hearted. There’s tightness, pain, things of that nature. So expressing things, getting out of the pattern no matter what you’re doing is going to help break that so you can move energy again. Yeah, it can completely turn physical.

Me: Can you do anything like energy healing, chakra cleansing or listening to special chakra healing music?

Erik: Yeah, there’s many ways to move subtle light energy. You can use color. If you have a heartbreak, I’d give red to the heart. That’s its complementary color. That’s especially when you find you have a heavy heart and fullness and all that. But if you’re feeling extremely depleted, you know, empty, I’d give the heart green. Music—

Jamie: Is that really F? (Pause) No, I don’t have it memorized.

She talking about the notes that correspond to each chakra.

Jamie laughs.

Erik: The tone of F.

Me: Something in the tone of F. All right. Got it.

Jamie: Keep going, Erik.

(Long pause)

Jamie: Like a “thymus thump?” Yeah, you put the tips of your fingers together and beat on the sternum. They call that the “thymus thump.”

Erik: It moves the energy. Vibration and rocking also works. Binaural beats are excellent.

Me: Okay. Any particular frequency?

Erik: I would go low.

Me: What would that be?

Erik: A grounding low.

Jamie: I don’t know. He doesn’t give me the—isn’t it megahertz or something?

Me: Hertz or megahertz. I can’t remember. That sounds good! I think that’s a wrap unless you want to add anything else, Erik.

Erik: Ding!

Me: All right. Talk to you guys later. Love you both! Love everybody out there. Thank you for watching!

You guys have a glorious weekend! Until tomorrow! Here’s yesterday’s show: