Brace yourselves for this one, guys.

Me: Is there a way to find loopholes or change our spiritual contracts? A blog member said that you had mentioned a caveat that we can turn into reality only that which dovetails with our reality and that if it doesn’t agree with your destiny, you can’t create it. He or she was curious to know this since we all have free will. Can we change our destinies and spiritual contracts while we’re alive? If so, how?

Jamie: So, how to change a contract while we’re alive?

Me: And will that change our destiny?

Jamie: Change destiny?

Me: Basically, can you change your contract and your destiny? Let’s start with that.

Erik: You can do what you want to. There’s no governing team hovering over you going, “No, little boy. You can’t choose that.” Slap his hand. Get back in line.” You’re the only one keeping your ass in line, and, by the way, that destiny you chose? You did it to yourself. Can you change it while you’re still living? Fuck, no. It’s just going to be there. Can you not achieve it? Sure! Can you achieve it? Absolutely. Can you do it later? Why not?

Me: Can you redefine your destiny, even in a subconscious way—through your true or higher self? In other words, can you say, on that level, “Well, my destiny was to learn how to forgive, but you know what? I want to learn how to be of service to those in need.”

Erik: You learn the value of being in service, but that doesn’t change the destiny you designed for yourself about learning how to forgive.

Me: So you don’t –

Erik: It means in that life you didn’t reach your destiny. So, guess wheat? You’re going to find another way to complete it, because, um, you know, it’s just your level of discipline. Your free will changes your level of discipline in what you’re doing in that life. I mean, it’s like telling yourself you don’t want to eat meat anymore. So, you chose not to eat meat anymore.

Me: So, if you say, “I don’t want the lesson of forgiveness this time. I’ll do it the next time. I know I wanted to accept that as my destiny, but I want to do it the next life. This life, I’d rather learn about whatever.”

Erik: No, it’s weird, because when you’re saying it that way, it makes it sound like it’s this little logical thing that you put down on paper and this is some kind of achievement thing. This is like a desire. It’s purposeful. It’s a need. It’s within all parts of your body. It’s not like this flip it thing that you can just turn on and off in your head and go, “Eh, I’m not into that anymore.” No, there’s a much huger presence of you—of your soul, of your spirit that will go, “All right. I love you no matter what direction you change,” but it’s not going to erase what you chose to learn or create out of destiny when your came into the life.” When you leave it, when you die, and you wake up, you know, in another dimension, you’ll still have that desire, that need to fulfill that destiny, because it’s a lesson. It’s a mark that the whole part of you wants to achieve, wants to learn, wants to absorb. So, even in your awake state in this life, you go, “Eh, I know what it is, and I don’t want to do it,” nothing’s going to fall apart!

Me: Okay.

Erik: But again, you know, we can ask, “Why would you fuck around with yourself? Why not just go and learn it?”

Me: Yeah! Hm.

Erik: You know what it is? I think that what eats us up a lot is that lying is so fucking acceptable, and it shouldn’t be. Really. It should be banned.

Jamie: He’s laughing. (To Erik) What’s so funny to you?

Jamie and I giggle.

Jamie: He’s thinking about politics and government.

Me: Oh, god.

Jamie: He’s saying something and kind of laughing, so I can’t put it together. Something about “Wouldn’t that be crazy and blow it all to hell it lying was banned, especially in government? Gotcha!”

Me: Yeah. Who’s going to pass that law?

Erik: God, we should all get together and be honest.

Me: Yeah. Sure. Like that’s going to happen.

Erik: It’s the weak people that can’t accept honesty from another person.

Me: Yeah.

Erik: And you know why they’re weak? Because they think they’re responsible for that person’s viewpoint or outlook. That’s the bullshit part, cuz they’re not. Everyone has the right to be honest to their own self. Every pair of eyes sees something different, so why—

Jamie bursts out laughing.

Erik: —do you get your panties in a wad—

Me (chuckling): He always liked that phrase.

Erik: —when it’s their viewpoint, not yours? Just listen, man! Listen and accept and embrace and be honest.

Me: You’ve heard of that phrase before, right Jamie?

Jamie (giggling): Yeah, but it’s just hearing it come from him, like he’s wearing panties! I would just kind of imagine him as a boxer kind of a guy, not briefs.

Me: Oh, no. He’s a boxer guy. He’s definitely a boxer guy. No, he didn’t like wedgies.

Jamie giggles.

Me: Of course you can always have a veggie. You know what that is?

Jamie: Oh my god, no, but he just told me! I call that a camel toe.

I can’t believe we’re getting into this.

Me: That’s the worst!

Jamie: Is that what it is?

Me: Yeah, like a vagina wedgie. Those are awful, because you just get it all the way through. So, you still want to be a vegetarian now?

Jamie and I both laugh.

Me: It’s really hard to correct that in public, I can vouch for that. You have to hide behind cars in the parking lot.

Jamie (laughing): Dig it out from back to front!

Me: Okay, now that’s something I might want to filter out instead of putting it on the blog.

Of course, I changed my mind. Sorry for the visuals, guys.

Me: I do have SOME boundaries.

Obviously not.

Jamie and I roar with laughter.

Now you know where Erik gets it.

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Dear Reader,

The journey on which you’re about to embark will take you through stories that are deeply personal and involves a relationship between a mother and her son.

As a physician raised by two atheists, I had no personal belief system about life after death. In a word, I was a confirmed skeptic. As my journey progressed, my mind opened. It is my sincerest hope that yours will open as well and that you will have a greater understanding of your own life and what’s to come ahead.

Although Erik sometimes paints a rosy picture of the afterlife, time and time again he stresses that suicide is not the answer to one’s problems. If you struggle, please understand that the information in my blog and my book is no substitute for professional help. Please click here for a list of resources for help when you find yourself considering taking your own life. Know that they are readily available when you feel that hopelessness and despair that many of us feel from time to time in our lives.

I refuse all donations and ad revenue on the blog. It is my dream to one day establish a nonprofit organization that delivers a variety of spiritual services for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and cannot afford that assistance on their own. It’s a mission of love, sacrifice, and dedication.

Love and light,

Elisa