Blog member, Jason, channels his past life twin bro, Erik, often and yesterday Erik (no doubt after much pestering) told him to provide us with the following ten tips. Thanks you, Jason, for giving Erik and voice, and thank you Erik, for keeping us humans in line.
10 Tips for feeling the happy child in you.
By Erik
“Stop being childish you say?” I say embrace your dork-ness and touch that inner child!
“What?!” you say? …..
“Yeah, duh… look at kids… If you can live life with that same “place” of passion, you’ll have everything you need to be who you really are in that moment. And know this…. you may find yourself trying to compare these thoughts to your own childhood or others. Your looking back and around you… but look here. The topic of this is to embrace your inner child, not be “that” child…. Look at what makes people treasure kids…. Don’t go saying,… “that’s not my childhood’ or ‘my kids ain’t like that’… ask yourself… ‘what makes children cool?’
Lets make a list of how to get in touch with the kid inside of you, OK?
1) Work on relationships: Young kids don’t let drama fuck up their friendships. All they care about is goofin off and horsin around. They don’t worry about rejection. They don’t see an end or separation. It’s the adults that program worry, rejection and fear into them. Take the adult out of kids and you have innocent worry free faith. It’s that inherent acceptance, that faith in others. Trust and see the best in others.
2) Ask Questions: Life is never about getting answers. Facts do not create reality. Reality is formed not only by the question being asked, but by who’s asking it. How or why is not so important as how you feel about asking questions. What are kids like when they ask questions? Why, why, why…. It’s not that they disbelieve or wish to really know why, they just want to know. They are like an empty sponge, seeking everything, see, feel, know, do, explore. They don’t care how or why in regards to the question, they just want to know. That’s a pure zeal for life. That’s the same feeling behind the Original question. Who am I? It’s that they are asking without any thought to limit. It’s adults in human form that set limits. It’s adults that create limits and mold children’s questions to their world view. It’s the adult that says, stop asking questions and toe my line…. If we as souls can return to exploring questions about who we are without limit, if we explore how we feel about questioning life, ourselves, and our reality, we will automatically be drawn to ask ever cooler questions. Which will give us better and better experiences.
3) Be cool: I say be cool, cause normally you get told, ‘be happy’, and then people get their panties all worked up in bunch.Look, you don’t have to be a frickin Pollyanna. No one is saying shut ur trap and smile all the time. I am just saying be good, be cool. Don’t just treat others as you’d be treated, but treat yourself and life like you deserve to be treated. See, this attitude is a life goal, mission, plan. A lifestyle too. It’s not something like a switch you turn on and off if you’ve been stuck or some other way, It’ a journey. You do your best, and take just one thing at a time. Take one thing, and say to yourself, “Is this cool?, Am I am being cool? Am I cool with? how can I make this cool?”… And what do you do if it aint cool? Shooot, you move on, let go, or help with change… It’s when your making that conscious choice, taking that free will action or choosing that inaction with conscious awareness that you can find your happiness. Your comfort zone. That’s where you can be happy and not worry. Just be cool.
4) Make it simple: Really, if it aint love, do you need it? Less can be more. When kids are playing, do they worry about what they do or don’t have at the jungle gym? No, they are reaching for bars. What bar are you reaching for? That’s all that matters. Doing. Not things. In that moment, they are not focusing on what new toy they have to have, or what they do or don’t need. Or think they need. Same with life. Life can be about living more simply. Sure, that can seem impractical for a lot of people. Adults have debt, responsibility, bills, work, kids, spouses, sure you have to take care of that stuff cause their the effects of your original causes you put yourself into, created, or helped create. But doesn’t mean you have to be so hard on yourself. It’s the process of dealing with all that, that you can simplify. Step back just a tad bit, and take it one baby step at a time. Baby steps. Process can be simple too. No one said you have to slam yourself with life and drown under it’s burden. You can slow down, taking one step at a time and still take ownership for your life. Once you do that you can focus on what you truly need vs want. Let go of what’s not you, or in your best interest. Once you start to get a handle on that you will automatically do what’s for the greater good, and life will seem much more simple and more about love. If it’s not helping you express the love inside you, the joy, who you are… do you need it? Be simple, not simple minded.
5) Chill out: Stop, drop, and roll! Don’t be so serious man….. Stop what your doing, close ya trap, sit down, and wrap your arms around yourself and say. I AM OK. I AM COOL, EVERYTHING IS going to be OK. See, look. Most people have lived many many lifetimes, and will live many many more. Life, this life, it’s a tool to explore your awesomeness! Half of you don’t really believe that. You are focusing soo damn tight that your balancing all your feelings on the tip of that old drill bit. You think youre screwing yourself, while life screws you. Shoot, stop it. Drop it, and roll over and look fricking up! Look at yourself. Think about who you are! You are not that drill bit, you are not that drill, you are the dudes and dudettes holding the drill. You are using a tool. You your soul. Look at you, feel you. You can let that drill sit on the charger on the shelf waiting for it to power up. You can cut yourself, you can drop it. But you can build a house for yourself, you can build a new you, you can even get a different tool. But you are the master craftsman. not the tool.. … this life, sure it’s important, but just chill, stop looking at the point and feel what you are creating from a bigger view. If your too focused, your not going to be able to help others build.
6) Act out love: A lot of times we all hear about putting others first, or do unto others as you’d do to yourself. Really that’s so important, but a lot of time people forget to love themselves as well. They forget who they are. They get stuck on feeling that they need or have to do something for, to, or with others that ends up feeling like resistance and they start resenting life and others because of it. They forgot to give themselves some lovin. Now, normally, I’d say, dude, you need to go get laid, ha ha, but most of you would just go obsess on that, and not realize that what I really mean by that is that you need to treat yourself like your lover. You need to embrace yourself as your spouse, your friend, your child, your parent, your angel. You need to channel your love inside you, through you, as you, all of you and let it be who you are, flow around you and out. Don’t be a hater, especially to your self. Don’t worry about getting it wrong or messing up. Your perfect in every way, just how you are. You did not come to this life with failure as an option. So just think about what you say, think about how you act and ask yourself, “is this love?” “Is this who I am”, “What about this situation would help me express the love inside of me?” If you ask that even some of the time, you will always act out of love, and it is who you are. Now some of you are gonna get worked up about not feeling it. That’s OK too. You need to feel wherever you are at and not back down. What ever you’re feeling you need to stare it in the eye and if it’s you, embrace it, it’s where your at. And if it’s not.. Let it go and act out of love.
7) Change your wording: Most words have this intense weight of expectation, meaning, and this objective labeling on it, that totally warps subjective experience. The words create this sense of separation. Words that limit you. Words like, I cant, I don’t, I don’t want, I will never, This is, I should, shouldn’t, If only, Someday I will, why can’t, and on and on…..Over time, you start to believe these feelings and what you believe starts to energetically manifest your reality, and then pretty soon, you can’t see nothin but darkness at the end of a tunnel. Really, shifting your energy is about perceiving who you are in a new light and then allowing your beliefs to manifest new feelings. You’ll then find yourself reacting to life and your experiences in new ways and then you’ll find reality changing for you. More Pollyanna right? Well, I know it all seems goody tooshoes, but I am serious. Every time you say a disabling phrase you so need to wash your mouth out with soap. Instead, stop, drop and roll. Look at yourself and say things like: I can, I will, I am getting better, I can do this today, Who I was yesterday doesn’t limit or define me, together we are doing great things, I have, I am receiving, I am working, etc. See what I mean? It’s literally about stop, dropping and rolling… And where did you first hear about that? Right, in kindergarten. School … as a kid…
8) Play, laugh, Cry, get dirty, live with abandon and be uninhibited: You choose to be born again into physical life. Enjoy what you can. Feel it. You are here to work hard, do good, you can’t help it. Just give it up and know you are awesome. I don’t think you really understand just how much respect you got for choosing this path. Give yourself to what life you can. Let the only expectation for yourself be to know what love your capable of. I know I know, some of you are going to say, But Erik you didn’t. That I gave it up. But look at who we are on a soul level. No one is an island to themselves. No one. We come to life together. Enmeshed, unified. We come out of love, out of desire to express love, to give love, to serve, to understand it and who we are through it. We come with this Divine mission. This is what I did, I came to live, I came to share, I came to help, to fulfill a role, to be, to see, to feel, and to help myself grow through others and my experiences, to transform experience into understanding… Again, it’s about focus, are you gonna see yourself from the soul level or the eyeball level? So love yourself with abandon, live that love uninhibited, play and laugh and cry without guilt, shame, or worry.
9) Honesty: Keep it real. Be like the spirit you are. Tell it like it is on both sides of the coin. There aint no shame in truth if you keep it real, and true to who you are. You may not like the way that you look. Because society is giving you the duality shit that says you have to look one way other other. That’s other peoples shit… hell, that aint even their shit, it’s what’s been told to them, bull. It’s all a gimmick to get the soul to look within and see the real you. And that’s beautiful. You can say to yourself, I don’t feel pretty, but I have the chance to be awesome. I am going to take it, because what I can think, say, or do, what I can help with is real. And that’s who I am. The light walking into a room is personal energy. It’s a self honesty that is believed so strongly, felt so much that it’s manifested real. It’s your own personal truth, creating a subjective experience that is manifesting objective reality. Be honest. Who are you. Look at all the secret parts of you that bug you. Look at them. They are your secret weapon. Let your feelings about them flow around you, transform them, absorb them, reflect them. Let yourself look honestly at them and help you understand where your at. Once you have a starting point, you can decide where you want to go. Once you know that, you can start creating it or moving yourself to it. It’s true, honest.
10) Instead of me telling you about a tenth tip, this is where you fill in with your own! (post away!)”
