I have lot’s of shows for you to watch, guys! Here’s yesterdays show: Energy Awareness with T-Love. Erik came through courtesy of the medium that gave him his first voice from the other side, Kim O’Neill. Click HERE to listen. You won’t regret it.

A few days ago, I taped the show, Real Life with Lisa Jesswein. It’s going to air LIVE today at noon CT, but I’m sure you can access the archives after that. To listen, click HERE

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/energyawareness

Speaking of Kim Babcock, here’s the transcription of our first session. She’s only gotten better and better!

Me: This is going to be fun!

Kim: Yes, I have to thank you so much. Just the chance to talk to you means the world to me because of what Erik has done for my clients. I’m not going to cry!

Me: Go ahead. I cry so easily. We’ll cry together.

Kim: Me too, but he really helped my client drop fear and move through the feelings of being near suicide. I can’t thank you enough the way you continue to share him. It was never my intent to bring him through in my readings, but after I read your book, I’ll never forget, during the first reading he just popped up and said, “You don’t have to worry about breast cancer.”

Me: Cool.

Kim: So I was like, ‘Oh, okay.’ This is a whole new concept to me.

Me: He’s just a buttinsky.

Kim: Yes!

Me: He just horns in on peoples’ sessions all the time.

Kim: He does. It’s funny because he’s teaching me to loosen up.

She laughs.

Me: That’s good.

Kim: So I can’t thank you enough.

Me: Sure. I’m just happy to be able to talk to you. So is our little guy there?

Kim: Yeah, I can definitely feel him, and I just wrote something down because I’ve been hearing him. He’s been coming to me all week in my dreams, which was very fascinating. Last night I was in a park with him and there were eight of him, but they were all from different phases of his life.

Me: I can only handle one!

Kim laughs.

Kim: Like in one phase he looked like maybe he was ten. Another phase it looked like he was 15. His hair was different. It was very cool.

Me: He looked so different in every age. He looks like a different person in almost every picture.

Kim: He did, and his hair was different. The first thing I wrote down as I was sitting here waiting for you to call is I just heard him say, “Where do you want to go from here?” I’m not sure what that means, so I’m just going to listen and pass it along.

Me: I’m going to ask him some questions, like session questions.

Kim: Okay.

Me: And we’ll do this for about 30 minutes. I have to get my passport renewed. Anyway, Erik, what I want you to do, if you don’t mind, is tell us a little bit about the loss of power. So many of us lose our power. Maybe we get demoted in a job. Maybe we lose our power in a relationship. Maybe we lose our power physically. There are all sorts of ways to lose power. Can you teach us about that?

Kim: His energy is very strong.

Erik: Power is connected to ego, and when you let power choose your focus or drive you, that’s because you’re standing in an ego-centered place. You should step away from that and not be so fascinated or ruled by power because power and the want of it creates a separation from love.

Kim: He keeps repeating the quote, and I’m sure you’ve heard this. He keeps repeating it and flashing the peace sign. Let me listen to him again.

Erik: “When the power of love overrules the love of power, then you’re onto something.”

Me: Ah, that makes sense.

Erik: Don’t let it be ego-based. It’s second nature, and they don’t even realize it sometimes. It’s a control thing. Loss of power to them is a loss of control. Why the hell do you want to control anyway, because the more you have to control, the more stress you’re going to have.

Me: That’s true. So control is over-rated, I guess.

Erik: Very, because the more you want to and try to control, the more things are going to feel out of your touch. Letting go of the need or desire to control is what humans really struggle with in so many aspects. It can be something as small as raising a garden that’s out of your control on whether it does well to interacting with society where people aren’t behaving like you want them to. It’s out of your control. Fuck that. It’s out of your control anyway, so just leave it alone.

Me: Yeah, that’s true. Why battle against something we can’t win against?

Kim: He just totally said, “Hi Mom. How are you?”

Me: Hi! Oh my god, you know what? I didn’t say hi to you! That’s right! We just went right into the questions. I’m sorry, sweetie! How are you doing?

Erik: I’m good. I’m always good. I want to know how you’re doing.

Me: I’m doing good.

Kim: He’s getting really soft, which I say, sometimes in my readings—when he softens his energy to me, he’s trying to be very sincere. “How are you? How are you doing? How are things?” He’s just really digging into you.

Me: I’m fine. I wish I didn’t have to go to a government office today. I just can’t stand the lines and stuff. Otherwise, everything’s fine. Can you see him in your mind’s eye, or…

Kim: I can.

Me: What’s he wearing. What’s he look like today?

Kim: He has jeans on. He usually has a lighter wash pair of jeans on, and when I’ve seen him, they’ve always been tattered, but today he dressed nicer. He still has jeans on, but they’re nice jeans. They’re not dirty or tattered, and he has his hands folded together in his lap. He’s in a position that I’d call a waiting one. He just wants to wait for you to ask questions. He has on a white t-shirt, but I don’t see anything on the front.

Me: Okay.

Kim: I see him as if I were standing to his right.

Me: Okay. So, Erik, what do you think about her? What do you think about Kim? Do you like working with her?

Kim (smiling): He went, “HUH?”

We both laugh.

Erik: She has a lot to learn. She needs to loosen up.

Kim: He’s laughing at me! He’s getting me used to cussing. I’ve gone on his blog and read about that, what he thinks about that, but he’s opened me up a lot about that.

Erik: She’s getting used to the cussing.

Kim: He wants me to share another way he’s trying to loosen me up. My business partner and I sat down and tried to do a session where we connected with Erik. I don’t follow the blog a lot just because I’m busy, and it can be overwhelming.

Me: Sure.

Kim: So I sat down with Ethan, and we were talking to Erik, and I asked Erik to do or show something that I wouldn’t know about him or his personality that Ethan would know because he follows the blog very closely. He flashed his privates!

Kim laughs.

Kim: So I was like, ‘Okay! Hi!’

Me: Oh, Erik!

Kim: It wasn’t to be inappropriate; it wasn’t to be perverse. It was to say, “Loosen up.”

Me: Sure.

Kim: I didn’t take it that way. It wasn’t awkward, nothing like that. It was more of him saying, “Loosen up because it’s just a body.”

Me: That’s right. I can see him doing that. Probably just showing off.

Kim: He was! And he was just trying to break the ice, I guess. I’ve learned a lot so far from him just in connection with his energy.

Erik: I’ve really gotten her to loosen up and to come from a more neutral standpoint rather than having filters from her own beliefs. She’s dropping those pretty easily to become more neutral.

Me: Good! That must be so hard.

Kim: It is, but at the same time, when I’m able to achieve that with Erik’s help, the readings are so much better. It’s easy to just drop that and throw the information forward.

Me: You know, he did that with Jamie, too. Sometimes he’d stop and say, “Jamie, don’t weed me! Don’t weed me!”

Kim laughs knowingly.

Me: So he’d call her on it if she were using her filters.

Kim: Nice!

Me: Anything else before we go on?

Kim: He’s waiting for you.

Me: All right, sweetie. Well, let’s talk about power still. Let’s look at some examples. Say you have a woman who is a stay-at-home mom. They have a bunch of kids so it would cost more for her to put them in daycare than what she’d earn at work. But because of that, since the husband is the breadwinner, she feels like she doesn’t have as much of a right to make some of the decisions regarding money and other factors, at least regarding the finances. So she feels this loss of power.

Kim: It’s so funny because before you could describe the family situation with all the kids and staying at home, he said, “Oh fuck. I know where she’s going with that.”

I chuckle.

Erik: You know it’s all about equality. I’m putting myself in the wife’s shoes. If you identify yourself as being “less than” then you will be. You have to see yourself as being equal to your partner no matter who does what and how much of it. We’re all equal. It doesn’t matter. I don’t give a shit how much you make. I don’t give a shit about how much you’re home. Everybody’s equal in the roles that they play so really there shouldn’t be a power struggle. There shouldn’t be this, ‘Well, he’s the breadwinner, so he gets all the say-so.” That’s really not how it should work. Unfortunately, though, people these days only see their situations as such, as how you described.

Me: Money is power, too.

At least in our culture.

Erik: It’s sick.

Me: It is sick. So what should the woman do in that case, just see herself as equal? What if the guy doesn’t agree and say, “Hey, it’s my money. I’m going to control the purse strings.”

Kim: Now he’s walking around with his hand on his hip, thinking, so I’m just listening.

(Long pause)

Erik: For a woman in that situation, she should first of all treat herself as if she’s equal to him no matter how much he makes and no matter how much she doesn’t. If she treats herself as equal, she will be seen as equal by her husband and everybody else around her. If she treats herself like she doesn’t have a say-so, then that’s going to be how she’s accepted. (Shaking his head) It’s really unfair.

Me: It is. Any general last messages for people who feel like they have no power?

(Pause)

Me: Or let’s take another example, actually.

I don’t want to just use one.

Me: Let’s talk about somebody who’s been demoted. I mean, that’s a blow to a person’s self-esteem. Wow, they just feel powerless. All of a sudden the underlings are their bosses.

Kim: He’s using a military reference as an example because I connect to that pretty easily being an army wife.

Erik: For someone who’s been demoted, obviously it’s going to hurt. It’s a blow to the ego. But (holding his index finger up) listen to what I just said. It’s a blow to the ego. Most people don’t have the capability in that situation because of what happened and the emotions attached to it, but you have to step back and listen to the lesson in it: what happened and why? Did it happen because of ego in the first place? Sometimes it’s a lesson to get them to separate from ego because if they’re demoted, it’s hard to still be egotistical in that circumstance. Don’t take this the wrong way, but sometimes that’s a really good thing when that happens to people because it can get them to stand back and look and lose some of that ego.

Kim: He really connects that to an ego thing.

Me: So most often, it’s a lesson, then.

Kim: He gets excited.

Erik: Yeah, it’s a lesson because, whether you like it or not, it forces you to separate from your ego a little bit.

Me: If you choose to, but a lot of people won’t do that, unfortunately, and they let that important lesson fall by the wayside.

Erik: Most people react instead of think or process whether it’s anger or sadness. Still, in those situations, because you’re processing those emotions, you still shed some ego.

Me: Okay. And in the woman’s case it must be a lesson in the true nature of equality?

Kim: You mean if a woman is demoted?

Me: No, in the case of the woman who is the stay-at-home mom.

Kim: Okay. He’s agreeing with what you said. The equality.

Erik: In the scenario you told me, it’s about how you see yourself as equal to everybody no matter what role you play.

Me: So basically, it’s about perspective in both of these cases. It seems like almost everything is!

Erik: Yeah. Yeah, perspective is the key.

(Pause)

Kim: I’m just listening for him to finish a sentence.

Me: Okay.

Erik: I really don’t want there to be any misconception or misunderstanding here. No matter what scenario you’re talking about.

Kim: He’s really on this equality kick. That must have been important to him.

Erik: Again, it doesn’t matter what role you play. Losing the power factor and the desire to have power over one another is a part of shedding the ego, but it’s also like peeling back an onion layer and adding in a new layer, which is love. If more of us could come from a perspective of equality no matter the role, we’d gain humility. Humility is very important. Remaining humble will keep you on that equality frequency, wavelength, whatever you want to call it. If you can keep humility, that will help you see others as equal. The more humility you can carry, the more you’ll see people as equal. You won’t come from that place of “I have to rule over you and make all the decisions.” But nowadays, can you believe it, Mom, humility is so far from everyone’s mindset. People don’t want to be humble.

Me: It’s insecurity.

Erik: Exactly. They don’t want to be vulnerable.

Me: That’s just what I was going to say!

Erik: And that’s where power comes in. If you adopt the power stance and step into ego, then you don’t have to be vulnerable. You don’t have to feel equal or humble. That’s the complete disconnect. It disconnects people from nature, from people, people from pets. It’s this whole sick power thing.

Me: It seems like it’s gotten better. When I think about Middle Ages and all that, power was much more important. Am I wrong?

Erik: People are softening. They’re trying. They’re making an effort. They realize that it’s fatiguing to try to have power. It wears you out. You don’t belong there anyway. Does it ever make you tired to love or to be humble? No, because that’s where you’re supposed to be. Fighting for power makes you so damn tired because you can’t stay there forever.

Because you can’t control everything. Accept and let go.