Avery’s Question

Hello Elisa,

I have to start out by saying I really, genuinely THANK YOU for sharing this with us. Using your pain to help others is such a selfless act, and you, too, must be an enlightened soul, if you can look through your grief and do just that. Erik makes it clear he was beyond lucky to have been blessed with you as a mother, and it’s evident just from your tone the overwhelming love you have for all of your children. So thank you, first and foremost. I just stumbled across your blog today, and I’ve already read through the whole thing. It’s so beautiful, and moving, that I feel like I just can’t tear myself away! It brings me a sense of calm, because it seems like Erik has just confirmed some of the things I’ve always thought myself about the other side, and the loved ones we’ve lost. I’ve always said I thought Heaven is exactly what each of us would wish it to be- not just the same exact thing for everyone. Just as each of our souls are unique and beautiful, each of our individual heavens must be the same.

I don’t really know who to start asking my question, because I don’t really know if it’s one question in particular I want to ask. I wonder if I can give you a little overview of my life to pass on to him, and he could just help me to understand in general? As a child I was molested by my stepfather (his name was Donald) for many years. I grew up holding that inside of me, as I never wanted to tell my family, because I knew it would completely destroy each of them inside. As young as 7, I reasoned, “well… I’m dealing with it on my own, why should I destroy their lives too?” I finally confronted him at age 11, and told him I knew what he was doing, and if he didn’t stop I WAS going to tell my mom, and he promised he never would touch me again, but I should never tell my mother, because think of all the trouble he would get into! So I didn’t tell. Soon after my mom and Don got divorced, and we got to leave the small town we had been uprooted to when my mother got remarried, and we returned home. As promised, I held my secret in, and acted out (drugs, alcohol, promiscuity; you name it, I did it.) until my late teens (not even realizing at the time, that I was acting out from holding it all inside.) Maybe that is more info then I should have shared, but I’m sorry it all just came out in a burst of typing lol. At age 18, I finally told my mom, but still made her promise not to tell any other members of my family. Long story short, I was informed last year that Don had died. I looked at a My Space tribute page, of people in his life, his children, and friends all praising what a wonderful man he was and it makes me wonder how no one else could be aware of this monster? He had a daughter my age, and I wonder if he did it to her to, when we were both so young? I guess my question is, what happened to him on the other side? is he repenting for his actions? Is he paying for them? or is he just living his own version of heaven as well, where he can forget about the pain he inflicted upon others? Sorry if I’m taking up too much of your time, but there is a little more I wonder… I’m 26, and have always struggled with these overwhelming feelings in my life. I question my decisions. I wonder if I made bad ones as I got older because of my childhood issues still not being resolved? I’m in a relationship with a man I love, but I feel unfulfilled, like he loves me too, but just isn’t that interested.  In a mental way that is… I don’t think it’s malicious, I just think he’s more concerned with himself? Or maybe I’m not that interesting to him, or that he thinks my work and interests are trivial compared to his? I feel we’re lacking a spiritual connection, like he doesn’t really care about the experiences that shaped me, because he’s never asked. Then again, I think that just be the way he was raised, and it’s not done with bad intentions. He just purchased a house, and we’re moving to it next month, but I’m having doubts that it’s where I belong. I just started a new job that I have been working toward my whole adult life, and I wonder if between that job, and this man, am I headed on the path of my destiny? or am I missing signs along the way that I should have seen? I’m sorry, all of this seems so trivial compared to what you’ve gone trough. Thank you again for taking the time to read my ramblings. My thoughts and prayers are with you always.

Much love, Avery.

Thanks again Elisa and Erik xoxoxo

My Response

Dear Avery,

Sweet girl, your email brought tears to my eyes. What you have suffered at the hands of a monster, only to see him praised! I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now, and I’ll do whatever to takes to help you. All I need for the medium is your age (which you gave me) and the city you live in. I need to know how old Don was when he passed and what city he was in at the time. This helps Erik and Kim locate him faster, I guess.

For clarification: you want me to ask Erik 1) what’s going on with Don in the afterlife and if he has any messages of repentance? 2) If he did the same with his own daughter, 3) Advice on how to deal with your current love interest and perhaps 5) what you can do to overcome the past so this baggage doesn’t keep interfering with your life and your progress as a soul? If you want to make any changes, let me know. Please understand that no medium is perfect but Erik and Kim seem to make an awesome team.

Erik and I are here for you, Sweetie.

xoxoxo

Elisa (and Erik)

Avery’s Response

Oh Elisa,

I’m sitting here so overwhelmed with feelings- when I saw your name in my email, my heart jumped because I swear, I just knew in my heart that I would be hearing from you! But no way did I ever think it would be this soon! I checked the blog today and saw your note, and how you’ve been overwhelmed with submissions, so thank you so much for reading and responding. Just sharing my story with you guys made me feel better already.

As for the other info you asked for; I live in XXXX currently, and we’re moving to XXXX next month. Don passed in XXXX. All of the question summaries are right he money. If I could just add one thing… my Godmother/Aunt, XXXX passed following a stroke. If he could just give her my love, that would be so awesome. I mean, I do everyday, and I talk to her all the time, but Erik seems like he would have a direct contact with her… But I guess, knowing what we do about Erik, she’s maybe around all the time, when I’m talking to her, and I have my own direct connection? Wow. This all is so amazing and beautiful to think about, and to be able to share with each other. Sorry if I ramble in these messages, but it just ignites something in me.

Channeling Transcript

Me: This next question makes me choke up a bit so bear with me. It’s from Avery. She’s 26 and lives in XXX. As a child, she was molested by her stepfather, Donald, for many, many years starting around when she was seven. He finally stopped when she turned eleven and threatened to tell on him if he didn’t. Recently, she found out that Donald had died, and she was sickened by all the loving tributes on his My Space page. She also discovered he left behind a daughter. Her questions are: Is he going to be punished for what he’s done? Did he molest his other daughter?

Erik: Yes, he did abuse the other daughter. And he was abused when he was younger by a female family member.

Me: Oh my God.

Erik: I’m hearing that Avery has this guilt about not stepping forward…guilt and anger. She feels the guilt for not stepping forward, claiming what was happening to her and to make him accountable and also to make her mother accountable for bringing him into the household. She needs therapy to help her let go of this, because the opportunity to rat him out is gone. Could she let everyone know about it now? Sure, but, as she already senses, everyone’s gonna come down on her and criticize her and accuse her of making it all up, like, “Well if it were true, you would have already said so a long time ago,” which is stupid but, as she knows, that’s the kind of reaction she’d get. She’s already gone through these scenarios in her head so…

Me: Yeah, plus he’s dead now, and some people my think it’s disrespectful to come down on a dead guy who can’t defend himself, you know, “How could you do this to a dead man,” that sort of thing. It’s a stigma, I guess.

Erik: Right. So her angels are recommending she go for therapy and stick with it until she can let go of the guilt and anger. She feels as much if not more anger for herself. And then what she needs to do is tell her mother. She needs to tell her mother.

Me: Okay.

Erik: But they recommend she wait until she’s done with the therapy so she’s healed and will be able to sit down and rationally talk to her mother about it. That way, the conversation will be more productive. I’m hearing it’s unlikely her mom will believe her, and that might cause a rift between them.

Me: Well then, maybe she shouldn’t!

Erik: Whether or not her mom accepts it, it happened, and she needs to know.

Me: Yeah, I guess so. So what’s going on with Don in the afterlife? Does he have any messages?

Kim: It’s really interesting, Elisa. They’re showing me this queue. In other words, before we talk, it’s like the spiritual beings who believe they’re going to be called upon queue up according to the information you have sitting in front of you. So here’s Don. He’s just standing there very patiently, humbly, and he’s nodding and saying yes he did those things; yes he did. He says he was a pedophile and he says it wasn’t just Avery and the other daughter. He abused other children from the time he was an older teenager.

Me: Oh, horrible!

Kim: My Lord, he’s saying it’s one of the reasons he married Avery’s mother!

Me: Why?

Kim: To have access to her.

Me: Oh my goodness. So sad.

Kim: Wow, jeez. And I’ve heard that many times before but it’s always surprising.

Me: Is Karma going to take care of things, Erik?

Erik: Oh yes, but he’s in Heaven. He’s healing, relaxing, getting his second wind and he’s going to go back to the earthly plane. That’s when the payback happens. The consequences don’t happen here in Heaven. They happen on the earthly plane. He already has a life all planned out that he’s chosen to learn from. He’s going to be a girl and—oh wow—he’s gonna be born into a family in the area around Thailand in an desperately poor village. As a five year old little girl, he’s going to be sold for money by the parents and will be passed around as a sex slave.

Me: Oh my God!

Erik: And that will go on until, you know, abortion after abortion, this will continue until the girl’s in her mid-30s, and she’s going to die from a massive staph infection. So tell Avery that’s how Don’s gonna learn.

Kim: When we come to the earthly plane, sometimes we come as a perpetrator and sometimes we act as a victim, and that’s how we learn about sympathy, compassion, appropriate behavior toward others. That’s how we learn to play nice with the other kids. And those of us who are more compassionate and can put themselves in other people’s shoes have had lifetimes as victims already.

Me: Does he have any messages for Avery?

Erik: Yes. She might find this pretty interesting. He wants to thank her for being a partner for him. He doesn’t mean sexual partner. What he means is before both of them went into this lifetime as Donald and Avery, they agreed, here in Heaven, to enter into a lifetime where Avery would be his teacher, where he would abuse her and then she would rat him out and say, “Look what he did! He did this! He did this!” This would have given her mom a chance to rise to the occasion for her and would force Donald to admit and be accountable.

Me: Oh, I see!

Erik: And so, Avery chose not to do that, and that’s one of the reasons she’s so angry—because…

Me: She didn’t fulfill her life plan.

Erik: Right. Yeah.

Me: Okay, now let’s go on to the next person–oh wait, I forgot she has another question. Any advice on how to deal with her current relationship? They plan on moving into a house together soon, but she feels like he isn’t all that interested in her.

Erik: This is NOT her guy! Instead of drifting toward all the bad boys like she used to do, Avery is drifting toward guys who are really nice, who are giving, who she can feel security with…she’s not in love with this guy! And he’s not in love with her! Her guides say she should break up with him now, because if she keeps seeing him, she’s going to be giving him mixed messages. Break it off now, then go into therapy. Get her therapy finished so that she feels balanced and centered, and then and only then will she draw the right guy into her life.

Me: That makes perfect sense. Now one more for Avery. Her godmother, also her aunt, passed away from a stroke at the age of 46. Her name was XXXX. Erik, she wants to know if you’ll contact her and tell her how much Avery loves her.

Kim: Erik is giving a little salute, like he’s got his index and middle finger out, and he’s giving a salute to say he will do that. She’s still in Heaven and oh, she is living the good life, so happy that tiresome, painful lifetime is over. She’s so glad she’s got that finished, completed, and under her belt. And she did just about everything she wanted to do in that lifetime as XXX, which is very unusual. Woo hoo! Any time Avery wants to speak to XXX, she’s be a wonderful confidant for her. She’d be positive, optimistic, joyful—sort of like a spiritual Auntie Mame. Avery can use all the positivity and optimism she can find, because she’s had a lot of people in her life who have been angry or secretive or sullen or reserved. Avery is someone who likes to touch others emotionally, physically and spiritually. She’s cozy and warm. She’s an amazing woman, and XXX is very much like her. The two of them are very much alike.

Avery’s Response

WOW Elisa! The overwhelming feelings that came over me reading this- just WOW.  How you must feel every time you connect with Erik!   Thank you for the quick synopsis, and I’ll write more later when I’m not at work.  LY xo