This story is so heartwarming for me, because, not only does it showcase a soul with a big heart, it also proves how casting a stone in the water can create infinite ripples of love, hope and positive changes.
Christian’s Question
I’m a counselor working with teenage boys very much like Erik who are in desperate need of healing. If the opportunity should become available, I’d be eternally grateful for anything that Erik could teach me about reaching these boys. Any new insights that would help me guide these young men, could have a lasting impact in many lives.
Sincerely,
Christian, age 40
XXXX, Iowa
The boys (ages 14-18) live in XXXX, Iowa
Channeling Transcript
Me: Next one. Christian from XXXX, Iowa. He’s 40 years old and works with young boys ages 14 through 18 in XXXX, Iowa. These kids are kind of like Erik, in desperate need of healing. Erik, can you help advise him on how best to reach these boys, any insights on how he can best guide them? Isn’t that a wonderful question to ask?
Kim: Absolutely. Very good questions, and what an amazing question for Erik. Okay, wow! I already got the information from him.
Erik: I think Christian should channel with the guides of each boy, and he’s totally capable of doing this. He’s highly evolved. That’s why he’s in this calling to begin with. All he needs to do is sit down with a notebook and a pen and mention the boy’s name, like Mike. He can say, “I wanna speak to Mike’s guardian angels.” And he can go through each boy and write down whatever he picks up, especially in the area of the boys’ life’s work—(with great emphasis)—what…they…are…there…to…do. By him sharing that with them, it’s going to give the boys a lot to look forward to, and it’s gonna get them on path. All the boys there are feeling like they’re chasing their tails, like they don’t know who they are. All of they’re lives, they’ve been told what they’re not or that they aren’t worth much. Some of the boys are upset, because they haven’t been treated with the respect they deserve. They’ve been surrounded by others who don’t see them for who and what they are. Christian can see all that, though. He can.
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Erik: So now, how can anybody see these boys for who and what they really are if they can’t; if they don’t know who and what they are?
Me: Yes, of course!
Erik: So Christian, needs to get the information from the guides and share that with each boy to let him know what he’s there to do and what his gifts are and then help him get into just that. It’s gonna make a huge difference. They should be gardening; they should be grooming animals; they should be starting businesses. And yeah, I do know how old they are, I know how old they are. They should be cooking in the kitchen there. And I think they’d really enjoy it if they had businesses where they make money. That would give them good self-worth and self-esteem and more confidence. Focusing on the past and all the abuse they’ve suffered through is not the complete answer for these boys. Most of them aren’t ready to confront that shit. Once they have the confidence and sense of worth they need, they’ll be in a better position to slay those dragons that fucked ’em up, but the foundation has to be built from within first. Also they need to figure out for themselves what their value is instead of someone telling them. No one can really tell a person how much they’re worth and make them believe it. They need to feel productive and useful. That’s how their confidence will grow. Actions speak louder than words, and in a few weeks or months, when they look behind them and see what they’ve accomplished, they’re gonna shit themselves. I mean that in a good way.
Me: Okay, wow, that just rings so true to me, Erik! I can see how kids that age don’t want to dwell on the past that’s still hard to confront. They need to find their own worth, their own destiny.
Erik: And that is the world according to Erik. Just my two cents, you know?
Kim: Very good idea, Erik. Excellent idea!
Christian’s Response
WOW! Thanks so much Elisa and Erik. I’m really gonna have to work on my channeling now. Crazy how the name Mike came up. One of the kids I work with is named Mike….ok that’s a common name but still. This definitely takes me in a new direction. We’ve spent a lot of time chasing our own tails trying to sort through all the past abuse and trauma.
These boys have been through some unimaginable horrors that would shock even the most hardened heart. Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse causes such tremendous damage to a young person. But maybe the focus should be on the rebuilding of lives and finding a new direction instead of healing old wounds. The healing will come with time. I can definitely see them buying into what others have told them that they’re worthless and deserve to be abused. This all fits in with prevailing winds that our focus should be more strength based and building self-esteem. Focusing on the “bad” things they do may just reinforce in their minds that they are “bad”. Helping them find their life’s work…now that’s a tall order. That took me years to figure out for myself, so I’m gonna have to put some thought into how to facilitate that for them. I’m so profoundly grateful for you and Erik taking the time to help me help these boys. I’ll go straight away to implementing Erik’s ideas. Some time ago I prayed for wisdom and now I think it’s coming through in spades. This has been a tremendous help and Erik’s little “two cents” is worth far far more. If I can make these boys feel good about themselves, I’ll say my friend Erik showed me the way. Now that’s a love wave to be proud of. You must be so proud that your boy is helping so many people.
Deepest affection,
Christian
P.S.: Also some validation of Erik’s ideas. I work with a very special young man who is just completing our program after 2 years. We been able to work through most of his biggest issues stemming from massive childhood trauma. Most notably being repeatedly raped by XXXX then abused in XXXX. We’ve been stuck at an impasse the last six months however and haven’t made much headway in getting him completely where he needs to be. He continues to have run-ins with authority figures who attempt to correct him for poor choices. He then becomes defensive, angry, and verbally abusive. I had an incredible session with him today using Erik’s ideas. Seems these interactions are replays of interactions with his XXXX where he feels worthless and unloved. On the outside he appears confident, but he really still buys into this notion that he’s garbage and deserved to be abused. He needed me to validate and remind him that he’s a good person with a big heart. I had him repeat it to himself several times. He really is a good guy with a huge heart. I’ve never met such a loving kid. Tears were shed and I think great progress has been made. He seemed much happier and confident afterward. So Erik totally gets credit for this one. He made a big impact today and I can’t wait to implement it with the other boys.
Christian
