Before I post this, the last entry of the day, I’d like to share the wealth: While I was lying down in my bedroom with my grand daughter watching a Baby Boost DVD with her for the 1,576th time, a distinct aroma wafted through the air, finding a home in my unwitting nostrils. It was the unmistakably noxious scent of Erik’s nasty socks…like the ones that stayed so long on his feet, they’d have to be surgically removed with a pair of 10-foot forceps. Ugh. Funny, before Erik died, I’d do anything to barricade that smell from within 100 yards of my body. But today, I inhaled deeply through my nose as if to assess the bouquet of a fine Cabernet. I couldn’t get enough of it, nearly passing out from the deep, repetitive inhalations and exhalations. Once my olfactory receptors were too overloaded and numb to continue their dubious calling, I thanked him sincerely for the gift.

And now for Julie’s story:

Julie’s Question

Elisa,

I just discovered your blog and your work with Erik and Kim through your article at Huffington Post. I am anxious for guidance. Beginning in January 2006, as if it was meant to be, I found myself back in touch with a friend–just as he was about to begin his second deployment to Iraq. We shared a great deal during his months at war and after. Then, last October, we had a very emotional conversation. Since then, I have only heard from him once, months ago now. I feel a great loss. I learned so much for myself with him, about love, fear, grief. These past months, I keep losing my balance in confusion and grief. Can Erik offer me any guidance on how to understand what is meant to be now?

Thank you so much,

Julie

My Response

My Dear Julie,

I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now, and I’ll do whatever it takes to help you. Do you believe or know that your friend is deceased? All I need for the medium is your approximate age and the city you live in. If you want to know about your friend, I need to know his first name and age, and the city he lives in or, if he has passed, what city he was in. This helps Erik and Kim locate him faster, I guess. Also, if you could give me 2-3 specific questions, that would help prevent us from getting generalized information. I have channeling sessions with Kim once a month, my next one is mid July. If you go to the home page of the blog and sign up for email notification, you’ll find out the minute your answers get posted. I will also contact you directly right after the session to paraphrase what he said because it takes a few days for me to get the recording of the session from her, then a week or so to type up the transcript and post everything.

Erik and I are here for you, Sweetie.

xoxoxo

Elisa (and Erik)

Julie’s Response

Dear Elisa,

I’m so glad to hear from you, and so grateful to you and Erik..

I am 51 and live in Geneva, FL near Orlando. My friend’s name is Jerry and he is 38. His current home base is Los Angeles.  I can’t be sure where he is right now, but I know he is alive. The last time I know he was in combat was last August; but, there could have been missions since I last spoke to him in October 2009. He was last in touch with me at the beginning of this January.

As I’ve tried to make peace with Jerry’s choice to be silent and out of touch these past months, I think these questions represent the uncertainties that haunt me:

1) How should I understand Jerry’s choice to cut off our connection these past months?  What truth is at the heart of this sad outcome?

2) Should I accept that Jerry and I have shared what we were destined to share in this lifetime and are now going our separate ways? Or, can I hope for and expect healing and reunion for us?

3) For me: If I am to both bring the love and happiness of an intimate relationship into my life again and fulfill my life purpose:  What should I keep in mind and what actions are the most important to attend to in the days ahead?

Jerry and I do not have an easily predictable history. I want you and Erik to know that Jerry and I met over 20 years ago in roles as student and teacher. We had some contact, now and then, in the years after we finished our primary work together in those roles. In 2006, we reunited after years apart–aided by a push from my intuition and the wonders of Google searches–and now he was the soldier at war, and I was his lifeline.  He has survived great stress, personal loss, and danger; he has witnessed war’s horrors.  I have tried to be there to give him love and hope and support while he did his duty as a soldier and kept the dream of life after the Army alive. Now, after so much, we seem to have lost each other.  I thought our bond was too strong for that. I thought we had the power of Love sustaining us, guiding us through.

I appreciate your kindness and support so very much.

Thank you,

Julie

Channeling Transcript

Me: Okay, Erik, ready for another one?

Erik: Yep.

Me: This next question is from Julie. She’s 51 and lives in Geneva Florida, She has a friend, Jerry, who is 38. He’s a soldier, but his home base is in Los Angeles. They’ve been friends for a while then got back in touch with one another in 2006. During those months, they shared a great deal about his months at war and then afterwards. Then last October they had some sort of emotional conversation, and since then she’s only heard form his once. She feels such great loss, because she learned so much about love, fear, grief, etc. She wants to know how to interpret his going AWOL so to speak…then she also wants to know…

Erik (interrupting): First of all, the reason he came into her life was because they were supposed to be student and teacher for one another.

Me: Oh my gosh! That’s exactly what Julie said!

Erik: Yes, they were to be student and teacher for one another, so it’s great she’s aware of that. He was to teach her about…he was to demonstrate to her what a good teacher she is, because she’s a good listener. She’s very evolved; she’s someone who is very nonjudgmental; she has a wonderful sense of being able to pick up on people’s potential, but then she’s not judgmental about them when they make choices that don’t represent their level of enlightenment. She’s amazing! She’s here to be a teacher and a healer! She needs to write books. So Jerry was to learn from Julie about improving his self-worth and self-esteem, oh, and forgiveness, forgiveness! That a big one, forgiveness. Forgiving those who acted like assholes. And she helped him understand that what we experience on the earthly plane is by Divine Design. We draw to us what we need to learn from. And she helped him find his voice and share what he experienced. He’s never shared any of these things with anyone but Julie. For him to feel that level of intimacy and security with her was very healing for him. He was able to do a lot of healing just be talking to her about what his experiences were. And then there was also some forgiving that had to do with his growing up: his parents and people he knew in the military. He was able to accomplish a lot of healing with her, so once he learned all that he was going to learn from her, the relationship was to break apart again. He was to go his way, and she was to go her way. Julie is going to have a number of students in this lifetime that she’ll feel a soulmate connection with, but that doesn’t mean they’re supposed to be in her life long term. She needs to focus on what she needs to do for them while they’re in her life and not her expectations for what the future could be with them.

Me: Okay.

Kim: Sometimes we can have an intimate relationship with someone spiritually and emotionally for 15 minutes, and then we never see them again.

Me: Yeah, that’s true!

Erik: Okay, she has another question that she didn’t ask, but here it is. Should she try to contact him? No, no and Hell no! Let go of the relationship. She needs to ask her soul to stop mourning the loss of what she thought could have happened like that they would remain friends forever. And she was able to connect with him in a way that she hasn’t connected with other people, because they’re soulmates.

Me: Okay.

Erik: Julie is surrounded pretty much by students, and that’s why sometimes she feels lonely and that nobody can see her for who and what she is. Jerry could. But the universe wants to make best use of her gifts by surrounding her, this lifetime, with students she’s supposed to impact and help and teach and mentor.

Me: Okay, she also wants to know if she’s to find love again, what should she keep in mind?

Erik: The best thing she can do is develop her channeling abilities so that—and practice once a week for half an hour—so that when people come into her life, she knows why they’ve come in. Are they a student? Is this supposed to be a platonic friendship? Is this gonna be a romance? Are they a student? Is this a romantic learning experience? Or is this Mr. Right? She needs to figure these things out pretty quickly and not to expect more from the relationship than what’s meant to be.

Julie, I hope Erik, Kim, and your guides have shared information that will enrich and light up your path. As for all of my readers, thank you for your stories, your wisdom, your friendship and your love. We are all part of something big and beautiful, so let’s enjoy the ride together!

Julie’s Response

For a person to truly take in a message and accept it, there has to be trust.  You bring a spirit to this work that engenders trust; you set the stage for healing and learning. Now I have the gift of this message from Erik.  It is so laden with significant references to my experiences with Jerry, I have to trust all its content. Even more importantly, I have to trust in the potential we all have to be in touch with souls and guides who are available to us though they are not embodied with us.

My Response

Oh, Julie, I’m so happy this all helped you! I hold my breath each time, worried that the reader asking the questions will be disappointed, because your disappointment would be mine too.