I know this post is about the inner workings of the Universe, but I want to begin by clearing up some questions stirred up from a previous post. Do you all remember that controversial one awhile back about the abusers and the abused? Some of you wondered how that could possibly apply to children and infants. To freshen your memory and to help our newbies who have yet to slog through the archives, here is that post:

Me: Why do people choose to be the abused and the abuser including domestic violence, childhood abuse, sexual abuse, etc.?

Erik: Well, that can get into contract talks.

Me: Of course.

Erik: And it can get into what does each person involved need to take from it or what are they trying to express. Even signing up as the victim in your life, it’s still a form of expression. Most people think victim—

Jamie (laughing): That’s a funny image. All right. If you can imagine a magnetic board and there’s a magnet of a person, like a cartoon person and they’re the victim, right? So, all of the arrows of how the energy flows point at the person.

Me: Yes, that makes sense.

Erik: It’s all about them. They’re wronged; they were harmed; they were mmmmm! OH SHIT! This is such crap! It’s such fucking dirty smelly shit.

Jamie (stunned): Oh, my god!

Me: Erik!

Jamie: Now, he’s showing me an image of that magnetic wall. There’s an image of a cartoon character that’s the same, but 50% of those arrows are pointed outwards.

Me: Oh!

Erik: THAT, is how a victim is. You have to put out to allow yourself to be the victim so that you can receive that “I’m a victim” energy. You know it doesn’t have to be with sexual abuse, mental or emotional abuse. It could be with passive-aggressive techniques where you’re allowing yourself to be victimized by kindness and you constantly choose to sacrifice yourself to please this other person so that they can manipulate you, you know, and then you never feel good, and then all of a sudden you realize you’re being the victim. Well, 50% of it’s your fault, Buddy, because you didn’t stand up and say, “I’m done. This is how I really feel. I don’t like the way you’re touching, talking to me, or allowing me to behave or blah, blah, blah, whatever.”

Me: Okay.

Erik: When you sign up to be the abuser—

Jamie: It’s the same thing. He’s putting that magnet character on the wall, but this time the—I don’t know why—but when we identify the abuser, it’s kind of a more hefty person. I guess bigger, badder?

Erik: Baddass. Now if we told people to identify the abuser, they would put the arrows all facing outwards, because they define the abuser kind of like a tornado. They just kind of destroy everything in their path. They put out wind and damage and rain. Quote me as before: That’s stinky ass shit that’s totally fucking wrong. Take fifty percent of the arrows and face them toward the abuser.

Me: So, what do the arrows pointing toward the abuser really mean? Are they partially a victim? Is that what you’re saying? Could their past, their upbringing have made them a victim in some way?

Erik: Yes! The energy they’re getting from their surroundings is not standing up to them. It’s not telling them. It’s not treating them in the way that they need for them not to be the abuser.

Me: Interesting. What about children, though? How do they point those arrows—if they’re victims—how do they point the arrows back out?

Erik: Oh, we’ll sooo get there, but before we do that, look at each magnet. The arrows are the same. If I say, ‘Tell me the difference between them by just looking at the pattern’, you couldn’t. You can’t. The abused and the abuser are the same. They’re the same!

Me: Whoa.

Jamie (choking up a bit, then clearing her throat): That was eye-opening. I didn’t expect that.

Erik: But it’s how we use that energy pushing out and in. It’s how we manipulate it, how we use it, how we function, and to give us the title of what we feel is necessary for us. If we just had better communication, we wouldn’t have to have titles like abuser or abused, victim, blah-blah-blah. Now, we’ll look at children, especially infants, babies, toddlers. When I say children—kids really get a mouth at about age six or seven.

Me: You mean have a say?

Erik: Yes. They have their personality intact; they know what is right and wrong; and they’ve been taught by now to speak up. But between then and below, the energetic patterns they’re learning from is just with their parents, and normally a child will associate with one parent more than the other at any particular time. So, with the parent they’re associating with, they’re going to be mimicking that energy to try to learn. So yes, the protector needs to be with the teacher, the parent.

Jamie: I’m sorry. Did that make sense? Who’s the protector? (to Erik) What do you mean, protector?

(Pause)

Erik: The responsibility of that child’s safety from becoming abused or from becoming the abuser is in the hands of the parent.

Me: So, that’s the person who needs to advocate or speak up for the child who doesn’t yet have the voice.

Erik: Yes. It’s a shared responsibility.

Me: Okay. I understand.

So I asked Erik to clarify:

Me: Erik, People were a bit confused by one aspect of your abused/abuser relationship with the arrows in and the arrows out. The confusion had to do with the children’s responsibility in that whole relationship. Say a six year-old is molested. What’s his or her component in that? It’s not like he or she is asking for the abuse or anything! What’s their responsibility there? What’s the arrow out in that relationship?

Erik: Well, any part of a six year-old or—

(Pause)

Jamie: He’s using that seven-year mark.

Erik: It’s still the responsibility of the guardian.

Me: Okay.

Erik: Whoever the guardian is, any arrow out should be going through the guardian as well.

Me: Oh, I see. So, the arrow out is not just the child. I mean, even infants are abused. So, what you’re saying is that the arrow goes through the filter of the guardian? It’s not totally like, “Okay, you two month-old, you should have done something differently.”

Erik: Right. It would have been pretty much the guardian’s lesson, and then what would happen later as the child becomes an adult and can look in retrospect, there’s going to be lessons and learning—not how to be a better child, but how to be a better parent when it’s their turn.

Me: Oh!

Erik: And there’ll be lessons in forgiveness, too.

Me: Yeah. Very interesting, but what a rough road to learn that lesson.

So in essence, the arrows can go through filters and don’t have to operate in present time. I hope that brings clarity. And now for the main event:

Me: Okay, here’s a nice short one. How does the Universe really work?

All three of us laugh hysterically.

Me: Yeah, just give it to me in two or three sentences, Erik. That’s all we need. Plus, I have a lunch date, so make it snappy.

Jamie (giggling): In two sentences, how does the Universe really work?

Me: No, no! I’m just yanking your chain. Take all the time you need, guys.

Jamie: Erik’s just cracking up.

Me: I don’t even know where to start with this one, Erik. I was hoping you would. I think it’s a pretty fascinating question.

Erik: Just type down this. Type down: “Quantum physics holds hands with String Theory,” and just leave it at that.

Me: Whoa, you got that one in one sentence! Good job. Pretty damn good, Erik.

Jamie giggles wildly.

Me: The Usan Bolt of the spirit world.

Jamie: He’s laughing. He’s pulling his shirt off his chest like he’s a bad ass, like, “Wow, it’s so hot in here.”

Me: Have you built any muscles since you’ve been there, Erik? When you take off your shirt, can Jamie see a six-pack?

Jamie (laughing): He pulled his shirt out and looked down the neckline and looked back at me and went, “Uh. No.”

Me: Aw, you were a skinny little dude. Still are I guess.

Jamie laughs.

Erik: If I got ripped, nobody would know who I was.

I bet you all are wondering what the hell being ripped, Usan Bolt and six-packs have to do with the underpinnings of the Universe. Well, I’d sure like to know, too.

Me: But you could fake being ripped, couldn’t you?

Erik (chuckling): Yes. I still have the strength.

Me: Yes, you were always much stronger than you looked.

Jamie: He is SO posing. Showing off muscles that aren’t there.

Me: Aw. So I guess that’s it? No more about how the Universe works?

Erik: That’s it. That’s how it works. That’s the basics, anyway. You’d have to be a quantum physicist in the future to truly know and we’re not there yet in terms of Earthly time.

Me: Damn, talk about leaving a girl hanging. So, really, this post is more about Erik’s muscles.

Erik: Yep.

Me: Well, that’s a lot more fun.

Erik: Agreed.

Me: Braggart. And your bragging about something that’s not even there!

Erik laughs boisterously.

I feel so empty inside. Sigh. Sorry guys. On a side note, Jen and Sean, the hosts for Jamie’s upcoming national radio show, wanted me to see if you had any questions they could ask Erik during their interview with Erik/Jamie on December 11th. I’ll keep you informed of the details as the date approaches so that you can hear your question asked and answered!