John’s Question
Hello Elisa and thank you and Erik so much for this wonderful blog. I’ve read every word so far and many times have been moved to tears. I feel like I’ve been directed here for a reason. I too feel transitional. Although I’m in my late 50′s and have had a fairly good career, at this juncture in my life I just feel lost. Reading Erik’s response to Olivia has been an inspiration. I would like to pose a few questions to Erik but can’t find the “Ask Erik” link . Has that been removed and in future will you be taking more questions for Erik? Once again thank you for all that you’re doing.
I was born and raised in St. Joseph, Michigan, but now live in San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Mexico. I have a few questions regarding my father, Harold, who passed away at the age of 69. He was very abusive to me both physically and mentally leaving a tremendous amount of scars that are still trying to heal. I thought I had come to terms with all of that, but recently he has been visiting me in some very violent and distressing dreams, which just dredge up all of those horrible memories. My question is simply, why? Why the abuse, why the terror, and why can’t he just leave me in peace? On a happier note, my maternal grandmother, Julia, also from St Joseph, Michigan, was my protector, ally and friend. I want to know if she is one of my guides as I feel her presence often. Also just out of curiosity can you ask Eric if there is a universal language that is used on the other side. Sounds kind of silly but after struggling to learn Spanish, I don’t think I could deal with trying to learn another language, LOL! I forgot to mention the age of my maternal grandmother when she passed. She was 96. Both her and my father died in St Joseph, MI. And if you have time I would just like to know how my brother is dong. He lived and died, at the age of 30, in St Joseph, MI also.
John
Channeling Transcript
Me: This gentleman, John, lives in Mexico but was born and raised in Michigan. He’s in his late 50s. Uh, he, uh, wants to ask about his dad, Harold, who died at the age of 69. Apparently he was very abuse to John’s all of life. It’s caused a lot of mental and physical scars that he’s still trying to heal. Recently his dad has been visiting him in dreams, some of which have been very violent and distressing. His questions is: why? Why the abuse? Why can’t he just leave him in peace?
Erik: His father wants it resolved. His son, John, didn’t mend it. All he did was bury it with his death.
Me: Okay, so this is why he’s having those horrible dreams, so he’s forced to confront and deal with it?
Jamie: You could have said the guy was lovely and wonderful, but right when you mentioned John’s father, Erik said, “asshole.” He started laughing and sort of whispered it, “asshole”
Me: Oh no!
Jamie: Yeah, and Erik says he still behaves that way. He’s got that character that’s like arrgghh! He’s showing himself that way in the dreams and even when he’s present spiritually with his son, because it’s not learned. The lesson between them is not learned.
Erik: What ever was supposed to take place, you know, the lesson, didn’t, because after he died, the son was like, “Well, he’s gone, so it’s okay.”
Me: Well what’s the use if the guy is still an asshole?
Erik: That’s the trigger to help everything mend.
Me: Him being an asshole?
Jamie: Yes! Isn’t that horrible? I feel bad that the guy is stuck in that sort of pattern but…
Erik: Mom, tell the man to pull everything back from the past, to sit down and look at it from the wisdom of an older man.
Me: Okay. (pause) Maybe it’s like “Some people are assholes, and I’m not going to let it affect what I think about myself and who and what I am.” Is that the trigger? Is that the lesson?
Erik: You got it right, Mom.
Me: Okay. Also, he has a question about his maternal grandmother, Julia, who died in St. Joseph, Michigan at the age of 96. Is she one of John’s guides? He feels her presence often.
Jamie: Erik says, “Absolutely. She’s around him all the time.” Wait a minute. What do you mean, Erik?
(pause while Jamie listens to Erik)
Jamie: Oh, Erik says it’s because the grandmother won’t let any harm come to her grandson.
Erik: Well, yeah, but she’s also allowing the father to come in.
Me: What? Why? That doesn’t make sense!
Erik: That’s a sign that the father isn’t being harmful, but he can use anger and mean patterns to pull out a resolution. This is the way his dad is helping him learn to deal with that, so John can learn that another person’s behavior, you know, the way they treat you and what they say about you, isn’t really an absolute. You get the idea of who and what you are from the inside, not the outside.
Me: Interesting. (pause) Oh, and he wants to ask about his brother. He died in St. Joseph, Michigan too, and was around 30. His name…oh, wait a minute. Dang, I guess I didn’t get his name.
Erik: Wait, Mom. And it’s also about forgiveness. It’s hard to forgive. But we shouldn’t even judge each other anyway. Once we learn to not judge there’s really no need to forgive. Anyway, about the brother, they don’t stay in contact. The brother is fine. Don’t worry. I don’t need his name. He’s actually out looking after his family.
Me: His spiritual family in the afterlife or the family he left behind?
Erik: The family he left behind.
Erik: Oh, got it.
I believe the lessons from John’s reading will reach the hearts of many. We all struggle to define ourselves, our sense of worth. Our first clues come from our parents. Later, we rely on the opinions of our peers. Eventually, we internalize all or part of these external assessments. But since we are from God, all connected, all parts of one another, we are truly perfect and divine. We must learn to see that for ourselves through the all-knowing eyes of the Higher Self. And we must learn to see every other being in that same way: saint and sinner, homeless “derelict” and loving mother, disabled child and scholar. We are all beings on a road littered with imperfection trying to discover our own perfection and beauty.
