And now for the next question presented to Erik through psychic medium, Kim O’Neill. Please note that I’ve obscured the last name for privacy issues.

Tom’s “Ask Erik” submission:

Hi Elisa,

Stanley is a friend of mine and back in February, he emailed me a link to your blog here. At the time I thought it was an odd thing to email, and I even asked him why he sent it, and he really didn’t know other than he got it and upon checking it out, liked what he saw, and passed it along. I’m sorry for the loss of your son, and as you said, and I have known for quite a while, no parent should have to bury their own child, but sadly it does happen, one way or another.

Sadly, I learned the reason that Stanley sent me your link. One of my younger cousins died in a tragic and horrific car collision earlier and my family is really devastated with the loss. I have emailed Stanley about possibly contacting you, and he said go for it, but I really don’t know where to start, there are so many questions. Also, I know your time with Kim is limited, and I don’t want to take away or interfere with the interaction with Erik, but I have a bad feeling about what happened with my Cousin and I guess I just need to know if he is OK, or as ok as can be expected in these things, and the ever present ‘why’. I have others on the other side that I would like to chat with, if not to just say ‘HI’, and do some catching up with, people I miss a lot. What is it that you need, or how can I format stuff to be as efficient and effective as possible?

I really, really hate asking all this (it must be a guy thing)  and  it is amazing how you are kind enough and strong enough to be able to share all this on-line. As time passes I hope that maybe I can work with my Cousin directly, and not depend on a ‘middle man.’ I have had some confirmations and dreams and other activities through my life, so  I guess I can ‘channel’ if I get out of my own way. It’s just one of those things though that once you turn it on it cannot be shut off. I guess fear of the unknown is at the heart of that.

Thank you for your blog, and your time and showing your readers what unconditional love and acceptance really are, I wish there was more, a LOT more of it in this world we inhabit.

Thank you for yours and Erik’s time =)

Tom

Channeling session:

Me: Here’s a question from Tom XXXXXX. His cousin, Jim XXXXXX, Jr. lived in Santa Monica, California. He passed away when he was 48 years old. Erik, can you find him and if so, is he okay?

Erik: He saw it coming It was very painful but very fast.

Me (sarcastically): Oh, great! (I was really worried about revealing this to his family.)

Erik: He experienced the crash and his soul popped out of the body after 7 to 10 seconds, But that was an awful long time. His body was devastated. There was no way anyone could have resuscitated him. But Mom, tell Tom that it was his destiny to pass that way.

Me (in disbelief): He had to hurt like that? Why didn’t he leave the body the moment he saw death was imminent?

Erik: Well, you know some people choose cancer to suffer from. We choose issues that present us with the adversity we need to expand and become more enlightened. Like we can choose to suffer pain before or at the time of death. It’s personal preference.

Me: Well why on earth would Jim choose to suffer 7 to 10 seconds of pain?

Erik: Oh, because he never passed away like that before in any of his past lifetimes, and he never has to come back now. Jimmy, Jimbo had a very busy, eventful life. To say it was “eventful” is putting it mildly. He wanted to get a whole bunch of issues worked through in one lifetime so he’d never have to come back, and by God, that’s just what he did. He never has to return to the earthly plane, and now he can work as a guardian angel for others. The XXXXXXX family members are going to find this really funny, because he was always like the maverick, someone who had a great sense of humor, was mellow. If anyone was gonna say something like, “Hey Dude, what’s up,” it was gonna be Jimmy, Jimbo. So he thinks others would find it kind of amusing that he was going to be a guardian angel, but he’ll be an awesome one.

Me: Was anybody there to greet him in Heaven, or did he have to figure things out on his own?

Erik: Oh, he was there to get the party started! Once his soul popped out of his body and he looked down, his reaction was, “Shit!” He always knew deep down that he wasn’t going to live to an old age. He had mentioned that to a number of people throughout his life. He knew he’d never live to be old. He says he lived longer than he ever thought he would! He was like, “Wow, shit! All of my earthly experiences are over now!” Then he felt this magnetic pull and he found himself at this fantastic party. It was outside on a boat. The girls were all in bathing suits and he had a captain’s hat on and he was walking around on the boat with a drink in his hand and everybody was there to greet him.  He says, “Wow it was some party! It was a real shindig that lasted for weeks!”

Tom’s response:

Hi Elisa,

Thank you for the email!  I’m sorry I missed your earlier email before the session with Kim, I wasn’t expecting anything till later, so I wasn’t checking. I guess that will teach me to be more watchful….just in case.

Thank you again VERY much!! Much of this does make sense, something told me that this was supposed to happen, but I wasn’t sure if he was able to come back (or want to be back.) I guess I just needed confirmation.  It’s still sad either way. Jim was an easy-going guy and more like a friend than a relative, which is kind of rare and odd. We got along well and had a lot in common. I’m  just really sad he’s gone. It’s nice to hear that he is happy where he is. I’ll look for a visitation from him someday. I have had those before and, as odd an experience as they are, it leaves you with a wonderful feeling of peace and happiness.

Anyways, I’ll wait for your next mail and thank you SO much for doing this. Do I owe you anything for the access to Erik for the time? I should probably schedule an appointment with Kim, unless there is someone reputable here in the Los Angeles area, or maybe it doesn’t matter…….I’m rambling again.

Thanks for taking the time on this for me. It is greatly appreciated, and if there is anything in there I can pass along to his family I’ll

do so =D

{{{{{{{{{HUGS!!!!}}}}}

Tom

My response:

You are most welcome, Tom. I’ll post the actual transcript when I receive the CD. Of course you don’t owe me anything! Please understand that this is as healing for me as it is for you. Helping others is quite healing, and giving Erik a chance to achieve something meaningful in “life,” to find fulfillment…well, that’s any mother’s dream.

I could use a party like that right now. I hope this helps Tom and his family understand that death, painful or otherwise, is a rebirth of sorts…a spiritual opportunity, a voyage home.