This next story is about a woman who sacrificed much in her life to care for her ailing parents. It just goes to show you that no good deed goes unpunished (at least here on the earthly plane.)

Donna’s Questions

Elisa,

When my Mother became ill with vascular dementia I quit work to help Daddy take care of her. I have two sisters (the oldest lives out of town) and my middle sister had a daughter in college and I felt my family was in the best position to help Mother and Daddy. Shortly after my Mother passed away my middle sister confronted me about numerous things she had been upset with me doing and we have not spoken since. Daddy’s health started to decline, I was left totally responsible for his care. I had to make many decisions concerning his care and I hope I made the right ones. I would like to know if they feel I did everything the way they would have wanted me to. Also, I would like to know what my Mother thinks I should do about my sister, I just can’t believe my life will end without both my sisters being part of it.  Both my parents were only children, so we have no extended family. We were always a close family and I don’t think this would have ever happened with Mother alive, Daddy just didn’t know what to do. I have tried to reach out to my sister but she does not want to resolve anything. She has also quit communicating with my oldest sister.

I am sorry this is long, just be thankful I didn’t go into deep detail I could have made this pages long!!!!

Thank you so much for anything you can find out.

My parents:

Jack (89) and Durstyne (83)

Burleson, Texas

My name:

Donna (60)

Burleson, Texas

Donna

Channeling Transcript

Me: Okay, Sweetie. Here’s the next person. Her name is Donna. She’s around 60 and lives in Burleson, Texas. Her father, Jack, died at the age of 89 and her mother, Durstyne, died at the age of 83, both also in Burleson. Uh, anyway, her mom got sick with dementia, so Donna had to quit work to help her dad take care of her. Now one of Donna’s sisters lives in the same town, and her middle sister had a kid in college, so Donna felt she and her family were in a better position to help the parents out. But then, after the mom passed away, that middle sister confronted Donna about some of the decisions she made, and they haven’t spoken since. When her dad’s health started to worsen, Donna was left totally responsible for his care. Naturally, she had to make many decisions in that area, and she’s hoping she did everything her dad would have wanted her to do. So, Donna wants to know if her parents think she did everything the way they would have wanted.

Jamie: The father, Jack, is here. Erik brought him forward. He’s speaking. He says, “Please don’t worry about this!”

Erik: He says, “Your sister is jealous and mad cuz she wasn’t capable of caring for us.” He says, “You made all the right choices, especially with me.”

Erik and Jamie chuckle quietly.

Jamie: He touches his chest and smiles. He’s got this, um, great big broad smile, you know that spreads across the whole face.

Me: Yeah.

Erik: He says, “I never felt uncomfortable with anything you chose. Now, Mother was a bit of a fighter and not easy to get along with as she got older.”

Me: Okay.

Erik: He says, “You’d make one choice for her, and she’d say it was okay, but then would want something different.”

Me: Oh, no!

Erik: But then he says, “You helped me care for her. I was the one to make the final decisions.”

Me: I see.

Erik: The sister was just mad cuz she wasn’t consulted by Jack about those final decisions. She got jealous, kinda like sibling rivalry, like Jack consulted with Donna and not her, so she thought maybe Donna was Daddy’s favorite.

Me: Wow! So sibling rivalry dies hard!

Erik: Yeah, so now that Jack is no longer there on the earthly plane, she feels it’s okay to stir up the shit.

Me: Okay, so Donna has tried to reach out to her sister, but it’s not working. Now she won’t even communicate with the older sister. Um, I’m talking about the middle sister…she’s not talking to the eldest. The middle sister is Karla, 62, and the older sister is Jackie, 66.

Erik: Jack says, “Do NOT stop communication with the sister who has removed herself from the family. Only send letters by post for special holidays and occasions. Say nothing more or less in the letter than you need to. But for you to close off all lines of communication with Jackie and Karla—it would hurt their heart too much.”

Me: Awww.

Erik: “They would have too much ‘why,’ and ‘how can I fix this?’ and ‘what can I do?’

Me: Yeah, okay.

Erik: And he says, “The only thing you can do is be kind. Be kind in a way that she can’t dispute you, and that would be by post.”

Jamie and Erik laugh hard.

Me (chuckling): Yeah, that’s true! That’s funny. It’s not easy to argue back and forth with snail mail like it is by email on telephone!

Erik: I can tell in his day Jack was a planner. That’s what I’m getting.

Me: Okay. So, any messages from the mama or is she not there?

Jamie: No, she’s not here right now.

Me: Oh, okay. So if they’re reincarnated, can you not get information from them?

Jamie: Oh, no, you can definitely still get information!

Me: Oh, good. Well, Erik, maybe you can find Durstyne and get her to send a message to Donna or bring her in a dream or something.

Erik: Yeah, I can do that, sure.

Me: Okay, thanks, Baby.

Donna’s Response

Thank you so much!  I can’t express what this means to me.  I guess Daddy wanted to talk because Mother never knew that Karla got mad at me, it all happened after Mother died.  Jackie and I still maintain a relationship.  I can just hear Daddy saying these words.  I wonder what Erik means that Daddy was a planner.  I look forward to reading the transcript, but just what you have passed on from Erik and Daddy makes me feel better.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Donna